Whats the deal with rejection?

[Rich]

I personally have a hard time dealing with rejection. I am just wondering if I am some sort of freak or if others have the same problem ,and if so how do you guys / gals deal with it or get over it?:shocked:

Thanks

[Racing Rice]

Originally posted by HuMMerMan
I personally have a hard time dealing with rejection. I am just wondering if I am some sort of freak or if others have the same problem ,and if so how do you guys / gals deal with it or get over it?:shocked:

Thanks

Exacly what do you mean by rejection? By women? From social events?

I dont really care if anyone accepts me, for me. Thats their problem not mine.

[MercCougarXR7]

Well, with women I'm so scared of being rejected that I don't even ask. It took me 2 months to ask this girl I worked with for the summer out on a date. She said no, but I had nothing to lose because I asked her on her last day at work. But, it still hurt. Oh well, life goes on, as there are more fish in the pond...

[92BlackLT-1]

Since I am an old guy perhaps my advice has some wisdom in it.

Nobody likes rejection and it really hurts. Even if a person is "popular" I am sure they get told NO also.

I used to say that I did not care. I think saying that is natural and helps us survive the incident.

I notice that when I took up jogging my feelings, attitude and success changed for the better. There is something about that feeling of working out that makes you feel confident. I think this radiates out of a person as body language and general confidence.

Of course any kind of exercise would work I think, it's just that jogging was "in" back then and I liked it anyway.

Try it. It's free.

Also just keep busy.

[Hudson]

Rejection is part of growing up. While you may risk being rejected if you ask a person out, if you don't take a few risks, you gain nothing.

I've been turned down by more people than I care to count. I've also taken out more people than I ever would have imagined in my early dating years.

If you're "popular," you may get rejected one time out of ten. If you're not so popular (count me in), you may get rejected nine times out of ten...but that one acceptance is usually worth all the rejection before it.

As the saying goes, "you've got to kiss a lot of frogs..."

[Rich]

Thanks for all the replys!
And yes, Racing Rice, I ment rejection by women.
And I very much agree with 92BlackLT-1, I often say that I don't care but I know thats just lying to myself, because I do care (a bit), and I think everyone does (to a certain extent)

I guess ur right, keeping busy is the best way to take the mind off of it.

Thanks again.

[Racing Rice]

I learned a long time ago that rejection is bound to happen.. To some more then others. Just remember dont let it discourage you, if you do then you may miss out on something big. You will never know unless you try. Dont be afraid to get shot down, if you do oh well it wasnt meant to be anyway. If a you get shot down you have to tell yourself, it wouldnt have worked out anyway. NEVER GIVE UP!!

Remember just be yourself, dont try to put on an act, you want the person to like you for who you are not who you act like. Cause if the truth comes out and they dont like it... You will hurt yourself bad.

[Porsche]

Thing is for me, there's this girl I like and I'm afraid of rejection cause we've been freinds since we were little and then it really hurts, also her locker is next to mine so I'll have to feel that rejection every damn day!

[Jay!]

Originally posted by Porsche
Thing is for me, there's this girl I like and I'm afraid of rejection cause we've been freinds since we were little and then it really hurts, also her locker is next to mine so I'll have to feel that rejection every damn day!

Some relationships evolve into something more, some don't. There were a couple of girls that I wanted to have a romantic relationsip with, but didn't try because I was worried about the friendship. Eventually she just knows, and you know she knows, but you still won't say anything... In both cases for me, we ended up abandoning the friendships because they became totally awkward. I always kinda wish I'd done something in the first place, just to let it play out. It probably would have ended up better than keeping everything inside, but who knows? It's all "What ifs?" now. In any case, I'd recommend telling her you like her. If she doesn't feel the same, oh well, at least you won't wonder later. And if she doesn't want to be friends after that, then she, as a friend, isn't very interested in your feelings...

Hope that all makes sense... :flash:

[Porsche]

Thanks, that helps a lot.

[Heep]

Go boy go!! I'm rootin' for ya...

[Porsche]

I'll keep you updated on Monday!

[GOD]

Rejection is probably one of the worse things in life . I know for a fact that I missed out on alot of chances that I had but I was just too scared and now I kinda question myself and I'm ALWAYS wondering what could have been . You'll always look back and regret it b/c I know I did ,It's easier said than done to get tha balls to ask a girl out ...the only way I do it is if I know It's in tha bag , but besides that I'm just a little chicken . Just don't be like ME and ALWAYS wonder what could have happend . Good luck !

[S Brake]

rejection is an everyday occurence like eating sleeping and pooping. yes, some relationships evolve from just friends to lovers, but in my case it was the other way around. we both liked each other a lot and were always together. i hinted a few times that she should be my girlfriend but she just wasn't "ready" because we didn't really know each other all that well. now after a while things have died down and were good friends but it could still spark up into a romance at any time. so porsche, i suggest you sieze the day and tap that or you'll stay friends forever...

[Porsche]

I will, but I'm looking for the moment, I need to have everything just right, you know? I don't want to screw up, and I can never get her alone.