My GF is being physically abused.

[XeVeNskyLiNE]

Ok guys, I need some serious input on this situation. Before I start, I agree that I want to ring the fuck out of this guys neck, but I need a realistic solution. Here's whats going on.

My girlfriend and I go to different high schools. Today she called me at school and told me that her ex hit her, again. 2nd time in less than a week. 1st time it happened it left her with bruises all over her face. This girl models, so this messed up alot of things she's got going on pretty soon. I was about to fucking kick down my walls when I heard about what happened the first time. But I couldn't do shit. I don't know where this guy lives, or where to find him. So anyways, she called me today. I was pissed off to new heights. I left school right away so that I could be at her school when she gets out.

So I'm at her school, waiting for her outside of the band hall. I see her ex and he recognizes my car. I can tell he did because he tried to be all non-chalant about it. Anyways, that goes on for about 10 mins, then my girlfriend sees me out there and she's got that 'oh shit' look on her face because she wasn't expecting me to show up. Anyways, she calls me an we talk on the phone and I hear her ex say "You better not go out there to him or else I'll do something." I damn near ran inside the building but thought better of it and deciding to act civilized. So eventually I see his friend come out, he walks right in front of my car and I'm sitting the passenger seat. No biggie. Now here comes the ex, staring me down as he walks by the car. I'm staring back, I've got my door open with my leg out and I say "You better learn how to keep your fuckin hands to yourself." He keeps walking and he's all like "aite then, aite then", like he's all tough and shit. I wanted to beat his ass on the spot, but I would've gotten in a shitload of trouble on so many different levels since I'm on school grounds besides my own. Plus I really didn't want to embarrass my girlfriend. So he gets in the car with his friend and they take off.

Later today, my girl calls me telling me that her ex called her. He said some bullshit that like I better not ever show up like that again or else he's calling like 3 of his friends. Lame. Can't even handle his own shit. He also says he's tired of letting me "slide". I've only seen him twice, 1st time he didn't even know who I was. Stfu. He's so immature its not even funny. He's a bitch too, I'm 100% that if we got into a fist fight it'd be over in less than 30 seconds, maybe even a minute if I tripped or something crazy.

So now I need some help. I have no idea where he lives, no idea where to find, which equals no idea how to deal with his ass. I've searched white pages and no luck. I've asked people and no luck either, so far that is.

What do you guys suggest I do to find him, and what do I do when I find him.

I really just want to hunt him down and beat him into oblivion, but I'm trying not to turn all caveman just yet.

[vinnym86]

should be in stress release

dude, if i was you, i'd have shot the guy already. obviously, though, that's probably the worst thing to do. talk with your gf, and talk to an official if she is really getting hurt.

edit: sry, don't know how to find him, but you've seen his car, look around for it.

[TerminalVelocity]

your girl needs to do something. Unless she asks you for help your in a bad situation. Criminal implications aside, he might beat you down...or kill you. You might loose your girl for this. How do you know shes not playing you for a fool and dipin him as well as you?

I know how you want to beat his head in with a lead pipe...Ive been there. But trust me, if it gets that bad, the police should be called first....if that fails...well....

[XeVeNskyLiNE]

Yea Terminal, that's exactly my view on it. But rest assure I know she isn't dippin with him. Just isn't possible, I've seen how they act towards each other now.

She's so hard-headed about it though. She won't tell anybody official like police or principal, or consulers about it because she doesn't want to get embarrassed or some kind of dumb shit that makes me mad. So in a way she's fucking it up for herself, but still, what he does is unforgiveable. I'd rather deal with him myself, but it just seems like one thing would lead to another.

Oh, and its his friends car I saw, not his, so that wouldn't work.

[jon@af]

If anyone EVER laid a hand on my girlfriend I would f**king kill him or come extremely close.

However, as you've realized, that wouldn't be the best thing to do. I would recommend at least talking to the school about this and finding some way to keep him away from her while at school. Then, if you get something substantial, file a police report against him.

Men like that should be castrated. Pure and simple. I do not take well to abusing women.

[clawhammer]

Your girlfriend needs to press charges against him. If she has bruises, then she has a pretty solid case. They'll take her story over his anyday.

[TerminalVelocity]

you can find him easy enough. Get someone to find his last name, for instance Smith. Real common name, look them all up, find whatever info you can. Usually you can find out through schools and other info.

Or be gangland about it, find his friend, ambush him at night and knock him out through force or chemical agent. Take him somewhere secure...soundproof or away from everyone. And...get info from him, then inform him if he talks he will loose his family/friends/gf/bf/lil dog or other generic pet.

Find the guy you want, and deal with him discretly...ambush him the same, and only beat/cut/maim in areas that wont show, and slice open his scrotum a lil and tell him if he ever tells anyone...or touches her again your taking his balls.

Then go nail your woman and bask in your badassness!

Im kiddin...this would get you arrested...


...what have I done...ive created a killer!






honestly, make her go to officals...otherwise your the suspect for her beatings. Make the law get involved.

Why wont she talk anyway?

[L-Spec]

I think you've already done all that you can besides beating the crap out of him. I agree that your girlfriend should do something. It sounds to me that you've already intimidated him. He's afriad haha, and that's all you really need. If he wanted to hit you, he would have already done so. He's the kind of guy that sticks out his chest and acts like he can bench 300 pounds, but can't. I have people like that at my school, people trash talk about my car all the time, and there have even been threats, but nothing has happened. Even if the trash talking still continues, I'd just talk to the person directly, but at the same time choosing my words carefully. I don't make threats, I just ask a bunch of "Why?" questions.

He's not a big guy, is he?

[XeVeNskyLiNE]

Lol man I wanna do all that shit so bad.

Anyways, I think she told me she doesn't want to do anything because she doesn't want the extra attention at school, or more stress. She's coming around though. By now, just about all of her friends know about whats going after the 1st time it happened because they all kind of protect her from him. But obviously that isn't good enough because it happened again. But I'm going to have a long talk with her next time. This shit is just unexceptable.

And hell yea she should press charges, break that assholes bank.

[XeVeNskyLiNE]

Originally Posted by L-Spec

He's not a big guy, is he?

He's in band

Seriously, he's about my height, 5'11. He's a little thick though, like on the fat side. But you know how some men just have that 6th sense that's able to spot out a bitch from a real man. This guys vagina was stinking from inside the building. He's all pussy, thats why he's talking about calling up 4 other guys just handle up on me. I'm not afraid of him at all, but like I said, its not time to go neanderthal just yet.

[L-Spec]

I think you should cut him down with a "You're a band geek" remark, and continue making fun of him. Maybe poke him in the belly and ask him if he took the cookies from the cookie jar. I'd like to see something like that happen one day. Sometimes, I wish I walked around with a keyboard, just so I can type "LOL" when I see something funny.

[TerminalVelocity]

hahahahahahah!

Yah, you could provoke him...and when he decks you tear his face off.

[zx2guy]

well good to see we dont have guys saying beat the hell out of him... but for you cudos that you havent lost it on him. i couldnt say the same personally.

1st > pics, if she has bruises, take pictures. lots of them. ild also write a timeline of abuse, when it started to your recollection and on. also find some of her friends (if you are smooth alot of this "persuasion for info" might come easy, but if your not, be ready to dodge some tough questions and arguements) that will help you, < thats info wise, protection wise, (i dont think he'll do this in public, so someone there around her would be good)

2nd try really hard to get her to say something against the guy< i mean get her to realize this shit should never happen, but since it is it needs to stop.

3rd if 2 fails ild do this solo even if she said not to, why? this might be for her well being more then your relationship. but go to the school, talk to someone, principal would be ideal(some schools even have cops that are actively in schools). even if they shadow watch her, at least they are keeping tabs.

4th and i want you to keep this in mind. DO NOT TOUCH HIM( or talk to him for that matter, you dont want him scewing your words for his agenda). <this is key, last thing you need is for him to bring something up against you, like a restraining order. and from there it can snowball into all kinds of stuff.

finally good luck. while guys like him oght to get thiers in way of meeting "big tiny" or big bubba, odds are against it ever happening. but if he does raise hell with you, make sure he takes thie first swing, then you have the right to defend yourself, but as i said stay away from him>even if it seems cowardly.

[Digitaleuphoria]

Damn, you have far more restraint that I could ever possibly hope to have. I hope everything works out for the best. If things come down to it, dont try shit at his house, it'll all be on you then, his property.

[XeVeNskyLiNE]

Thanks man, you're exactly on the same page as me. Gave me some good ideas too. I'm gonna make sure she takes pics of her face and that she speaks up about this.

Oh and about the self-restraint abilities, playing baseball for 10+ years was good practice, lol.
But believe me, I'm about one more step from blowing the fuck up and doing something that'll land me in jail, and I definitely don't want to go that far.