Relationship Trouble - PLEASE HELP

[-Jacko-]

Okay so for starters, I haven't been on here for like nine months now, but I thought I could ask you guys for a bit of help.

Right, I'm 16 years old and I have been going out with my girlfriend now since September, and she means the absolute world to me, we get along so well and I can see such a bright future for us both. We are both loyal to each other and would never dream of cheating or any of that crap.

But, over the past month or so we have been arguing over little pointless things and I honestly think it's tearing us apart. She says how I get stressed over little unimportant things and she is worried. She told me today that she is getting more and more attached to me but we are arguing more, and that is a problem.

Now I've been thinking it may be because we spend too much time together. We are in a few lessons together at school, I spend time with her every lunchtime, we hang out on either saturday or sunday and we spend about 2 hours on the phone every night (I have free calls just in case youre wondering!)

So basically I'm confused and I need some advice.. I really want to stay with her but how can I improve our relationship???

Thank you for reading, and I will appreciate any advice,


Jack.

[Oz]

What are you arguing about? Who is the first to back down and/or apologise? Is it simply a power struggle?

It takes two to argue: one to start the argument and the other to continue it.

[72chevelleOhio]

Yeah, I'm thinking space invaders...your spending all that time together and not doing your normal stuff?
the stuff that makes you......you. Like your putting your life on hold so you can tongue f**k each other...

Originally Posted by Oz

It takes two to argue: one to start the argument and the other to continue it.

Oh sure, act all grown up and mature about it.

[GForce957]

less time together is a start. I couldn't spend time with a girl every day and then talk to her for 2 hours every day without it getting on my nerves.

[Oz]

You raise a valid point. Less conversation and more sex seems to help any relationship along...

Maybe you're crap in the sack.

[-Jacko-]

Yeah, I think I should spend less time with her, cause we are like two old people sometimes.. arguing over stupid stuff..
And I like the more sex option.. haha
Thanks guys

[RaeRae1]

Jacko -

First off, you are young. You are bound to have difficulties in a relationship simply because that is the nature of the beast. They take work, time, and energy. There is also one hell of a learning curve (plus at 16 girls have no clue what they really want).

Make sure that time apart is what you both are looking for. If it is not what she wants or you want, don't force the time apart thing. My husband and I worked and lived together for years and had no problems. We love being together (this is rare however, most are not that fortunate) and being apart would have made things worse for us not better. (Been with my hubby since I was 14 btw)

Relationships grow and change just like anything else that is "living", and from my experience relationships definitely are alive. You need to be able to sway and change with them if you can. Try to examine what it is you two are really argueing about. If it really is silly stuff, try to let it go and ask her to do the same. Don't sweat the small stuff.

(been with my hubby since I was 14 and I am in my 30's now)

[72chevelleOhio]

Originally Posted by RaeRae1

with my hubby

......*walks away heart-broke*

[RaeRae1]

Originally Posted by 72chevelleOhio

......*walks away heart-broke*

Awwww *blush* ... There are other gearhead girlies out there. You just have to look under the car, not in it

[-Jacko-]

Thanks Rae Rae, some of the best advice i've had! I really appreciate the help.. im determined to get it all back on track now =]

And congrats with your relationship.. that's rare nowadays!

[RaeRae1]

Originally Posted by -Jacko-

Thanks Rae Rae, some of the best advice i've had! I really appreciate the help.. im determined to get it all back on track now =]

And congrats with your relationship.. that's rare nowadays!

You're welcome! The advice is the easy part, you have the hard part. Good luck!

[72chevelleOhio]

Originally Posted by RaeRae1

Awwww *blush* ... There are other gearhead girlies out there. You just have to look under the car, not in it

Speaking of gearhead girls. I found a member called "chevelle_chic" and I'm like "woo hoo" and she was from Columbus, and I'm like "Oooooh right, were gonna make some chevelle babies"....then I seen she was banned....so I found out why
.. ...thats one that should have been "under the car" (no, not working on it)
eh, too young for me anyway...
/end rant
......now back to your regularly scheduled thread........

[-Jacko-]

Theres someone out there for everyone, chevelle, youve just got to find them!

[RaeRae1]

Originally Posted by 72chevelleOhio

Speaking of gearhead girls. I found a member called "chevelle_chic" and I'm like "woo hoo" and she was from Columbus, and I'm like "Oooooh right, were gonna make some chevelle babies"....then I seen she was banned....so I found out why
.. ...thats one that should have been "under the car" (no, not working on it)
eh, too young for me anyway...
/end rant
......now back to your regularly scheduled thread........

Heh - under the back tires eh? Or, maybe more justice would be the front tires of a Honda?

Hey, now problem with the rant – that is what this area is for isn’t it?

So sad that she had to be one of those “nothing is worth it if it isn’t domestic” types. So few of us girlies as it is, then she has to be a hater :

What is with the hate going on in the car forums between foreign and domestic? The age old argument. I love the fact that there is diversity. To each their own. I would not want to live where there was only one choice and I celebrate the fact that we have the ability to choose. It is amazing how many domestic lovers truly hate on anything else. I’ve seen it overwhelm people on another forum I am on. If you even hint at the idea of a Honda you are bashed into the ground, chastised and left for dead. I’ve tried to get them to back off but it is just like . I have all but given up.

Sorry Jacko – mucking up your thread. I’m done.

[-Jacko-]

Rae Rae I see your point.. no worries! Back to the thread topic.. I will post an update thread in a few weeks time just to let you all know how it's getting on.. well those of you who care (Rae Rae and chevelle haha)

Ah the people on this forum do make me smile