Girl Next Door (long read)

[thecackster]

So I'm assuming that you all have seen the movie, if not your not going to have a clue as to what I'm talking about. I've found myself in a similar situation but it being an ex, but still a friend. I was totally clueless until I got one of those stupid things on myspace, but this one seemed familiar so I opened the profile. There was a name in the bottom right corner of the photo, so I googled it, and it was a pornographic website, pay only whatever... I didn't go further but I just shrugged it off and figured she looked like her. A few days go by I get more trash requests and then another from a different name but same girl's photo with the name...I noticed a necklace she was wearing, the same one my friend has, so now i'm thinking its not just a coincidence, so I look into more similarities and the mole on her shoulder is the same.... It has to be her. Now I don't know how to approach this. I don't want stupid responses from you guys, I am looking for a mature way to go about this or should I just forget about it. It kinda disappoints me, and makes me sad, but I am just lost on how to handle it.... so please give your input and don't be immature. Thanks

[Toksin]

Just ask her and explain how why.

[jon@af]

Basically building on what Dave just said, if you're disappointed in something that might be true, as Dave mentioned, ask and find out for sure. I'm sure she would agree that it is better to ask about something difficult in the first place than to just assume it is her and run the risk of being wrong.

Sometimes the things we feel compelled to do the most are the hardest things to actually do. Good luck.

[thecackster]

Thanks. I figure I'm going to just ask I just didn't want to seem insensitive or anything. Thanks guys

[Damien]

Be casual. Maybe not blatantly ask her but more like, hey, I got this request on myspace and...blah blah blah.

[thecackster]

yea and I don't want it to look like I was looking at porn, ha. and I don't really know what her life was like between when she moved away and found me on myspace again (the real her). so I don't want to seem high and mighty and all that, haha.

[GForce957]

Ah! A similar thing happened to me, I know a girl, havent talked to her in a few months and then I come across a picture of her on a website that is slightly more then bad, and it happened when she was in one of those awkward in between stages of getting with her ex. Don't really have a good way of asking if it is really her, nor do I really want a confirmation, so I just had some friends confirm it, laughed and moved on.

For me it depends on how well you know the girl, with mine, I don't know her all that well so I'm not going to bring it up, but if she was a good friend I would try and find out what happened.