She's starting to play with my head again!

[Steel]

Yes....her ....the one i alwyas complained aobut. Well...she's coming onto me again...or does quietly grabbing my hand and holding it mean nothing these days?

Why must my poor soul be tortured like this? Tangie........heeeeeeelp

[mentalmickey]

hmm, sounds like a problem mate. i don't know who exactly you are refering to, but i had a similar problem. met this girl who after 2 months moved in with me against me wishes. spent the next 6 months trying to get rid of her, in the end i did but she still kept coming round even though i was with someone else. you need to tell her straight up and find out whats going on her twisted mind. well this one was completely twisted!

[YogsVR4]

Dont let her play you. You'll never get the time she sucks out of your life back.

[Jimster]

This person isn't imaginary is it????

[blatch]

if you don't like her... just be friends. if you like her, be more affectionate and touchy feely.

[speediva]

Steel, hon, I'm so here for ya cause I'm in a parallel boat!!!

My ex is now saying that it isn't "hooking up" if we're just friends who fool around... I so wanna tell him off, but his friendship means more to me than the world...

You've wanted her back for so long, but REALLY, and I do mean REALLY think about why. Was it just so you had someone to cuddle with and talk to? Or do you genuinely believe that whatever you had before is still in existence? What do you think she wants back? Is she bored--that sounds harsh, but I think you may understand it...

Infact, my ex could beg for me back, and I wouldn't do it at this point in my life. I learned to love him as a friend, not romantically, anymore. In the end, it's up to you, but you really gotta ask yourself a lot of questions if you want to keep your heart out of the blender this time!

[primera man]

You have got to move on with your life.....you are going to get taken for a ride if you dont do something about it

[DVSNCYNIKL]

Sorry Steel, but tell her to buzz off man. It's not worth going through the heart ache all over again.

[DantesInferno]

That's a tough situation. It's one thing to play with your mind, it's another to play with your heart. I would have to say that I would suggest sitting down and really asking yourself what you want. You should probably realize that unless you talk to her about what's going on in your head, her behavior will probably continue and repeat itself? Would the relationship with her be worth enough to put yourself through all of this?

Maybe you should also ask yourself what attracts you to her in the first place...

[Steel]

Welllll...for me, ill give a list of why im attracted to her
first, well, she's good looking, of course. She's really smart (May be going to the AFA). When we're with a group of friends, or comrades, she tries so hard to act like one of the guys, which is cool, cause i dont want her hanging off of me and being "defenseless" all the time. But when we're alone, she softens up. She really is funny. Her only problem, i would say is the way she just sorta...dumped me...without reason. That IS kind of a big problem. I told myself a few weeks ago that if i had the cahnce to go with her again, i wouldnt do it. I dont know what i was thinking! Now that the chance is coming back, my words are aobut as good as the air on the moon. I can think of the same situation with other girls that i know well, but it sint the same. I would have gotten over them a loooooong time ago. I havent even begun now, but...I don't know whether to laugh in joy, or cry in sorrow. Im torn two ways. I think she still likes me, for the aforementioned act, and also what she told to my buddy.

While i wasn't around during the weekend, my freind and her talked, about us, and what happened. He asked her why she did it, and she said so that she wouldn't hurt me. He said to her "what do you think you are doing now?" and according to him, she nearly burst into tears She probably meant with cheating on me. When she was drunk one time, her and my best friend made out. But i forgive her! i don't know if she'll ever accpt that, but i do! And yes, it hurt knowing that she did that, but it really does hurt more to know that she can't come to me, or i her with these things anymore. Maybe it was lack of communication. I don't know. Im too afraid to talk to her now, to ask her exactly what was with the weekend, for fear of messing up whatever is going good now. I guess this is what love was supposed to be. Im not the kind of person who just throws around that word with disregard to its true meaning. I only told her that after our relationship ended. I honestly can't really look at the other girls now. Sure i joke with my freinds, haha, so tehy dont think im gay, or even worse, a lovesick wuss but...i've had the chance with another very beautiful girl, some would say even moreso than Nina (i don't agree.) But i couldn't take it. I felt like i would be cheating. Don't ask me why becasue I dont know. I guess waht was going through my mind at the time was "well...perhaps we might get back together, but if i do this, then that'll ruin any chance." even tho i could have gotten anything from this other girl, that was what was going through my mind.

Im starting to ramble, my thoughts jumbled, i cant think straight anymore. Do i sound crazy to you guys?

Rust.

[mentalmickey]

been there done that. it's crazy so i would suggest remain friends. there's far more fish in the sea. i see beautiful women every day and i could have my pick if i made the effort. cheating on one another is not ok. i feel its not right, there's no commitment and just causes heartbreak. casual sex is ok but if it's someone you've had a previous relationship with (either steady or unsteady) i'd advise against casual stuff. so if you're ex starts acting touching feely and start confusing you, step aside, it's not worth it, even if she is a goddess. don't be taken for granted mate. not being horrible to women but both species can be really horrible to one another!

[HogieGT-R]

yeah man i'm feelin ya on that subject just don't do it's happened to me way too many times and i've come to the point where i don't fuckin care bout it no more....do what i do stay single and if you feel the urge, look at porn or something you'll fuck your self up nicely if she gets her way man

[Steel]

Originally posted by saturntangerine
...You've wanted her back for so long, but REALLY, and I do mean REALLY think about why. Was it just so you had someone to cuddle with and talk to? Or do you genuinely believe that whatever you had before is still in existence? What do you think she wants back...

well tangie, i think that the reason why she broke up in the first place was like i said, cause she was afraid of hurting me again. Perhaps the wrong way of going aobut it, but perhaps it shows that she cared enough, you know what i mean? it certainly is a tough situation, and i STILL haven't colled her. jeez, my heart beats at like 5 trillion bpm whenever i dial that number.

anyhoo, updates as they come.

[speediva]

steel: Just promise me you'll be careful. If she did it before, she has the ability to do it again... I'm not by any means saying she will, but it has already happened... Just watch yourself, okay?

[mentalmickey]

don't do it man. i think you should leave it. it's obviously affecting you so as regards to your mental and phsyical health, lets leave it. its not nice to feel this way, being strongly emotional as it seems. if i were you i would forget about it and start a clean slate. forget her. being single is a good thing as it means you can go out and meet people, chat up the laydies and not worry about 'her-indoors.' you'll feel better for it too. there millions of ladies out there. you'll never know, the next one you meet may be your mrs right!