I need SERIOUS help guys: Family Matter

[Cyprus106]

Alright very long story slightly shorter. Without detail unless soembody needs it.

One of my best friends got pregnant 2 years ago. Her boyfriend and her did the right thing and got engaged, etc. Boyfriend's parents are rich. Boyfriend's parents told the two that if they didn't come back to (the boy's home state), they were cut off. So they left without warning almost immedietly to go to STATE. When they got there he basically dumped her and they got joint custody. ok so basically he d her into going to his state so she couldn't come back home and he was free to live his life under mommy and daddy's wing. His mommy thought the two wouldn't be fit enough parents, so she devised this whole scheme. ouch. So FRIEND is stuck up there, with joint custody... and unable to return home.
Alright, now... he took the child and has, as of yet, to give her back to her. It's been a month. She's desperate to get her child back, desperate to come home, she's a thousand miles away and has no friends and is just trying to survive and has no idea what to do.

I know very little about this since my child-birthing skills aren't what they used to be. She doesn't know who to ask or turn to and I figured of the smart minds we've got here, somebody would know something, or at least know some form of path to follow...

[Rally Sport]

Wow, that is quite a situation..

I'd kick FRIEND's ass

[Damien]

I'm puzzled by this intial "right thing" to do???

other than that, it's court BS. To discuss anything on custody. how to get her kid back, etc. you'll need to give details 'cause from this, she's screwed and just needs to move home.

[BleedDodge]

This is what lawyers are for.

[Knifeblade]

From what You describe, it's all in the court's court now. She should hook up with Friend of the Court for some legal advice and options, firstly.

Secondly, she should seriously think about getting out of the situation, [i.e., return back home], even sans child if necessary, but that hinges on legal advise firstly. One possible option is to reduce her rights to "visitation" so she can leave easier, and she can always re-file for joint after she gets her s*** back together and stabilizes.

Right now, she's screwed.

[Ralliart 3000gt]

Man thats really sad. just keep on supporting her, I would kick that rich kids ass. little bastard.

[TerminalVelocity]

yeah, what they all said.

Or kidnap child, kill him and family, hook up with her.

I recommend you dont do that, and instead get legal help. She needs to have her life together and then she could try to get full custody saying how he is an unfit parent and is neglecting the kid and leaving with his parents. And if she has a decent job and a stable home she can do it. Courts usually favor moms.

[-Jacko-]

Theres only one sane option......get drunk

[vinnym86]

wow, thats a textbook worst case scenario. i agree with a lawyer. the only thing is RICH PARENTS can afford EXPENSIVE LAWYER. so... best of luck. hope this situation plays out nicely.

Originally Posted by -Jacko-

Theres only one sane option......get drunk

^no.

(do that, and become an alcoholic. Drink to have fun, not to drown sorrow)

[Mannheim 80]

This is definately a legal issue. Sure are a lot of ??? Did they get married? When you say joint custody who determined that and what is the agreement?
If he's in violation of the agreement she can get a lawyer that can make her rich off of 'mommy and daddy"

Wish her the best

[TerminalVelocity]

thats true, for varous things a lawsuit can be tossed at mommy and daddy *and at the rick prick for that matter* but if they wernt married, and it wasnt a court that rendered that decision good luck to ya.

[fredjacksonsan]

Important thing about custody: are there any court documents which state there is joint custody? If not, either parent has the right to have the child. If there IS a court document, then she should rely on what that says.

There is also the matter of physical vs legal custody. For the physical, this states who the child lives with. For the legal, this states who makes the decisions in the child's upbringing. She may have any variety of custody situations.

What it comes down to is what's written in the court documents. If you can find out more about what (if any) there are, we'll be able to get a better handle on the situation.

Previous advice is correct though, she will need some legal assistance, probably, before this is all over. (Unless she chooses just to leave without the baby and possibly pay child support, which from your description she probably won't do)

[fredjacksonsan]

Oh yeah, and rich kid? He's a spineless puss that can't hack it on his own.

[MonsterBengt]

Thats a even more big of a deal when things can actually come to this in reality

[sv650s]

ummmm....what's joint custody?