I'm Empty

[Suislide]

the woman i love, my girlfriend of 5 months, just told me that she wants to "take a break" and cool things down a bit.

why?

because some faggot that went on the school trip to Italy with her over the march break kissed her, and now she likes him.

me and her have been together for 5 fucking months. she's known the guy for a week, kissed him once, and already has enough feelings for him to "take a break" with me.

she doesn't want to break it off completely. she wants it to cool down for a bit so she can still be with me...yet see if there's any possibility with the new guy.

meanwhile i have to restrain myself from making shit come out of this guys nose, because if i lay so much as a finger on him, she'll leave me and who knows what else will happen.

despite what happened (the kiss), i'm willing to forgive her. i love her more then anything and she is the most important thing in my life, and if she wants to be serious again i'd be more then willing...but at the same time i want to break it off completely for what she's doing to me. i put 5 fucking months into this and this guy gets her in a week? what the fuck?

i'm cursed with cars, i'm cursed with relationships...i'm not saying i'm suicidal but damn if i don't feel like not leaving my house for 10 years or so...

[2strokebloke]

Oh my, a kiss. What are you worried about? That he might be better than you, and that she won't want you anymore? Maybe you kiss some other girls, and see if they like you more than her?

[mycivic]

Keep your cool. It happens. Been there done that a lot of times and I was able to move on.

If she ends up with him...then theres your chance to break his nose.

[Oz]

Tell all this to her. And if she breaks up with you anyway, break the fucker in half. See how much she likes kissing broken cartledge.

[Jay!]

This has nothing to do with the other guy. This has everything to do with "your" girl.

You tell her it's him or you. If it's him, you dump her and don't look back. If it's you, you might want to just dump her anyway.

You *must* maintain respect. Both self-respect and her respect for you. Don't be a doormat. If she thinks she can go overseas and make out with guys and then tell you, then she doesn't respect you. If she then stays with you after this you're doubly screwed, because you'll have to know that she'll have it in her to cheat whenever she pleases.

How old are you again? 5 months != "love of my life."

If, after reading this, you're pissed, but you know I'm right, PM me...

[Suislide]

jay, you've been a good friend and helped me alot throughout my time at this site, but for this one time i'll have to tell you to piss off. i'm not offended, but that's what i think.

you don't know the situation i'm in. you don't know how perfect me and her are for each other. she's not this kind of person. this isn't like her at all. that's why this is hitting me so hard, because it's nothing like her. it came out of nowhere, and she doesn't even know how to react to it.

i don't want to lose her. 5 months may seem short to some of you, but to me it's not and any of you who want to doubt that, well you can kiss my ass because i'm the one in this relationship and i KNOW that this is real. a time frame means nothing. if you are compatible enough with the person, then a week-long relationship could be the love of your life. at least i'm not the "love at first sight" type.

and yeah, she might seem immature too for all of this, but she hung out with the guy for 9 days on the trip and claims he has the same type of personality as me and that she has gained feelings for him.

i can't beat the guy yet...i might just have a friendly talking-to sometime soon, but i won't beat him until i'm 100% sure i've lost. if it comes to that point, then i won't care what she thinks if i smear his face on the ashphalt.

i'm 19, by the way.

[Neutrino]

Sorry but i agree with Jay. What is the deal with that? She wants to put you on "stand by" while she tries screwing around with another guy just to see if its better.

You deserve better, and your self-respect is more important than some chick.

[Suislide]

i agree with you guys that what she's doing is bullshit.

but i can't be all too sure that she's thought it through enough either. i mean, what if she's talking about all this "break" BS now, but hasn't really realized that she was wrong about it all along?

either way, i'm not going to be a door-mat. if we get back together, she had better be kissing my ass 24/7 or i'm out the door. i WANT her back, but if that happens, she'll have to make up for this bullshit. and if i EVER hear of her cheating in any way again, i'm gone.

her exact words were "we're still "together", but i can pursue other interests if i want to and so can you."

fuck that. if she so much as goes on one date with this faggot, i'm gone. no if's and's or but's. as much as i love her, that's just bullshit and i won't take it. i won't have her stay with me just to keep me happy while she's out fucking some other guy.

if that happens, that's when i'll be introducing foot to ass as well.

[Jay!]

Originally Posted by Suislide

you don't know the situation i'm in. you don't know how perfect me and her are for each other. she's not this kind of person. this isn't like her at all. that's why this is hitting me so hard, because it's nothing like her. it came out of nowhere, and she doesn't even know how to react to it.

I'm not sure you know the situation you're in, either.

If this is nothing like her, then why is it reality?

Women don't dump men "out of nowhere." Perhaps something has changed in her mind in one week on a trip to Italy, or prehaps it was already brewing; I don't know.

Is she okay with you going out with other women in the meantime?
No: Big surprise, but why does she get a double standard?
Yes: She's already done with you, and just hasn't told you yet.

edit: d'oh you snuck in a reply before me!

[jon@af]

I'm sorry to hear about that Brian, I look at it as if she'll do it now and say she'll give it a try, even if she does come back to you, she's liable to do it again. Ditch her, beat his ass, move on.

EDIT: Oh...you agreed with me before I said anything...I need to learn how to read...

[MBTN]

Solution: Fuck her mom.

[Oz]

Fuck her best friend and move on.

[Jay!]

three waya w/ mom + best friend!

[zebrathree]

What Oz and Jay said.

Fuck everything that moves.

[HogieGT-R]

if you want Brian i'll break his nose for ya...for a small fee