snap out of it!

[taranaki]

I'd love to. Tell me how.




How do you just 'snap out' of an illness ?Walking away from the cause may help, but how do you just 'snap out' of a relationship that has been the core of your life for almost twenty years and is falling apart around you ? How do you step away from your life,just 'snap out' of it and restart from scratch at an age where you should be gently gliding towards the relative freedom of middle age,with less debt and more free time ?

Don't tell me to just 'snap out' of it until you fully understand what it is that you are expecting me to 'snap out' of.

[SentraGirl]

Wow, Taranaki, it sounds like you're having a really hard time and I'm sorry to hear that but I'll tell you what I've learned in my short time here. Well, first of all, you can't snap out of anything and anyone who tells you otherwise isn't fully conscious of their conversation. In regard to illness, I speak from recent experience and the fact that I'm here talking and walking is a miracle I can tell you that you just can't walk away but you have to keep hope and faith. It was really hard for me at such a difficult time in my life but I fought for life and if I would have just layed down my guard, I might not be where I am today. Also, illness is a sensitive subject so all I can say is never give up! As for the relationship, it's not going to be easy and it's going to take a lot of time for your wounds to turn into scars because IMHO you never heal, just eventually move on. If you're in a relationship and it's headed in the wrong direction or you don't feel happy anymore then, is it really worth it? All you need is yourself to survive! All you need is yourself to be happy! To me, age is but a number and you're only as old as you feel. I went to lunch with my dad the other day and he got a menu with crayons and started coloring. Mind you, this man is more serious than anyone when it comes down to business or important matter, as well as being successful in his businesses but he also lets loose and has fun. I think you need to just have fun, don't think about what anyone thinks but yourself because in reality you have to be happy with and love yourself before you can share your love with another. I hope this helps you!!! Good luck.

[YogsVR4]

Mr. T let me put it this way. I wont tell anyone to do something as vague as to simply snap out of it. However, their are times where a person knows what they need to do but are just unwilling or afraid to do it. I'm not saying you're in that position, but I find that a lot of people who are, are unwilling to take the steps they know are necessary.

Familiarity is a comfortable thing and most of us don’t like any drastic changes. We react defensively or go even as far as deny that change is necessary.

Hopefully everything works out for you no matter what decisions you need to make. To bad we didn't get an "easy life" guarantee on our birth certificates.