Stupid step dad

[doberman_52]

My step dad gets pissed at the smallest things, i mean really pissed, like when i forget to pick my towel up off the floor in the morning or not getting up right away in the morning, just the stupidest little things, i want to tell him to go screw himself, but that could possibly end with me going to jdc or maybe even jail with what would happen after that (cause id kick his fricken arse after he came after me - 47 years old, kinda slow, 200 lbs or so), and i turn 18 and graduate in about 5 months, and cant really afford to move out right away, anyone have any ideas as to what i could possibly do?

[beef_bourito]

military, it's what i'm doing. i'm applying to the rotp (regular officer training plan) in canada, they pay for your university, books, and give you $1200+ per month for food and housing, then you do some time in the military as an officer.

other than that, get a good job so that you can pay for housing and food, or try to convince your parents to pay for it. my parents agreed to pay for one of my expenses, either they'd cover housing or my car (as in insurance, gas, maintenance, and repairs, they already bought the car).

[BrodyP]

Army ahhhh thats your choice. I'd go away to college for a few years. It will teach you to be on your own and help you grow up to be less dependant. Also you will get a great education hopefully so you can land a good job when you graduate to be completely independant of your parents. Thats the route I took and I couldnt be happier. Can you sit down and talk to your step father/mother about his behavior? That seems logical, aproach the situation like an adult and hopefully you will be treated the same in return.

[doberman_52]

Can't do military because of the adhd crap that i dont really have but i guess my doctor says i do, i may have add but not adhd, im waiting to get back in so she can sign that im off the meds and then i have to wait at least a year before i can join, im looking at taking auto tech next year and im gonna ask my mom about helping me out with that and my car or housing, but im paying for every thing with my car and they already said they wouldnt help with that tany more, but im gonna talk a little more about it, ive been having these problems wit my step dad for a while, and my mom knows and has been trying to help, i just think if i say anything to him, it will wind up with me going to jdc and/or one of us hurt, im just gettin tired of my parents treatin me like im 8, not 17, cause i cant do crap
thanks
edit: one reason my parents wont hep with a car is because i want a 240sx, they dont like that car (or almost any car for me) for some reason

[BrodyP]

Whats JDC?

[beef_bourito]

well as a first car you can't really complain about what it is, especially if they're paying for it. if that's the only thing stopping you from getting a car then just find a different one, a honda accord is a great first car. you might not think it is, sure it's not the fastest thing or the best handling, but it's got tonnes of space, great fuel economy, it's comfortable, and most of all it's reliable. you're going to college buddy, you don't want your car breaking and crap because you cant afford to fix every little thing. besides, although it might be a boring car, it's still a great car to ride in, and it's got a great back seat.

[BrodyP]

Honda Accord

[doberman_52]

Originally Posted by BrodyP

Whats JDC?

Its short for Juvenial Detention Center, Jail for minors basicly. I guess iIm not sure what its called in other states

Beef_burito: One problem, they said my last car was the only one thed pay for, my first one, a 90 grand am, i got for free, had a lot of problems, and i rolled that a few months later, the one i have now, a 90 buick century has so many problems i payed $400 and so did my parents (totaling $800), is about ready to go, i just paid a speeding ticket and i have insurance (surprisingly cheap, about $450) coming up in a month so im a little strapped for cash right now, i pay my own insurance, maintenance, gas, etc. i get virtually no financial help from my parents, when i got to college next year, i wont qualify for financial aid because they make way to much, i wont get many scholarships because of my gpa, so im gonna have to take out loans, so im pretty well screwed financially, but im going to talk to my mom soon, but im working so much latley that i dont get a chance, shes sleeping buy the time i get home at 11, and yea

PS: i acctually don't mind the accords, a friend has 3, a 90, 93 and a 03, the 90 has almost 300k on it and nothin mojor has gone wrong with it, not to slow either for a 4 banger i dont think, it will keep up with my v6 thats probly pushin 170-180 hp, plus the mpg is kinda what im lookin for because i drive 18 miles to work

[Masonovsky!]

Originally Posted by doberman_52

Can't do military because of the adhd crap that i dont really have but i guess my doctor says i do, i may have add but not adhd, im waiting to get back in so she can sign that im off the meds and then i have to wait at least a year before i can join, im looking at taking auto tech next year and im gonna ask my mom about helping me out with that and my car or housing, but im paying for every thing with my car and they already said they wouldnt help with that tany more, but im gonna talk a little more about it, ive been having these problems wit my step dad for a while, and my mom knows and has been trying to help, i just think if i say anything to him, it will wind up with me going to jdc and/or one of us hurt, im just gettin tired of my parents treatin me like im 8, not 17, cause i cant do crap
thanks
edit: one reason my parents wont hep with a car is because i want a 240sx, they dont like that car (or almost any car for me) for some reason

Thats bullshit, ADHD isn't a factor anymore as far as Army Recruiting goes....if you really want to join the military don't mention it, and they won't mention it either....they know you have it...you know you have it...it's just understood that they need bodies...now the navy is more picky i know from experience....they don't take anyone with asvab scores below 35....almost too picky...and I was in the same situation...I hated my step dad and still do even after being out of the house for two years...I wanted to break his face every second I was around him but he is the adult and is in charge....I would talk to your mother....and if not talk to your real father if you're still good with him and see if he can talk to your mother and possibly get involved in a civilized non-Jerry Springer manner...

[doberman_52]

Originally Posted by Masonovsky!

Thats bullshit, ADHD isn't a factor anymore as far as Army Recruiting goes....if you really want to join the military don't mention it, and they won't mention it either....they know you have it...you know you have it...it's just understood that they need bodies...now the navy is more picky i know from experience....they don't take anyone with asvab scores below 35....almost too picky...and I was in the same situation...I hated my step dad and still do even after being out of the house for two years...I wanted to break his face every second I was around him but he is the adult and is in charge....I would talk to your mother....and if not talk to your real father if you're still good with him and see if he can talk to your mother and possibly get involved in a civilized non-Jerry Springer manner...

Yea, i got a 69 or something like that on my asvab, and ive been thinking navy, so just dont mention the pills? i thought they checked that out tho, but im not sure, funny to mention my real dad, i just met him for the second time in my life on around the 23 or so, he sopposedly says he isnt because the tests supposedly came negitive, but he was heavily into drugs at the time, i know i wont get any help from him, but i will be talking to my mom soon, hopefully saturday, i wont really see her till then because i work till 10:30 tonie and tomorow, and im in school, but i dont think it will help much because she seems to get pissed at me when we have these discusions, about cars (i really need a new one) and such, she thinks that im suck a bad kid when im not, she has called the cops on me 3 times and almost put me in jdc or had a CHINS petition put on me, all in 2 1/2 years, because i got pissed, thats it, didnt hit any one or anything, but i dont know what will happen yet

[Masonovsky!]

the best advice I can give you is patience I guess...and put all that anger and negative energy into something good....start building models or start a project car with a buddy....whenever i'd get pissed i'd go for a quick ride downtown, flip the through the gears a little bit and just avoid making the situation worse....and when you move out and make something of yourself then you can be like "whats up now?!".....as far as the navy goes, it depends on your recruiter...let your recruiter know after he's known you a little bit and if he likes you he will try to get you in...so just give a great impression the first time and show him that there isn't anything you'd rather do that serve your country....if the adhd isn't a problem...and you just had some problems in school then fuck it...who cares....as long as you can aim a weapon or fix something, you've got a skill and are valuable....

[doberman_52]

Originally Posted by Masonovsky!

the best advice I can give you is patience I guess...and put all that anger and negative energy into something good....start building models or start a project car with a buddy....whenever i'd get pissed i'd go for a quick ride downtown, flip the through the gears a little bit and just avoid making the situation worse....and when you move out and make something of yourself then you can be like "whats up now?!".....as far as the navy goes, it depends on your recruiter...let your recruiter know after he's known you a little bit and if he likes you he will try to get you in...so just give a great impression the first time and show him that there isn't anything you'd rather do that serve your country....if the adhd isn't a problem...and you just had some problems in school then fuck it...who cares....as long as you can aim a weapon or fix something, you've got a skill and are valuable....

well, the friend that i was helping with a project car just moved (in fact, 2 of my best friends moved over christmas break, and i dont really have many friends), im not to interested in model cars or video games at the moment because i want to go and do something like work on a car, i want to get my own project so badly, but mom says no, plus, my mom doesnt like me driving becaus ive been in like 5 accidents (2 my fault, i rolled once and side swiped another) but nothin to major, except when i rolled, but if i leave when im pissed, i will get the po-po called like i did the last three times, and i did literally nothing wrong, except raise my voice a little bit, and that was it, im going to talk to my mom on saturday and hope that she gets some of my points, and doesnt get pissed

[beef_bourito]

i'd suggest you start working out or excercising, it'll help you take out the aggression on something constructive and the endorphins should help you feel happier.

[Cl0ak]

Ignore him, you live in their house you have to take their shit. When you have a good enough job or join the military than you can tell him to go screw himself but for now anything you do will make matters worse. Its not fun being tossed out on your own when you aren't ready trust me bro been there.

Do what you gotta do to get away from them, but for now just pick the towel up off the floor, when you're older and get married your wife will be the one yelling at you for that. Not to sound like an ass but just givin it to you straight.

If you really do consider the military as a career, get used to being told what to do. Every minute of your day at least for a few months will be laid out and you will do what you are told. Try leaving a towel laying around the barracks or having a sleep in.

[BrodyP]

Originally Posted by beef_bourito

i'd suggest you start working out or excercising, it'll help you take out the aggression on something constructive and the endorphins should help you feel happier.

This is a good idea also holds true w/ exgirlfriends