My life is about to take a messed up turn...

[Blackcrow64]

Ok, some of you know me and some of you don't. I'm sorry for the randomness of this thread and I'm sorry for any language that may offend anyone but I need to do this. I have nobody around here anymore to talk to about this stuff and I honestly feel like I'm gonna spaz out...

I have had enough of the shit that goes on in my homelife. I've stayed here and endured it for as long as I can... All my friends tell me I'm stupid and that I don't realize how good I have it. What they don't know is that parents put up the biggest front in the world. Our family is so fake its not even funny... This morning was the last straw... This morning my dad woke me up at 8am to "shovel snow at the church." He stood there yelling at me to get up and get my ass moving... Keep in mind that church doesn't start till 10:30... I look outside and there is barely a dusting of snow but I go anyways. I get all the way there and as I get closer I see less and less snow. Get there, no fucking snow... I was pissed. So I came home and told him there was no snow there and I was going back to bed. He starts lecturing me about sleeping... He was complaining how he didn't get sleep so why do I need it. I was like, uh hello, I waited up till 3am for my little brother to get home so I could go to bed. Then he proceeds to tell me thats not his fault... When the hell did I say it was his fault? Anyways, I know he was in there snoring away not even knowing who was home for the night and who wasn't... So I told him fine I wouldn't wait up for my brother the next time. I come up to my room and the next thing I know I had my father in my face screaming at me. Because I'm 21 and I need to fucking grow up... Wanna know why he said it? Cause I'm not working 3+ jobs like he was at my age... I told him to calm down I'm trying to get a better job and then he starts choking me and shaking me... I'm like WTF get off me! He's sittin there screaming at me tell me that I'm not trying and that I fuckin wasted my time and money in college and that I'm gonna throw it all away. The reason, because I can't find a job anywhere around here and all the jobs elsewhere require either 2 years of experience or a bachelors degree... All I have is an associates degree and no experience. ITT fucking Tech is the worst school ever. DO NOT ever waste your money on those bastards. They said career services will help you to find a job and they do individual searchs for those who excel in their class blah blah blah... Went they asked me where I was willing to go when I gradauted I told them anywhere in the US... They looked at me kind of wierd but said ok. Wanna know what I've gotten since September? 1 damn phonecall for a job that wasn't even in my field... I got in contact with EVERYBODY that I graduated with, nobody has gotten a job yet. So this big old 'fuck you' goes out to ITT Tech and all its cock suckin employees that helped bend me over! But anyways, due to that I'm forced to work half assed jobs that barely pay my bills while living at home. Also the very reason I haven't moved out yet... Anyways, I finally get him off me and he stands there and keeps screaming about mindless bullshit. I'm like holy shit chill out... He storms out of my room and comes back and throws the paper at me and he told me to get a real job... I'm like wtf, he so just contradicted himself. First he is telling me that I wasted my time in college and blah blah blah and then he turns around and throws the paper at me which contains the shit jobs. (No offense to anyone working a shit job, ya gotta do what ya gotta do to survive.) So he starts yelling, AGAIN, and I get up and start grabbing my car keys and stuff and he jumps my ass about where I thought I was going like I was 16 again or something... I told him I was going outside to get the (imaginary) "snow" off my car... He just walked away from me then... I can't take it anymore though guys... He crossed the line when he started choking me... I am at this very moment trying to decide what things to pack up in my car and leave. The dilema, I am broke as fuck. I have like 130 dollars in my wallet and only a few hundred in the bank. I definetly can't move out on that... So, as much as I hate to, it looks like I have to sell all my shit to get out of here... Thoughts? Opinions? I would really love to hear them...

[nova1313]

not sure where your located but you could try applying to internships at a company called ppl. I work there it's in allentown, PA but... internship pay starts around 15 an hour. They hire to see experience. It's all IT work, and mostly not related to the degree you carry. Most of the experience you need is taught on job. Paid holiday's no other benefits as an intern though but good place none the less. It's a great job with a very stable company.

There is also a consulting company that hires people all over the place called accenture. They hire you and place you in the area you live or will relocate you. They pay really well supposedly and it's not to bad to work for.

And i'm sure this goes for not just me but everyone else here too if we can help you in any way just ask.


with the itt tech "degree" (is it a certificate or an associates?) you might be better off trying internships. That way they realize with your schooling your still well set to work in the corporate enviornment.

[Killa]

is that yur real dad ? chocking and beating is not a rite thing to do, do you have a closer friend r any relate to move into ? good luck man.

[scottsee]

I went to a tech college & couldn't find a job afterwords. Started sling'n pussy at the local Black Angus, untill I realised I hated my job 9 months later. If you have any personality and the ability to talk to anyone about anything; try selling cars! Worked great for me. It's amazing just how little you really work, how much $$ you make, and how much fun it is. I've been doing it for 4 years now.. Started off at 21, almost exactly in the same situation as you, without my old man trying to kill me, but with a 3 year old little girls & a EX from hell.. So, yeah, I know what drama feels like...

This is about the perfect time to get a job in the car business. Its the end of Winter, going into spring.. Things are begining to pick up; You get a Demo, $2500-$3000 garentee for the first 3 months while they train you.. It's just mentaly chananging. That fist time your Sales manager hands you $1000 cash of a weekend spiff + $350 bonus for a 3 car weekend + $500 to $2000 for the commision on the cars you you just sold.. You'll thank me!

[ned032002]

I'm sorry for the way that your dads treating you, I'm not sure what you can do about it but just start saving your pennys man and move out. I use to have a step mom that I now call my evil ex step mother, she was like a puppetier, she got off on controlling people. If she didn't have control then she would do everything in here power to have it. My dad use to be an over the road truck driver and we had here as a step mother from when I was 12 till I was 16 and it was hell. I haven't spoke to her in over 2 years and NEVER plan on talking to her, I think if I was to talk to her I would kill her. She even fucked my dad over, she forged his name on a loan for $7000 and never told him about it and now he has to pay on it until it's paid off. We use to live in a house that was quite expensive, and we weren't rich but she wanted the house and she talked my dad into getting the loan well since my dad was an over the road truck driver she would be the one to write the checks to pay the bills. Well guess what she never paid the mortgage. So we lost the house the same year we got it and my dads credit was fucked. The irony of the whole thing is that my dad made more that year then he ever did yet we lost the house? She was so wasteful and you know when she left, she bought a new Trailer and is still living there to this day, she bought it with some of the loan and with money that she was putting away in a savings account my dad didn't know about. Stupid bitch.

[Killa]

I drop out college to take nail school, I saw my little girl grow up every day, it mean I need to support her more, and Im only 20, life getting harder when u have kid and yur ex wanted your money.

[Gsx_hooptie]

Not cool, time to bail. Get out and don't deal with the shit.

I don't know much about ITT or what you're qualified for, so I can't help you much there. My best advice is to get qualified in an area that has need, where they'll search you out rather than the other way around. Nursing and some other historically chick jobs are good for that. For now I'd take one of those shit jobs you're dissing or be an intern. Also peep Forbes' 100 best companies to work for.

I know this is heretical to say on the ETL forum, but don't put money into your car for the moment. Priorities need to be set. Good luck.

[scottsee]

kids add a completely diffrent emotional priority into your life..

[Talon69]

Originally Posted by scottsee

kids add a completely diffrent emotional priority into your life..

Yes they do!!! My daughter will be 8 March 1st!!!

[scottsee]

My oldest daughter turned 8 on the 15th of Fubuary & my youngest will be 7 on July 21st.

[Blackcrow64]

Yeah I'm definetly not putting anymore money into the Talon... I'm gonna finish putting the things together that I do have for it so it'll run and drive it for a while... I hate the thought of selling if when I have so many plans for it. Its just not reliable though and thats the only thing I hate about these cars... Right now I am waiting to hear back from the Hospital. I went for an interview last week making 10 bucks an hour to sweep, mop, and buff floors... Oh well, not a dream job but its a lot better than minimum wage flipping burgers or something. There is no way I could sell cars though, I'm just not social enough around people I don't know. If it wasn't for that I could do a lot of things... Oh and yes he is my real father... I'm the spitting image of him and I hate it. I will never treat my kids the way he treats us. He puts up this wonderful front and has everyone within a 50 miles radius fooled. Everyone thinks we're just the most perfect happy little family and we are so far from that... I mean, he has done well in his life and has more than enough money to buy whatever he wants and he has worked hard for it all. I'm glad to see he went from nothing to what he is now, but he should have put a little more thought into raising kids. He was always there for us financially and as a person to call dad, but he was never really there for us if you know what I mean... Like, physically, mentally... I donno... He just isn't the type of person I ever want to become.

I was talking to my girlfriend though and her mom just bought a new house and said she would rent the old house to us for 400 a month and we get to keep a ton of her old furniture... I'm really considering going that route because I know between me and my girlfriend we could come up with 400 a month with no problem at all. I pretty much have everything I need to move out except for the current cash to pay for my tranny and put the car back together... It sucks... I've grown so attached to that car too...

Man I feel like such a loser right now...

[GTPSPEED]

my life just got fucked up too man,my girlfriend was living here while going to school at harvard she is new to the country cuz she is from brazil the first year i helped her with everything rides everywhere many things 2 years we are together we had many futer plans but the other night i come home no fight or anything and she tells me she dont love me no more and was leaving the next day that was saturday.i was with her for 2 years now im kinda lost she wont explain or answer my calls or nothing.my life just went wham! now i dont know what to do,thanks for reading later

[defiancy]

Originally Posted by Blackcrow64

Yeah I'm definetly not putting anymore money into the Talon... I'm gonna finish putting the things together that I do have for it so it'll run and drive it for a while... I hate the thought of selling if when I have so many plans for it. Its just not reliable though and thats the only thing I hate about these cars... Right now I am waiting to hear back from the Hospital. I went for an interview last week making 10 bucks an hour to sweep, mop, and buff floors... Oh well, not a dream job but its a lot better than minimum wage flipping burgers or something. There is no way I could sell cars though, I'm just not social enough around people I don't know. If it wasn't for that I could do a lot of things... Oh and yes he is my real father... I'm the spitting image of him and I hate it. I will never treat my kids the way he treats us. He puts up this wonderful front and has everyone within a 50 miles radius fooled. Everyone thinks we're just the most perfect happy little family and we are so far from that... I mean, he has done well in his life and has more than enough money to buy whatever he wants and he has worked hard for it all. I'm glad to see he went from nothing to what he is now, but he should have put a little more thought into raising kids. He was always there for us financially and as a person to call dad, but he was never really there for us if you know what I mean... Like, physically, mentally... I donno... He just isn't the type of person I ever want to become.

I was talking to my girlfriend though and her mom just bought a new house and said she would rent the old house to us for 400 a month and we get to keep a ton of her old furniture... I'm really considering going that route because I know between me and my girlfriend we could come up with 400 a month with no problem at all. I pretty much have everything I need to move out except for the current cash to pay for my tranny and put the car back together... It sucks... I've grown so attached to that car too...

Man I feel like such a loser right now...

That sounds like a wise idea. I moved out of my fathers house at 17 and never looked back.

You can move in with your girlfriend and give it a try. It's hard at first but once you adjust it's not bad at all.

Or if you ever need, there's always a place in San Diego for you to stay!

Originally Posted by bostonjoe98gs

my life just got fucked up too man,my girlfriend was living here while going to school at harvard she is new to the country cuz she is from brazil the first year i helped her with everything rides everywhere many things 2 years we are together we had many futer plans but the other night i come home no fight or anything and she tells me she dont love me no more and was leaving the next day that was saturday.i was with her for 2 years now im kinda lost she wont explain or answer my calls or nothing.my life just went wham! now i dont know what to do,thanks for reading later

Ahh man, you can only do one thing. Just move on and continue with you life.

Things like this happened. And it's unfortunate but I would just keep on keepin on.

[SLoe]

Calm down fella. Play the game man. Stay, pretend to be exactly what the guy wants you to be, save your money and then go. You can save so much money so much faster when you live at home with no bills. He will regret treating you like that later on....or hit him with a fucking brick next time he lays hands on you. Don't kill him or anything, but let him know you were there. Lots of guys go through the whole alpha male crap with their dad, you can deal with it like an adult and save your relationship with your father, or you can waylay his ass while he is sleeping and you guys can be really disfunctional for the rest of your lives.

[sganc4life_4]

Well, I would say move in with a friend to split rent or something. I move out when I was 17 with about 500$ in my account working around 30 hours a week + school and Ive managed to save around 2500 to this day. Just budget as best as you can and youll be ok.