my friend is crushing hardcore...

[highteknology]

i dunno whether this should be in stress release or here. I'll just throw all my ideas up here and if the need for moving it is there, then move it.

Well ever since March, my friend has had a HUGE crush on this girl. He never really had the balls to ask her out and I wasn't quite sure if she liked him back. Well the summer ended and fall semester began, I started taking notice of my friend's crush's roommate (if you follow any of that). Basically me and her are now going out. All four of us are good friends. My friend and my girl's roomie are now officially in the "friend zone" but now that he sees what me and my girl have he wants it too, and with the roommate.

The day before thanksgiving i had a little party at my place. both of these girls were there along with my friend and some of of our fraternity brothers and other sorority girls. He got really drunk and i started talking to him. He basically said that he thinks he loves her. This is coming from a guy who has never really had a real serious relationship before. He said he was just going to tell her and blah blah blah. I told him not to, and soon after he passed out.

Fast forward to last night.

We were all hanging out in my friend's room. The two girls are over there along with our 'brother's and their 'sisters'. One of my pledge brothers got some bad news about a girl he liked and now he is all depressed and decided to flirt with my friend's crush. Needless to say my friend got quite mad and just left the room. Then he started texting me about how this other guy was CBing him and how he wanted me to get him out of my friend's room.

Basically, it was a huge drama fest that was supposed to be a good drunken time. My dilemma is, my friend is mad at me for not sticking up for him and talking trash to my pledge brother about him hitting on my friend's crush. One he is my pledge brother and i'm not gonna do that. But at the same time, i HAVE to stand up for my friend, we have been boys since beginning of high school and we don't let each other down. The third part is if i act like a dick to my girl's roommate, it has repercussions with us two. There are more details but i think this is the jist of the whole thing. I'm just looking for some advice on what to do.



CLIFF NOTES: My friend likes my girl's roommate. Roommate and my friend are in the 'friend zone'. My 'brother' CB'ed my friend last night. Friend is mad at me for not standing up for him. If i did my girl would be mad at me, because I would be doing something that her roommate doesn't want.

[BleedDodge]

CB radio?

[beef_bourito]

the second word is block

[G-man422]

If your friend has liked this girl since the summer, then he needs to do sumthin about it before she gets picked up. simple as that.

[capricorn]

My friends and I have a rule- whenever there's conflict between friends or even girlfriends of friends, stay out and let them deal with whatever it is between the two. You don't want to be caught in between nor do you want to pick a side. You're gonna get screwed by either party if you voice any opinion but being Switzerland in this case would hopefully grant you some asylum (haha, no pun intended).

[jon@af]

Originally Posted by capricorn

My friends and I have a rule- whenever there's conflict between friends or even girlfriends of friends, stay out and let them deal with whatever it is between the two. You don't want to be caught in between nor do you want to pick a side. You're gonna get screwed by either party if you voice any opinion but being Switzerland in this case would hopefully grant you some asylum (haha, no pun intended).

I second that.

The only person he has the right to be pissed at is himself. He should have taken a shot when he wasn't in the "friend zone" instead of waiting for something to happen.

[Gohan Ryu]

Originally Posted by G-man422

If your friend has liked this girl since the summer, then he needs to do sumthin about it before she gets picked up. simple as that.

Does your friend think he's going to win this chick over by walking out of the room whenever some other guy starts talking to her? Then he texts you from the other room about how mad he is? Is he trying to become the 40 Year Old Virgin?

Poor guy needs some confidence. Go get him laid or something.

[highteknology]

Originally Posted by Gohan Ryu

Go get him laid or something.

we try, but the thing is he is SO stuck on this girl he doesn't even want to consider other ones.

[beef_bourito]

then get her laid and make sure he knows about it. i was crushing on this girl for a while then she got a boyfriend, after that i tried to get over her because i knew that there was no point in pursuing her until she broke up, i could tell her how i feel about her but ultimately nothing's going to happen while she's in a relationship. i started seeing other people, and now although i still really like her and i'd go out with her if i had the chance, i'm very open to other girls and i'm pursuing other girls instead.

pretty much he needs to get over her and i think the only way for you to help would be to stay back and let stuff happen. don't take his bullshit and put him in his place, let him know he's acting like an idiot and tell him you won't be involved in his relationships and that he needs to do it himself.