what is a good marriage?

[darkness]

Originally posted by Spec2 Girl
Excuse me!! I hate to break it to you, but we’re not just on this planet to provide you with entertainment!

not really what I meant, sorry.

[Spec2 Girl]

Originally posted by darkness


not really what I meant, sorry.

Didn’t think it sounded like you. Wondered where it came from.

[Ssom]

I don't believe in marriage, perhaps if you are about 30ish then you can settle down, but when you are in your 20's and teens YOU MUST LIVE!!!!!!

[taranaki]

Originally posted by Moss1O6GTi
I don't believe in marriage, perhaps if you are about 30ish then you can settle down, but when you are in your 20's and teens YOU MUST LIVE!!!!!!

Sorry,but I have been single,and I have been married,and for what it's worth,I prefer being married.Until you have lived with someone for a year or so,I don't think that you can claim to have a relationship.....casual sex is fun,granted,but it can also have a degree of stress included.And afterwards you are left with very little.I don't think I'd ever want to do the 'dating' thing again,the output received is quite frankly not worth the effort put in.Much as Iwail and moan about my marriage in the lighter forums,there have been many difficult times in my life that have been made much easier by having somebody who cares helping to balance the load.If the choice was a great family or great sex,the family would win every time.

[darkness]

Originally posted by taranaki
casual sex is fun,granted,but it can also have a degree of stress included.

True, Casual most of the time is absolute shit. It's not worth it, you don't get what you want out of it. and if you think you do, you are lying to yourself.

the output received is quite frankly not worth the effort put in.

And thats another true fact.

[THE4TH]

a good marriage is if you are both happy to me ..
mentally happy and physically satisfied..
but some are more of one than another..
if you are both happy with eachother and in love that is all is has to be..

[Thudpucker]

Nobody mentioned Communications. You must keep talking.
I dont know what love is. I didn't grow up with it.
But I wouldn't hesitat to marry the same woman I'm married to now.
The only thing that ever went wrong in our marriage was because we didn't talk about it before it happened.

Pandamonium said "I have always felt that relationships mainly start with some sort of physical or mental attraction then progress from there"

Sure enough. Men are always attracted to women. And it's usually physical too. But it's only the starting point.

Way back in our pre-historic history, we probably did live sorta seperate lives. The women living with the Children and the men visiting occasionally.

Can you imagine a young boy, about 12, wanting to be with the Men?The Men who's job was to provide meat and protection, would just as soon eat the young kid as have to teach him all that was needed to be a Warrior!

And how about some Gal like Rosie O'donnel wanting to be with the men. They'd have some special training for her!

[taranaki]

Originally posted by Thudpucker
Nobody mentioned Communications. You must keep talking.

Thank you for hitting the six-inch nail squarely on the head.