So I'm not rich with experience in this field

[Broke_as_****]

http://portland.craigslist.org/about...152468438.html

But there is some stuff in there I can really see in some past relationship.

Especially the bit about women freely admiting to and giggling when they break a given "rule".

[NintyNineZ]

All very true. I wish the world was just loving and caring....



Ok i couldnt care less.

[clawhammer]

Very informative. Nice find.

[imtheoneandonlyD]

That was a fun read. Good post.

[jon@af]

Originally Posted by From the article

MYTH: I should find one woman I like who likes me, and stick with her through thick and thin.

TRUTH: This is the biggest mistake I ever made. I used to be loyal to whomever I was with, even when someone better came along. All that happened was that I missed out on some great opportunities while I hung on with losers that ended up dumping me anyway. Do this if the two of you are getting married; once you've tied the knot it's a whole other can of worms. However, if you're just dating, do exactly the opposite. In very subtle ways you have to let her know that although you like her, there are lots of other women out there and you still notice them. Glance at tits and legs. Smile at and chat with pretty ladies, even while she's with you (you're just being friendly, of course). This is the most important thing I've learned about dating in a decade. I even thought of dating WASP bitches again, so long as I could keep this in mind. Never, never let her know that she's the only game in town. As soon as she believes that she's your "everything," she'll start whining and bitching and making demands.

I'm not sure I agree with this. Maybe it's me but I don't see anything wrong with letting my girlfriend know that, while there ARE othe women out there, I'm not as concerned with them as I am her. Maybe I'm missing the point of his comment, but what it basically says to me is to give the "love" you have for your partner a superficial "I love you" stamp. It also suggests to me that when things get difficult and there happens to be someone who looks good and seems to be a good catch, you dump whoever you with for someone better. If that were the case, I would have been broken up with my girlfriend a long time ago. But that's not it, relationships take patience and work, ditching a woman because things get tough is bullshit.

My thought on this is, if you find someone who you really love and they love you, then go with it. If you get into a relationship with someone, keeping in mind "well, lets not forget that they're could be someone better," then what is to keep you from being in relationship after relationship because of that "don't get too attached, there could be someone better" attitude.

I don't know, he makes some good points, but a lot of it seems to be him sharing his jaded feelings towards failed relationships.

[2.2 Straight six]

i agree, living with the mentality that your girlfriend is "replacable" is bad, letting her know is worse. i think when you've found someone you really love you should work on that, and stick with it. i'm not giving up on the girl i love just because i could find somone closer, personally i dont think i could find somone better.

[Nicole8188]

Same. When you really love someone you have to work through obstacles, like oceans and other random stuff.

[2.2 Straight six]

it's really pointless just moving to another person. it might seem like you're getting someting better at the time but further down the road it might not be like that. just because you're moving on to someone you think is a "better option" at the time, there's no guarantee that it'll always be like that. for me, now i've found someone i really love i'm going to do everything to be with them.

she really got the raw deal when she found me...

[Nicole8188]

Oh shut up. I did not.

And all the stuff Chris just said, ditto for me.

[vinnym86]

^aww, isnt that cute


nice find. i don't agree with a lot of it, but its funny. generalized, though, it hits the nail on the head.

i think the problem with the guy that posted is that like he said he "warships" women. well, girl's are amazing, no matter how crazy they become when they're pms'ing, but just flirting with someone you like or kissing someone in a nice spring day, i think they're there for the same reason you are, to enjoy yourself. in a relationship, all they really want is just a good time. and not be betrayed, so don't cheat you drunk fuck. don't fuck it up. i don't care if she's like adriana lima hot, don't do it. but if ita actually her, adriana lima... shit... guys gotta do what a guys gotta do...

what? am i even following the topic here?

...bewbs!!

[Broke_as_****]

I think the whole thing about letting a girlfriend know she could be replaced and if something much better comes along go for it is being taken in a different way then what the author meant it.

Obviously, if you really love someone and feel they are someone you could spend the rest of your life with then that part doesn't really apply. Like he states at the begining, those in loving marriages and happy stable relationships don't really need to read this. But, given a mostly casual relationship that you can't really see going anywhere serious, if someone you can see being serious with comes along don't be afraid to take the chance. Thats how I read into that.

[2.2 Straight six]

personally, i think if it's just a casual relationship that you know isn't going anywhere you shouldn't be in it at all, if you're in such a relationship it implies that you're shallow, and most likely only want one thing.

i really don't see the point of being in a pointless relationship "for the sake of it."

[Broke_as_****]

Originally Posted by 2.2 Straight six

personally, i think if it's just a casual relationship that you know isn't going anywhere you shouldn't be in it at all, if you're in such a relationship it implies that you're shallow, and most likely only want one thing.

i really don't see the point of being in a pointless relationship "for the sake of it."

Well I can see what you're saying, just being in a relationship for the sake of being in one because you think you need to be is kind of stupid. But at the same time, just because the relationship is going to go anywhere serious, it doesn't mean it isn't fun and can't be good for you.

If nothing else, it's just nice to be someone sometimes. Even if that person isn't someone you're going to spend the rest of your life with you can still be with someone, have alot of good times and learn something that may help you in that life long relationship. Girl I was just dating, thought it was serious, turns out it wasn't. But I have a huge amount of good memories and learned alot.

Remember that in the end, all you have in life is the experiences.

[2.2 Straight six]

true, my ex and i were together because i couldn't bring myself to say no, i thought she'd be upset. i later found out she was with me to be closer to my best mate. not cool.

[quteasabutton]

Dump the bitch. This is just far too dangerous. If you doubt this, imagine sitting in court, accused of rape. "Did she tell you no, Mr. Smith?" "Yeah, but afterward she tried to rip my pants off, then stripped naked and sat on my face!" "But did she say no, Mr. Smith?" "Umm... yes she did." "Case closed."

haha that was amusing, but the guy is lying to you. 99% of the time when we tell you no, we're not playing hard to get. seriously. it pisses us off nothing more when we tell him no and he can't take a hint. how more direct could we be anyways? this is ESPECIALLY true with sexual stuff. when i said no don't touch me there, i fucking meant it. that doesn't mean keep trying until you have to hold me down and i'm begging you to stop cuz i like it. i didn't agree with about 95% of the stuff that guy said but oh well, it's a guys perspective, i really doubt i'm supposed to. it did have good entertainment value tho