Does your car cause problems at home?

[ci5ic]

Well, every day for the past several weeks, me and my girl have gotten into a huge argument over the amount of money and time/effort I spend on my car. We are not married, and we don't share bank accounts, so all the money I spend on my car is money that I have earned and is 100% mine to spend. She has NO job, and NO income (which means that I support her), yet feels compelled to comment negatively on how much money I put into my car. I spend alot of money on her as well, especially on bills and everything, and I'm in the process of buying her a new car because her car is a total piece of shit. We go out all the time, and I spend all kinds of money on dinners and bar tabs, and movies, and coffee, and everything... She also has NO hobbies of her own (unless you considder smoking weed a hobby), and I have more hobbies than I know what to do with (music, car, computer, reading, blah blah blah), so she has no idea why I put effort into these things.

It really really pisses me off that she takes all of that for granted.

So my question is, are there others on this forum who have the same problem? Does your car hobby cause problems with your significant other?

[speediva]

Do parents count? My mom and dad are always mad that I want to spend my spare money on my car. Granted, I'm in a "rough spot" right now b/c I'm waiting for my summer job to start up once I'm past finals, but it keeps me sane. My car is my outlet. I sold my motorcycle, so my car is all I've got left. It's not just transportation, and I really want it to be ME, not just whatever people say looks cool. Even my friends rag on me about me spending money on "that pit"... "Are you ever going to get anything out of the money you put into that THING?" No, but I like it anyway. Leave me alone.

[94SolGrl]

my car causes soo many arguments between me and my parents.. they think I spend too much time worrying about it. Oh well.

[Racing Rice]

My car addictions dont cause any problems. My wife says aslong as I can pay the bills she could careless what I buy. I love my wife!

[ci5ic]

That's another thing too... Like 94SolGrl pointed out... she thinks I spend too much time worrying about it, like when I have to park out in front of the house where it could get broken into, and she says shit like "how come you worry so much about your car, but you never worry about me?"...

"Because I don't have to leave you out at the curb all night where someone might come and steal/damage you!" If I did, I guarantee that I would worry about her more than I worry about my car being out there! She doesn't understand that though.

[YogsVR4]

Its a point of discussion from time to time, but it never really gets to be an arguement. We figure if we have bills paid, money put in the bank for retirement, money put away for a rainy day, then we can spend some of the leftover money on whatever floats our boat.

[Rich]

Well, I have no significant other, but my cars still manage to get me in $hit. Most of you probably know, I still live at home. And for most of the year, I have my 2cars, and my dad has his SUV and his boat, all trying to fit into the driveway. Its not wide enough to park 2 vehicles side-by-side, so I usuially have to move dad's SUV to get my car out. I usuially leave the Sentra on the road, so I can get out. And if my car should be blocking dad's for any reason, he will yell and make a big deal out of it.

Also, I love to work on my cars. Rarely are both of them in running condition, im usuially working on something. Its one of the few things I enjoy doing (sometimes its frustrating as hell, but rewarding) My parents hate the fact that I am always working on something, and they were even more angered when I bought the Sentra. Is it a crime to own 2 cars?

We just had a fight the other day. Mom randomly goes around the house looking for stuff to clean up. I came home from work, and she tells me she threw out a bunch of "old wires" that were under my bed. These "old wires" happened to be about 15ft of 4ga power wire, a 20ft RCA cable and a bag containing gold plated connecters, various fuses and a soldering iron. Like $100 CDN worth of stuff!! Thankfully, I was able to go through the trash and get it back.

Now, I could see her getting mad, if the stuff was in the way or in the middle of the floor, but it was out of sight under my bed!!1 And this happens all the time, instruction manuals, varous electrical and mechanical parts get chucked, recipts get thrown out.

[freakray]

Originally posted by YogsVR4
...floats our boat.

The question was cars....

At our place, the cars outside are seldom an issue, the model cars inside on the other hand.....oh well

[tyju32602]

As long as the bills are paid..that is all that matters...

[UKSupraboy]

It's not really an issue now but when I met my g/f who is Norwegian (I'm English), I was working overseas and quite happy with Supra RZ in the drive and a classic '64 mini for daily use.

First of all the mini went when I moved back to the UK and then the final sacrifice, selling the Supra to move to Norge.

It's still a sore point that now and again comes up if we're fighting, especially as I now have to drive her crappy Corsa, but at the end of the day a worthwhile sacrifice (just don't tell her that, OK?).

[crab]

Originally posted by Rich
Mom randomly goes around the house looking for stuff to clean up. I came home from work, and she tells me she threw out a bunch of "old wires" that were under my bed. These "old wires" happened to be about 15ft of 4ga power wire, a 20ft RCA cable and a bag containing gold plated connecters, various fuses and a soldering iron. Like $100 CDN worth of stuff!! Thankfully, I was able to go through the trash and get it back.

WHY DO ALL MOMS DO THAT!!!!!!!!!!!! My mother keeps throwing out stuff and rearranging stuff in my room for no apparent reason as well. It's freaking annoying...

but back to the topic


Was thinking of getting a big house and nice car before i start finding a "significant other"... enjoy MY freedom and MY money while it lasts!

[SilverLotus340R]

my car OBSESSION comes into play sometimes..but since im only 15 and dont have posession of my truck yet..than not the truck itself.

but with the magazines and models and posters and all that good stuff my room is getting cluttered and the garage is lined wiht posters and my mom is getting p.o'ed with it all. she thinks its retarded to go that nutty over "worldly possessions" its stupid. but its my money and my stuff so why should she care?

[TexasF355F1]

Originally posted by SilverLotus340R
my car OBSESSION comes into play sometimes..but since im only 15 and dont have posession of my truck yet..than not the truck itself.

but with the magazines and models and posters and all that good stuff my room is getting cluttered and the garage is lined wiht posters and my mom is getting p.o'ed with it all. she thinks its retarded to go that nutty over "worldly possessions" its stupid. but its my money and my stuff so why should she care?

That sux your mom gets on your case. When I got into the whole custom truck thing when I was like 12 my mom thought it was odd but let me have the magazines. When I got my first truck when I was still 15(im 21 now) and I showed an interest in adding some things to make it look better and as she put it make it a "teenagers ride" she understood why. Just talk to her about why you're into it and maybe she'll be able to understand. By the way, what kind of truck are you getting and what do you plan to do to it(i.e.-lower it, lift it, etc.)??

[SilverLotus340R]

Originally posted by TexasF355F1

That sux your mom gets on your case. When I got into the whole custom truck thing when I was like 12 my mom thought it was odd but let me have the magazines. When I got my first truck when I was still 15(im 21 now) and I showed an interest in adding some things to make it look better and as she put it make it a "teenagers ride" she understood why. Just talk to her about why you're into it and maybe she'll be able to understand. By the way, what kind of truck are you getting and what do you plan to do to it(i.e.-lower it, lift it, etc.)??

nah she understands perfectly..she is actually taking me to the NY international Autoshow this weekend (5 hour train ride) and tagging along with me and my dad. its gonna be fun..

as for the truck...its a Black 92 Toyota Pickup...i dont think im gonna do anything to it because its kinda old and rusted under neath. It needs new ball joints and junk...but if i do do nething to it ill lift it a bit and put bigger tires on it. it could prolly use some rims too ...hmm..

[YogsVR4]

Originally posted by Rich
We just had a fight the other day. Mom randomly goes around the house looking for stuff to clean up. I came home from work, and she tells me she threw out a bunch of "old wires" that were under my bed. These "old wires" happened to be about 15ft of 4ga power wire, a 20ft RCA cable and a bag containing gold plated connecters, various fuses and a soldering iron. Like $100 CDN worth of stuff!! Thankfully, I was able to go through the trash and get it back.

Now, I could see her getting mad, if the stuff was in the way or in the middle of the floor, but it was out of sight under my bed!!1 And this happens all the time, instruction manuals, varous electrical and mechanical parts get chucked, recipts get thrown out.

Thats a rotten thing to do to stuff thats tucked away. Rich, are you still planning on going into the service? If you are and plan on keeping your stuff at home. I suggest boxing everything up and storing it someplace else. Or, at least, have it put away in the garage so moms cleaning itches don't wipe you out.

My dad lost his entire baseball card collection among other things while he was in the Navy (way back in 55-58) because his mom wanted to "tidy" his room. Just a word of caution.