Self -centered? Immature?

[alphalanos]

My girlfriend(18) is too immature. I (19) cant dumb myself down anymore to accept it. Everytime she comes to my house, the first thing she does is push past me an look at her self in the mirror. Ok, maybe she wants to make sure she looks ok. But she doesnt even look at me before she does this. Just today we were outside, and she got in her car ready to leave. We saw this lawn care worker in his truck, taking a nap and playing classical music. (not your regular lawn care, lol) Anyway, she turned on her stereo, which is somewhat loud, and starts playing some annoying song. Im like " turn it down a little that guy is trying to rest". Her- "he should rest at home" me- "hes on break obviously" me- "you should respect other people a little more" She got mad. Her sense of humor is crude. She always talks to her friends about sex, etc. And I am so sick of it. Now she barely says anything to me because thats like all she thinks about. I feel like im just on another level compared to her. I feel bad about it, but its been like this for the whole 2 1/2 years we've been together. Sometimes when im leaving her house at night, shell just give me the silent treatment for something ive done, and i cant leave until i pry it out of her. On a few occasions ive been there until like 2 am, trying to make amends.

Should I just wait it out and see if she matures? Everytime I try to reason with her, she gets mad. Shes always like "you never get me flowers" and I feel really bad about that but Im just busy, I dont really have extra money to buy something thats going to die. Isnt it enough that Im devoted to her and love her?

[imtheoneandonlyD]

honestly, i dont think you can change people. If you mean enough to them they will change themselves. The only thing you can do is let her know your feelings on the situation and hope it works out.

[Nicole8188]

Women like that never change.

Don't give her the flowers, she'll just start asking for more expensive things...


I'm joking, sort of. I don't really know what to tell you. I know a lot of people like that, I just don't associate with them.

[2.2 Straight six]

i try to make a change in my friends, try to make them into better people. it never works. change comes from the inside.

[driftinggrifter2]

We'll youve dealt with it for 2 1/2 yrs so there is something there. I would sit her down and have a heart to heart bout things that aggravate you and im sure she'll have some to say to you and then figure out if ya'll are willing to change for one another or if its time to split

[Muscletang]

Originally Posted by alphalanos

She always talks to her friends about sex, etc. And I am so sick of it. Now she barely says anything to me because thats like all she thinks about.

Is she like a nymphomaniac or something? Also, if she's talking about that a whole lot with her friends you sure it isn't some other guy she's talking about?

Anyway, I say you just sit her down, tell her you're sick of all her shit, and tell her it's over. Maybe then you might see how she really feels.

[BleedDodge]

Can she cook at all? Any good?

[quteasabutton]

Originally Posted by BleedDodge

Can she cook at all? Any good?

normally i have to tell a guy to stop thinkin with his dick. that never seems to be the problem with you, it's more your stomach...

anyways, yeah that girl is acting like she's 14. it won't ever end, that's just how some of us ladies are sadly. try putting a mirror on the wall next to your front door and before letting her in tell her you put a mirror out there just for her :P

i say dump her, teach her a lesson. she's not going to change ever or at least for awhile, and it will only frustrate you more. time for you to find a better girl who will treat you right and isn't so concerned about her appearance. ur with her cuz you like the way she looks (or maybe her personality at one point), and you seem like a nice guy, so i doubt u ever call her ugly or fat or anything else that would make her insecure around you. she just has problems, and they shouldn't have to be your problems any longer.

[Rally Sport]

Yeah dude, just dump her.. she wont change till about a couple of years..

[alphalanos]

my email notification isnt working. Thanks for all the input. I think this is just the way she is. She has already said that she would want to get married down the line, and I know that marriage is definetly not in my plans. My priority is myself, like it or not. She knows how I feel about it and I think she has the idea that I probably wouldnt do it. But dont get me wrong, shes really sweet, and I think I made her out to be a little too vain, when she isnt that bad. Shes definetly not rich, in fact, she makes me look rich. (which im not either; I drive a 10 year old Civic) But I agree that she isnt my type. Oh well I just wanted to make sure it wasnt just me having thoughts and that other people feel the same way.

[RickwithaTbird]

I had a girlfriend like that. If I talked to her about the immature things she does, even in the nicest possible way; all she would have done is say "If you don't like it then break up with me." I'll bet your girl would do it too. You're in too deep for it to work out with her dawg. She'll change when you seriously break up with her. That's the way it goes. Until then, she's comfortable with a naive boyfriend who lets her be self centered and immature. And she's probably cheating on you. You won't change her until you stop trying. I promise.

[ghostrx7]

break it off, buy her a rose for 2.95 at ur local hodgie mart after a week or two, and turn it into a bootycall......ex's r the best!

[RickwithaTbird]

Originally Posted by ghostrx7

break it off, buy her a rose for 2.95 at ur local hodgie mart after a week or two, and turn it into a bootycall......ex's r the best!

That's why I love havin you around! lmao.

^^^Very good advice. Everyone fucks their ex's.

[ghostrx7]

hahaha, all true....

[fredjacksonsan]

Originally Posted by Nicole8188

Women like that never change...I know a lot of people like that, I just don't associate with them.

And there it is.