Feeling odd about a girl...really odd

[Muscletang]

I just got a question for you guys, have you ever acted strangly around a girl you would have never thought you would of?

Let me explain...

I started my classes and saw some very cute girls but there was one that was in my business comm. class that was DROP DEAD FUCKING HOT.

Ok I see her and think "can work on that this semester" and go on to my other classes. Well I go to my Ethics class and see this one girl that was "so so" (not the hottest, but she isn't ugly, just an average girl). I go to my Humanities class and she's in there too and that's all I really noticed. I didn't really pay much attention to her because I had the business class girl I thought about and a girl at work as well.

Well I talked to the hot girl and...felt nothing. I wasn't really nervous going up to her just felt...nothing. Also, the girl at work didn't work out as well because I felt...nothing.

What is strange though is the girl I thought was "so so" at the start of the semester in my Ethics and Humanites class is becoming...hotter. For some reason I have the hardest time even trying to speak to her now.

I don't get it at all. I figured I wouldn't have the balls to talk to the hot girl but it's the other way around. The girl I found "so so" I'm having a hard time just walking around her. The more I look at her, the more I seem to like and want her.

It doesn't make ANY sense at all to me. The two girls I "thought" I wanted, I didn't. The more I came into contact with them, the less I want them. While the other girl, the more I come into contact with her, the more I seem to want her.

Like today I tried to say something, I couldn't. I'm asking myself, "what in the hell is wrong with you, you gutless little pussy? You've walked up and talked to hotter girls, why can't you with this one?"

Now I'm not saying I've fallen head over heals in love with this girl because I've hardly talked to her at all. The thing is, I haven't felt this way before and it's really odd. Of all these hot girls I've had classes with and stuff, I'm having the hardest time even getting near the one I thought wasn't anything special on the first day of class. I mean I've had cold feet and been shy around girls but...not like this. If it is cold feet, it's the worst case I've ever had in my life, no joke.

So my question...

Has this ever happened to any of you guys before? If so, do you have any advice for me or have any ideas of what's going on? Just any help or advice would be great because...I'm stumped on this one. As I said I've never felt this way and it's...odd.

Note: If you're going to make some vagina face remarks or say something like, "oh Muscletang doesn't like hotties, just average girls" well please do something for me. Instead of wasting my time typing out your message, go fist your mom and put those fingers to good use.

I'm looking for help and advice here, not insults.

[vinnym86]

hahaha, sounds like my junior year in high school. This one girl who was hot in the most subtle way was the girl i would trip on words with. I mean, i had no idea how to approach this girl after a while. well, homecoming was coming up, but i couldn't go to it for whatever reason, so i asked her to prom which was later in the year. She went to homecoming, won homecoming queen, so i was taking the queen to prom, awsome!
just punch yourself in the nuts and go for it. just cuz its "odd" doesn't mean its right, but its definitely something new. try it out, see if you have anything in common, and go with it. In my case, there was nothing after prom, really. she was a very religious "jesus freak" and i was sort of a metal-head... not much in common there, so dates ended up to be quite boring after a while.

edit: i did take a piss on her property after dropping her off from prom's afterparty... if anyone remembers that thread from like a year ago, lol

[Muscletang]

Originally Posted by vinnym86

just punch yourself in the nuts and go for it. just cuz its "odd" doesn't mean its right

True, but as I said, I shouldn't be acting like this. I've done this before but for some reason I'm back to square one with this girl? I was just thinking about it today and was scratching my head and decided if anybody on here was ever, or is, in my shoes.

Originally Posted by vinnym86

edit: i did take a piss on her property after dropping her off from prom's afterparty... if anyone remembers that thread from like a year ago, lol

Yes I remember that, funny stuff.

[Oz]

It's quite simple really. For one reason or another, you're putting the 'average' girl on a pedestal in your mind. You're building her up for some reason. Maybe she can hold an interesting conversation, or has an electrifying smile, who knows? There's something in your brains wiring that is telling you that you're attracted to her, and because you haven't gone up to her and talked to her yet, it just keeps building up and up.

My advice? Go and talk to her straight away, but don't be nervous. Tell yourself before you talk to her: She's just another normal person, I won't be nervous or act weird around her. Try and show her all your best qualities - your variety of interests, your sense of humour etc. Ask her out on as soon as you have basic repore going.

[Muscletang]

Originally Posted by Oz

It's quite simple really. For one reason or another, you're putting the 'average' girl on a pedestal in your mind. You're building her up for some reason. Maybe she can hold an interesting conversation, or has an electrifying smile, who knows? There's something in your brains wiring that is telling you that you're attracted to her, and because you haven't gone up to her and talked to her yet, it just keeps building up and up.

That sounds very logical and simple

Originally Posted by Oz

My advice? Go and talk to her straight away, but don't be nervous. Tell yourself before you talk to her: She's just another normal person, I won't be nervous or act weird around her. Try and show her all your best qualities - your variety of interests, your sense of humour etc. Ask her out on as soon as you have basic repore going.

This is probably what has been getting me. I built this image up and now I'm nervous about it. Sounds good.

P.S. Did you minor in psychology Oz? Because some of your post sound exactly like the kind of talk my psyche teacher used when she really got into her lectures and mental discussions.

[my99cavy]

Originally Posted by Oz

My advice? Go and talk to her straight away, but don't be nervous. Tell yourself before you talk to her: She's just another normal person, I won't be nervous or act weird around her. Try and show her all your best qualities - your variety of interests, your sense of humour etc. Ask her out on as soon as you have basic repore going.

...que Dr. Phils voice but seriously I totally agee with Oz, just go and talk to her man dont be nervous about it. like Oz said shes just another girl dont get yourself all worked up and nervous just do it .

[Oz]

lol - no. I've read some psychology books, a few people I know have psych degree's but really, I know because I'm older than you and I've been there and done that.

[ghostrx7]

right on guys, u see this girl and the more u wait to talk to her, the more anxiety u build up. when u finally do talk to her, im sure ull b nervous, but she might like it knowing that shes the one making u nervous.

[vinnym86]

kinda like what Oz said, and to steal a quote from 40 year old virgin, "don't put the pussy on a pedestal"

[Damien]

um, advice talk to her.

as for the situation, the hottest girl i have ever laid eyes on, felt nothing for her. Thought she was hot, but like, i couldn't even picture myself with her. Idk why, but seriously, like Rachel Sterling, only not pornstarish.

[00accord44]

Originally Posted by vinnym86

kinda like what Oz said, and to steal a quote from 40 year old virgin, "don't put the pussy on a pedestal"

My thoughts exactly

[fredjacksonsan]

Maybe so-so girl has developed a personality and intelligence, and the hot chick is depending on her looks, and you're starting to notice the difference.

But like Dr. Oz said, don't put her on a pedestal. Just ask her out.