brand new 2006 as a gift... should i take it?

ladybug130 · #1 07-27-2007, 09:09 PM

i have a 01 malibu but a uncle offered to buy me a brand new 06 grand prix off the car lot. some family and friends say take it but my aunt wont let me because its too big of a gift and its too expensive. He's coming into town in two weeks . He is not concerned about my aunts opinion he says the choice is up to me. My aunt raised me and she wants me to understand the value of earning the things i have and not taking something just because its given to me. My notes on my malibu are not that much but a brand new car thats paid for sounds way better. My uncle even has the plan of getting the car on a day that she works late. We have it all planned out. She is doing everything in her power to stop him and if he does buy the car she says she wont let me accept it but what will she actually do once she comes home and its in her driveway? Will she fuss for months and let it blow over or will it cause a big family fight. Should i do it the day she works late or continue to try to talk her into it?

richtazz · #2 07-28-2007, 06:04 AM

If you get the car, with her still objecting so strongly, it will cause a huge problem. Is a shiny new car really worth all the grief? It will hurt your aunt's feelings, and make her feel disrespected, by both you and your uncle. Unless you can change her feelings on the new car (before you get it) by showing her that you are responsible and appreciative, pass on the offer.

GTPSPEED · #3 07-28-2007, 01:48 PM

hmmm i disagree......take it man just explain to her this will help you finacialy and that without a car payment you can save money for family/school/whatever sounds good..he seems to have no money issues and the point from her is valid but look at it like this...he has money like that so why not you still u derstand her point but this would help you..if you are rich and dont need the help then dont take it but if it was me without a car note i could do alot of other things like pay for school and save money for the future so its up to you. why have life be hard when you can gets some help and make life a little easyer, i dont see a problem with that. ~joe

GTP Dad · #4 07-28-2007, 02:58 PM

I think that your aunt may feel threatened by the purchase of the car but if your uncle wants to purchase it for you and give it as a gift you may hurt his feelings if you don't take it. Explain to your aunt that you understand the value of the gift and greatly appreciate it but that it won't change you. Also explain that you appreciate everything she has done for you and that your uncle purchasing the car will not change the way you feel about her because no car can ever replace the love and respect you have for her.

Curtis0228 · #5 07-28-2007, 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by GTP Dad

I think that your aunt may feel threatened by the purchase of the car but if your uncle wants to purchase it for you and give it as a gift you may hurt his feelings if you don't take it. Explain to your aunt that you understand the value of the gift and greatly appreciate it but that it won't change you. Also explain that you appreciate everything she has done for you and that your uncle purchasing the car will not change the way you feel about her because no car can ever replace the love and respect you have for her.

I agree with what he said. Also, you're not 16, tell her you are an adult now and can take the responsibilty.

'97ventureowner · #6 07-28-2007, 04:56 PM

Just curious...were your aunt and uncle married at one point and now are divorced or separated? That could be a reason to her objections.She may feel threatened that your uncle is trying to "win your affections" over her. I've seen similar scenarios before like this. The uncle may be more well off than the aunt since their separation, ( again if they were married) and she may not like that or feel jealous inside and not try to let you know of that.

Burtnette · #7 07-28-2007, 09:07 PM

Take it. Life is hard enough as it is (for basically everyone) so if someone offers to help you out, why not take the offer?

ladybug130 · #8 07-29-2007, 07:51 AM

my aunt and uncle are actually brother and sister. the arguments they have had the past two nights were crazy. he is still talking as if he doesnt care about what she thinks and hes so excited to get here to take me for the car. her attitude about the whole situation is really starting to irritate me. she needs to just give in cause its only a car. Im still not sure but im leaning closer on my decision and i want that car!!!!!!!!!!!1

Paul79UF · #9 07-29-2007, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by '97ventureowner

Just curious...were your aunt and uncle married at one point and now are divorced or separated?

that's what I thought before reading the rest of the thread

take the car, life is too short to refuse honest generosity from loved ones

eippermx · #10 07-29-2007, 09:17 PM

For me, family comes first.

Not some car that could harm your relationship with both your aunt and uncle.

Step up to the plate and talk to both of them at the same time and come up with a compromise. Examples: Maybe an alternative would be for the uncle to make repairs to the '01 Malibu, or better yet, use the gift of money that will last your entire lifetime by using it towards your college education.

vamc · #11 07-29-2007, 11:03 PM

I would say no. I have morals. remember, that this car is approx. 22K new! thnk of this as a favor, one day you will have to repay this. If you are willing to do so, go for it, if not, say thanks, but no thanks.

richtazz · #12 07-30-2007, 12:18 PM

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Originally Posted by ladybug130

my aunt and uncle are actually brother and sister. the arguments they have had the past two nights were crazy. he is still talking as if he doesnt care about what she thinks and hes so excited to get here to take me for the car. her attitude about the whole situation is really starting to irritate me. she needs to just give in cause its only a car. Im still not sure but im leaning closer on my decision and i want that car!!!!!!!!!!!1

This changes things a bit, but not much. Since they aren't married or in the same house, the friction would be totally yours. You live with your aunt, and that could become a very nasty situation if she's toally against it. What are you going to do if she won't allow you to park it in her driveway? If she's your legal guardian, she could be vindictive, and not allow you to take driver's training (or revoke your license if you have one already). Tread on this carefully. A car is nothing compared to a loved one's feelings.

'97ventureowner · #13 07-30-2007, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by richtazz

If she's your legal guardian, she could be vindictive, and not allow you to take driver's training (or revoke your license if you have one already). Tread on this carefully. A car is nothing compared to a loved one's feelings.

Well according to her profile she's 24 so I don't think her aunt could do much about driver's training or taking away the license. Another thing to consider based on her "past performance" is do you think she will hold a grudge for a long time, or is she one to forget after a short period of time has passed? Maybe , if you get the car from your uncle, and a few months has passed, she will soften up and let it "blow over". Only you can answer that question.

vamc · #14 07-30-2007, 01:06 PM

Just do the right thing.

richtazz · #15 07-30-2007, 04:20 PM

I guess I should have read her profile, so some of my advice is moot. But I still say the car isn't worth causing a lot of problems, especially with the person whose house you live in. Can you afford rent, utilities, etc... if she gets pissed enough to kick you out????

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