Shallow hal...are you guilty?

[taranaki]

Just watched it again,and have come to the conclusion that I am a borderline 'shallow hal'.

How important are looks to you when you are dating?

[speediva]

How about "Shallow Gal"???

I'm guilty as charged. I don't necessarily disallow contact with guys I don't think are particularly attractive, but I don't actively go after them either.
I usually just have huge crushes on guys that I find attractive, and brood over it until he can't stand me anymore. It works rather well...

[YogsVR4]

It matters to one degree or another to everyone.

[replicant_008]

Well let's see - do I start a conversation with the most attractive girl in the room - actually... rarely. Does it matter to me that the lady isn't attractive as long as she has a sweet personality?

Well I'd be lying if I said no. I'm going to be honest and say part of the ongoing chronic serial monogamy I'm afflicted with - is mainly because of this fact. I'm more interested in the chase than the prize, yes appearance is important I won't lie because I'd have to be physically and intellectually attracted to someone to make it last.

Despite being a bloke, I do have some close female friends who are very attractive and I enjoy engaging in socially but as platonic friends - it lasts longer that way.

I've yet to actually meet the mythical lady who attracts me on enough levels and isn't repelled by my Quasimodo like presence or impatient, Schzoid personality traits. But I'm still looking and it's been close but no cigar more recently so I'm beginning to think I'm looking in the right place or as I get older the girls are getting less choosy or maybe I am...

[Atariallstar]

well i am alil bit of a shallow hal...but i cant totally say i am. Looks are somewhat important, but i need to be able to keep a conversation with the girl to keep it interesting. otherwise i get bored.

[Spec2 Girl]

I think looks matter to a small extent, after all it's what attracts you to someone in the first place (well in my case it was anway). After that though it is definitely the person inside that you are attracted to. Looks don't last forever, a great personality does.

[tazdev]

dunno

[boingo82]

Everybody is somewhat, it's called Instinct. Every species seeks out the best genetic material to pass on to their offspring.

They had this really, really cool show on TLC last night about human instinct..one of the things they did was test a man's immune system, then have him smell (and rate) 6 shirts. Each shirt had been worn for 3 continuous days by a different lady volunteer. After he rated the shirts, they revealed the immune system matchups the women had. The shirts he rated highest were those of women who had opposite immune systems from his, and the lowest rated shirts had similar immune systems to his.

Basically, besides physical beauty, you also subconciously judge by smell the immune systems of potential mates, naturally seeking out those opposite yours. This is to provide the offspring with the best possible survival chances.

The show will be an ongoing series, and they're doing different bits of instinct every time. Last night was Sexual Instinct. I'd highly recommend watching it.

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[Jimster]

Originally posted by boingo82
Everybody is somewhat, it's called Instinct. Every species seeks out the best genetic material to pass on to their offspring.

They had this really, really cool show on TLC last night about human instinct..one of the things they did was test a man's immune system, then have him smell (and rate) 6 shirts. Each shirt had been worn for 3 continuous days by a different lady volunteer. After he rated the shirts, they revealed the immune system matchups the women had. The shirts he rated highest were those of women who had opposite immune systems from his, and the lowest rated shirts had similar immune systems to his.

Basically, besides physical beauty, you also subconciously judge by smell the immune systems of potential mates, naturally seeking out those opposite yours. This is to provide the offspring with the best possible survival chances.

The show will be an ongoing series, and they're doing different bits of instinct every time. Last night was Sexual Instinct. I'd highly recommend watching it.

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thats god-damned interesting.....I will have to check that out sometime


As for me- I've come to realise that there HAS to be some form of personality- for example- when i was younger I would always date some of the hottest bimbos- but very rarely did they have any form of personality- So I got bored and never stayed long. This continued for a few years.

THEN however I met my wife who most would say is attractive- but she stood out far more than any of my ex's because she had a personality and she was interesting, as well as having a lot in common with me- hence I am staying for the long term

[Oz]

I have to honestly say no. I go for the personality every time. However, the last 2 have been extremely attractive too...

[whttrshpunk]

I'm a little on that side. For one, I don't really date "casually", so neither looks nor personality alone are really gonna cut it. I also don't think it's fair to the other person to be with them if you aren't attracted to them. When she asks you if she looks good in that dress, you lie and say yes even though you're thinking she never looks good in anything? It won't last. You have to be attracted to someone on multiple levels for it to actually have any meaning, but I think personality is more important. Whatever its 2am and I'm rambling....bleh

[taranaki]

How about in a more general sense?Does a good-looking shop assistant get more consideration and courtesy from you than a plain one?do you choose your queue at the bank based on what the teller looks like rather than how quickly she can serve you?Do you pick your place onthe beach according to where the pretty people are?

[tonioseven]

I think we all are to some extent. I fully realize that I'm far from perfect but I have a "right" to be with someone that visually pleases me as well as mentally pleases me.