I feel like somethings wrong here

[Vtec913]

I'm 16 years old, and I feel like theres something wrong. I have only gone out on one date in my life, and it was with her and her friend, and 20 minutes in right before the movie she told me she didnt want to start a relationship (kind of ruined the movie). I rarely have legitamite conversations with girls and stuff, and whenever I do it just feels like the girl is talking to me just to humor me. I don't do anything that would make them think I was wierd or anything, I dont think I'm really bad looking or anything (matter of opinion I suppose) I just get down alot thinking about how lonely I get, and end up feeling depressed when I see other people and stuff. I just needed to get this out here (haven't been on here for a while, good to be back)

[mike@af]

I've been in a similar situation, usually after breakups, about feeling down. The best advice is to quit worrying about it man. You're 16, you're still very young. Most of your best dating years will be in college. Quit looking for a relationship, the best relationships occur totally unexpectedly.

Short, simple, and maybe blunt, but its true advice.

[XeVeNskyLiNE]

^Agreed.

Don't sweat it man, you really don't want a "relationship" at this age because more than likely it'll be a bunch of bullshit. I say just get yourself out there alot, party, hang out with friends, and someone will eventually come along. Eventually just date girls, not wife them, lol.

[beef_bourito]

+1

i was the same way when i was 16, then i started having more confidence and lost some weight and some girls started to notice me more. honestly don't worry about it, high school's bullshit, once you get out of there you can start living and growing into who you are. until then just enjoy the moment and don't search for a relationship, just let it happen. eventually someone good will come your way.

[Cl0ak]

Everyone else said it already i'll just add my

I was in the same situation, went out with a few girls when I was younger, never really had a relationship with any of them. After high school you'll see a whole new world open up. The girls stop being..girls..and become women. Less bullshit, more fun. Don't sweat it you'll find someone when you stop trying so hard.

[XeVeNskyLiNE]

Believe me, the last thing you want is to get into a relationship with a girl who hasn't matured yet. They'll be countless fights and you'd be lucky if she realizes her mistakes. I could speak from personal experience all day long, but I'd rather go drop a duece than talk about my fucked up ex.

[beef_bourito]

yeah highschool girls suck, there was only one i could see myself being with, she was the only mature one there. fuck 'em, it's really not worth the trouble, and you won't get much out of it.

[capricorn]

I wouldn't worry about it. Highschool is just one of those times where you look back to use as a reference point as to where you will be 5-10 years from then. That's the way I see it. I was a regular guy- nothing really outstanding from me and never had a date until late into my college years. I was quiet and reserved back then and didn't have much confidence. But you know what, I bump into the highschool and college hotties at the bars every so often and guess what... they would tell me that if I only opened my mouth and asked for a date, I would've been granted one. On the same token, it may just be that you're unaware of the girls that do find an interest in you and that maybe taking a bit of a risk would reward you beyond your imagination. Chin up- you're young and your youth should not be wasted on being depressed. Rather it should be about taking risks and making the most of your time being young.

[poormillionaire2]

They speak the truth. I say, worry about graduating high school first, because females can gum up the the works. That's the last thing you need is a distraction and a huge headache. Plus, you can look at it this way, you're saving money. Some (not all, but some) girls are expensive. So don't worry about it, high school relationships seldom last through high school. There are many more fish in the sea. I had my first serious relationship towards the end of my senior year. I was 18, and she was 21. So, she wasn't cursed with the inexperience of life that high school girls are.
So keep your chin up, you still have your best years ahead of you.

[beef_bourito]

Originally Posted by poormillionaire2

high school relationships seldom last through high school.

so true, i only know of one relationship from high school that actually lasted through, they went out for the last 2 years of high school, and they're still going out (just finished the first semester of university), although it helps that they're going to universities in the same city (one goes to carleton university like me, the other goes to ottawa U, and thus is dead to me)

[indyram]

If you are always feeling down and depressed you may not realize it but people will see that. Do your best to remain positive and in a good mood, always no matter what be confident in anything you do. Even if you aren't that great at something, but are confident you will actually look like you know what you are doing. Keep that attitude and you will be much more fun to be around and things will change for the better. Like everyone else said don't worry about a relationship now, females are just a headache any how.

[-Davo]

Originally Posted by Vtec913

I'm 16 years old, and I feel like theres something wrong. I have only gone out on one date in my life, and it was with her and her friend, and 20 minutes in right before the movie she told me she didnt want to start a relationship (kind of ruined the movie). I rarely have legitamite conversations with girls and stuff, and whenever I do it just feels like the girl is talking to me just to humor me. I don't do anything that would make them think I was wierd or anything, I dont think I'm really bad looking or anything (matter of opinion I suppose) I just get down alot thinking about how lonely I get, and end up feeling depressed when I see other people and stuff. I just needed to get this out here (haven't been on here for a while, good to be back)

+1 dude

i didn't get my first date till 17, and my mate recently only got HIS first date at 20 so don't feel so down

[mopar man]

Originally Posted by beef_bourito

yeah highschool girls suck, there was only one i could see myself being with, she was the only mature one there. fuck 'em, it's really not worth the trouble, and you won't get much out of it.

Man high school girls do suck man Im 17 right now and dont worry bout it just hang out at parties but dont get so wasted that that ugly goat starts looking good. dont worry about it you dont have to live up to anyones expectations.

[blakscorpion21]

i know how you feel man, i didnt get a gf(besides elementery school foolishness) untill my junior year of h.s. and she was the only one ive had since, we dated for 2 years and i finally couldnt take it anymore. she was 2 years yourger than me and immature as hell, but at the time i had no other options so i stayed in it. that and sex are the only reasons i stuck around. now i am a soppomore in college and have been single for about 6 months and i am starting to fell the same way again. just get the nerve to talk to a girl you find attractive, i know this is something i have a real problem with as well and it kinda sucks but thats the only way to get chicks. damn i need one too. lol.

[beef_bourito]

+1, talk to all the girls you can, the more you do that, the more comfortable you'll get with it. it's like everything else, practice makes perfect, so practice all you can to get rid of the nerves. although they'll never be completely gone, you can learn to deal with them. that's how i do it, i take every chance i get to talk to girls, flirt with girls, because: 1) it'll make me more confident in my ability and it'll be good practice, and 2) who knows when you'll hit it off with some random girl you never met before. just take chances and you'll eventually succeed.

now i'm off to sleep, some girl gave me a really bad cold and i feel like crap.