MEN.......Grrrrrrr......Some ADVICE

[Ralli]

Hey guys. Well it has been a few days since I have been on here, but have noticed that I am not the only one who has been "missing in action" heehee. looks like it has been a bit quiet on the forum front.
OKay need some help.
The other day, ACTUALLY IT WAS THE NIGHT BEFORE VALENTINES DAY, the other half accused me of cheating on him, and sleeping around with some other bloke that i work with. This "other man" likes me, heaven forbid that some other guy would think that i am attractive and all, but he does right. so someone from work, saw the other half out and told him that i was sleeping with this other person from work. now my partner doesnt even KNOW this person who spread lies. Anywhoo, i can tell you that my valentines day was a bit rough, but in the end it worked out okay.
Tonight, he has gone out crusing. my partner that is, and has gone to pick up another chick from her house. i know this chick and i know what she is cabable of. he has been talking to her quite a bit on msn, and it annoys me as she is supposed to be my friend too, however NEVER talks to me. Is she moving in onto my turf?? should i be worried or jealous. He says that he has no interest in her whatsoever, and i believe him, but i dont think he gets it. I mean he was quick to believe someone who he doesnt even know, over me who he DOES know. This "chick" that he is going to pick up used to go out cruising, but recently broke up with her boyfriend. the thing that i am annoyed at is the fact that he will pick her up, and me, well he never takes out with him. okay so we have a baby, but my mum is more than willing to look after the little one whenever. It sometimes feels like he is embarressed to be seen out in public with me, but is willing to go and pick up someone else. who mind you he hasnt had an association with in the past, and all of a sudden does now. I have seen her hurt guys, and mess with their heads, and come between friends, and shit, okay so i think that she is a total SLUT.
HELP ME CHICKIES, am i just being paranoid, or do I have every right to feel the way I am feeling right now.
Now that this is REALLY long, your input, advice, comments would really be appreciative.
*hugs*
Ciao Ciao
~Ralli~

[speediva]

Wow, that's some rough times right there... :o I know I tend to get jealous, but then most of the time it is for no reason whatsoever. On the other hand, you do seem to know what kind of person this girl is.

Other than picking this girl up to go out, does he show any other signs of anything bad? I think at this point, just ride it out a little bit. Maybe he's trying to get back at you for making him think things??? I really don't know, but the best of luck to you in figuring this out.

[Ralli]

Thanks......I dunno what to think...it is all too weird. thanks anyways.

[RedY2KCivic]

I have to agree, since you do know the sort of 'reputation' this girl has, your suspicion is probably justified. Have you talked to him about her? I know that I would probably feel the same way, but I am a pretty jealous person :o
I think you should talk to him and see how he reacts to it. Tell him how it makes you feel to know that he's taking some girl out when he doesn't even take you. See if he's open to talk about it, or if he gets defensive about it. I hate to say, but a lot of times when guys think they are being cheated on, they take the most stupid immature route, and instead of talking it out like they should, they think that they have to "get back" at whoever and retaliate by doing the same thing. Guys are stupid in that sense. And I'm not saying that is what's happening, I'm just saying what the majority of guys are like.
I think that your best bet would to just try to sit him down and talk it out. I'm sure that you know him well enough to know when he's lying, and as long as you set aside some quiet time where you (and he) won't have any distractions, and just look him in the eyes and talk to him about it, you will find out the real truth.
Good luck with that, keep us updated.

[T x 2]

Hey there, I dont get to come into this forum very often but reading this brings back memorys... bad ones....

From my experience guys like that only accuse us girls of such terrible things cause they are doing the wrong thing. Im not judging your man just telling you from my experience... I have 1 daughter, I was with my daughters father for 5 years... 3 years of the relationship he was cheating with another woman. I gave my man everything.. he was my world, the thanks I got was a punch in the head and then he'd go out weeks on end before coming home... He never took me anywhere, I'd have to say that I know I am not and ugly woman, I get enough compliment to assure me of that and this woman he was cheating on I am sorry to say wasnt the nicest looking girl, I used to wonder to myself, does he get embarrased to be seen with me. but I dont even think that came into it.... I couldnt even talk to him... 2 years it took me to leave him, I havent looked back since... I am happier now than I have ever been.

You are in a real terrible situation, The only advise I can give you on this one is, sometimes it is better to go with your head not your heart.

[infinIC]

It's been a while since you first posted the story, so hope everything has all worked out well. If the problem still exists, I would advise against acting like a crazy jealous bitch. The last thing you want is to drive your guy away into the arms of antoher who seems just a little all to perfect for now. The truth is, if someone will cheat on you, it doesn't matter how many leashes you got on them, they'll cheat on you. So just try and be the better, mroe calm, more interesting person to be with.

like I said, hope eveyrthign works out ok for your family.