I'm Empty

[Mediocrity]

But most of all, fuck her. She's not worth it.

If my girl decided that she wants to take a break with me to see if this other guy is anything worth it - I'm dropping her like a bad habit. There's too much bullshit that goes along with "im still with you, only I can fuck other people" crap. Drop her, find someone else. Find someone that doesn't pull that immature "taking a break" crap. If she really liked you she wouldnt be taking a break.

[jon@af]

Originally Posted by Oz

Fuck her best friend and move on.

Brian afterwards: "I like this whole 'taking a break' thing. Your friend insert name here made me forget ALL about you."

[Jay!]

[Suislide]

well, i just had a 2 hour long talk with her.

turns out she sort of worded it badly when she originally told me.

she DID kiss the guy in Italy. she DID have feelings for him...until she came home and saw me.

she said she worded it badly, and all she really wants it to slow things down a bit. she said things were getting way too serious. she still wants to be with me, and still loves me, and is not in pursuit of this other guy. she said him and her will stay friends, but nothing will become of it. (i did, however, make her well aware that if something DID end up becoming of it, i would drop her like a wet noodle and would not look back no matter what)

so as it sits now, we're still together and when we're alone, she is the exact same. she just:

a) doesn't want to spend every single night with me. she said she needs a couple of alone nights where she can do what she wants, and needs to hang out with her friends more often again too, since she was neglecting them.

b) wants to tone down the public affection. we're still allowed to do all the regular couple stuff, just not as rambunctious as before.

so this is still very much a thing, and i haven't lost her at all. she just wants to slow it down for a little bit so she can have some breathing room. she said things will be back to normal by this time next month.

i don't know if it's my fault for taking it the wrong way or her fault for explaining it the wrong way, but now that i type it, it doesn't sound too bad...but if that guy comes into the equation just once, i'm gone, and she now knows that.

thanks for all the support, guys.

btw, the fuck her mom idea? EYECH! trust me...

[Oz]

I dunno mate. If the Mummy isn't Yummy can you see her being any better in 25 years? I'd still go her best friend too. Actually, wanna PM me her number?

[Toksin]

Originally Posted by Suislide

well, i just had a 2 hour long talk with her.

turns out she sort of worded it badly when she originally told me.

she DID kiss the guy in Italy. she DID have feelings for him...until she came home and saw me.

she said she worded it badly, and all she really wants it to slow things down a bit. she said things were getting way too serious. she still wants to be with me, and still loves me, and is not in pursuit of this other guy. she said him and her will stay friends, but nothing will become of it. (i did, however, make her well aware that if something DID end up becoming of it, i would drop her like a wet noodle and would not look back no matter what)

so as it sits now, we're still together and when we're alone, she is the exact same. she just:

a) doesn't want to spend every single night with me. she said she needs a couple of alone nights where she can do what she wants, and needs to hang out with her friends more often again too, since she was neglecting them.

What the fuck man? She's the one who was the clingy one, now this?

I've been where you are man, I lost Kat because of something like this. Most of what I mean to say I've already said to you, but this is bad news. She's bad for you man. Get out of it before its too late. If she even doubts that she wants to be with you, it's over. Get rid of her and move on. Kick the shit out of the guy, let her leave you, and then kick the shit out of him again as stress relief.

Anything else we can discuss on MSN.

[deadlight]

Yeah, your situation sucks I know, my girlfriend of 2 years left me today, I was planning to propose to her in the next year, I didn't know anything was wrong at all, I was really happy, she comes back from Chicago and Surprise! She's hanging out with my roommate constantly and doesn't want to be with me. You'll be alright man, 5 mon. isn't bad, I've ended several 5 month relationships, you say it's the end of the world today but you don't know what'll happen tomorrow. I'm devastated right now quite honestly, but I know everything will work out eventually, if she could just leave me like that then it probably never would've worked out.

[slave]

My rule with women: They fuck with you for no reason, tell em to fuck off.

[Atomis27]

Originally Posted by slave

My rule with women: They fuck with you for no reason, tell em to fuck off.

Much truth here.

[YogsVR4]

Glad to hear that the situation wasn't quite as dire as it first sounded. She sounds pretty reasonable about the situation and your response was as well.

All I can suggest is that you revisit your feelings for this woman every so often. Your both still really young and going through a lot of changes in your wants and needs. Don't be shocked (and I'm not saying its going to happen) if you do happen to drift apart. The old addage of 'if you love it, let it go. If it loves you it will return' is quite true.

Best of luck.

[Steel]

Though my experiences, i've learned that there's no such thing as "a break". I'm cynical enought os say that you should just dump her now.

That's all.

[mycivic]

Originally Posted by Suislide

well, i just had a 2 hour long talk with her.

turns out she sort of worded it badly when she originally told me.

she DID kiss the guy in Italy. she DID have feelings for him...until she came home and saw me.

she said she worded it badly, and all she really wants it to slow things down a bit. she said things were getting way too serious. she still wants to be with me, and still loves me, and is not in pursuit of this other guy. she said him and her will stay friends, but nothing will become of it. (i did, however, make her well aware that if something DID end up becoming of it, i would drop her like a wet noodle and would not look back no matter what)

so as it sits now, we're still together and when we're alone, she is the exact same. she just:

a) doesn't want to spend every single night with me. she said she needs a couple of alone nights where she can do what she wants, and needs to hang out with her friends more often again too, since she was neglecting them.

b) wants to tone down the public affection. we're still allowed to do all the regular couple stuff, just not as rambunctious as before.

so this is still very much a thing, and i haven't lost her at all. she just wants to slow it down for a little bit so she can have some breathing room. she said things will be back to normal by this time next month.

i don't know if it's my fault for taking it the wrong way or her fault for explaining it the wrong way, but now that i type it, it doesn't sound too bad...but if that guy comes into the equation just once, i'm gone, and she now knows that.

thanks for all the support, guys.

btw, the fuck her mom idea? EYECH! trust me...

To make it short, she needs some time and space alone. Everybody does. But a word of warning though, 3 out of my past 4 relationships ended this way about the time and space thing. So just be prepared if anything goes wrong (knock on wood it doesent).

Antoher thing """IF""" anything does go wrong, your 19. Your still young. Its not like its going to be the end of the world. There are a lot of fishes in the ocean...go fish.

[Jay!]

Originally Posted by Suislide

so as it sits now, we're still together and when we're alone, she is the exact same. she just:

a) doesn't want to spend every single night with me. she said she needs a couple of alone nights where she can do what she wants, and needs to hang out with her friends more often again too, since she was neglecting them.

b) wants to tone down the public affection. we're still allowed to do all the regular couple stuff, just not as rambunctious as before.

Hmm... The "space" issue.

So, were you guys like up each other's butts all the time until now? That's a

Sounds like you need to be more of a Challenge...
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[IntegraBoy2003]

I hope that everything works out in the long run, I mean 5 months is something , even though many people do not think it, it is something because you have feelings for her and you love her, I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years almost 4, i wish ya the best of luck, and take it easy

[-Davo]

Originally Posted by Suislide

the woman i love, my girlfriend of 5 months, just told me that she wants to "take a break" and cool things down a bit.

why?

because some faggot that went on the school trip to Italy with her over the march break kissed her, and now she likes him.

me and her have been together for 5 fucking months. she's known the guy for a week, kissed him once, and already has enough feelings for him to "take a break" with me.

she doesn't want to break it off completely. she wants it to cool down for a bit so she can still be with me...yet see if there's any possibility with the new guy.

meanwhile i have to restrain myself from making shit come out of this guys nose, because if i lay so much as a finger on him, she'll leave me and who knows what else will happen.

despite what happened (the kiss), i'm willing to forgive her. i love her more then anything and she is the most important thing in my life, and if she wants to be serious again i'd be more then willing...but at the same time i want to break it off completely for what she's doing to me. i put 5 fucking months into this and this guy gets her in a week? what the fuck?

i'm cursed with cars, i'm cursed with relationships...i'm not saying i'm suicidal but damn if i don't feel like not leaving my house for 10 years or so...

if you ever see the guy she kissed, tell him "she's one to not be trusted, don't say i didn't warn you"

That'll scare him.