rushed into relationship...

[speedphreak]

I feel almost foolish. I meet this girl, we go out. Things are great..yada yada yada. Now, I honestly don't know why I am with this girl, and I don't see where we are going in the future. I mean, the sex is great...but I feel like I am wasting my time. This sucks. And on top of that, I am strangely attracted to one of her roomates! Any thoughts?

-Chris

[2.2 Straight six]

you need to talk some time alone, to think about this relationship. by the sounds of it you had a spur-of-the-moment relationship based on, i dunno, looks or physical attraction?

i'm guessing that your personalities don't "click".

what you need to tell us is what it is that's bothering you. do you not talk like in proper conversations or something? or when you're together is it all sex-orientated?

maybe you feel like this because there's a lack of communication or talking. what drew you to her? looks or personality?

desire is important, but relationships depend on a non-physical bond, a personality-based thing. if you two don't just get along on that front, it's not going to work.

i think the first step is to take some time just to think about all this.

[speedphreak]

Well honestly I was attracted her looks in the very beginning. Then I started picking up on some of her personality, just what she thought about in general I thought was cool. She seemed interesting. We could have conversation and what not. It seems that I spend more time with friends than I do with her. She stays over at my place pretty often, and theres rarely a time that we don't have sex..sometimes more that once. Our personalities are complete opposites.....now she is just starting to annoy me. Shes a talker, and I am relatively quiet. I should do something quick before like umm...December, yeah.....I have already met the parents, but now she wants to take me to her hometown and shit..and I dont think Im ready for that...not with this girl at least, you know? God, this is a horrible situation.....

And on top of that, theres her roomate. She is also a graphics student where I go to college. I dunno, I see more potential in her than who I am with now. I guess I'll sleep on it.

-Chris

[ghostrx7]

chances with the roomate are slim now that u banged her, im sure they tell each other everything, and they wouldnt cause that kind of drama in there place over a guy. id slow things down, maybe hang out with ur friends a little more, and put her on the backburner and go from there....

[poormillionaire2]

If you don't feel its right for you, don't waste your time and her time and just move on. Take a 'break' and spend some time apart to see if you miss her at all (apart from all the sex). Or just end it and start all over, its not the end of the world if you made a mistake. Just recognize the mistake, identify the problem, and resolve it accordingly for the best results for you. This is your problem, not her's, so do what you need to do for you. And if that means ending it, then end it. No need to drag things on.

[speedphreak]

I did it everyone. I broke up with her! Gosh, it felt so good. As for the roomate...yyyeah, we are talking. Things are going great. My ex didn't find it to cute...but fuckdatbitch. She told me..and I quote..."if you loved me, you should bend over backwards for me." end quote. Yeah, except we only dated for 2 months. The word "love" was so far off my list of things to say to her its not even funny. She was the strangest girl I have ever dated..well maybe second to my previous ex. Well, that all aside, life is grand.

As for the roomate situation...we are talking, flirting...feeling each other out. Great experiences so far. we are taking it slow, unlike my last relationship we fucked on the 3rd date..... I am enjoying being with the new girl, we have much more of a connection. Our personalities are much the same so we can communicate freely with one another. So thats the story ladies and gentlemen.

-Chris

[Oz]

Good work son

[speedphreak]

Haha Oz. Thanks man. I try.

-Chris