getting arrested

[quteasabutton]

so wonderful news, i quite possibly am going to be getting arrested for assault. i'll start from the beginning. i was working on typing up some essays last night on the computer. my parents have this thing about not letting me use the computer, even if it's for my hw. so even tho i got these assignments at the end of last week, last night was the first time i was allowed to do them and great, they were due today. so i was doing research before i wrote them to make sure i had everything right, then i started to write my paper.
i had been on the computer for about 5 hours when my mom came in and told me to get off there, i hadn't gotten enough done so i wasn't allowed to finish and it's HER computer and she wanted to use it. i tried to explain to her that since she hadn't let me use it before and that these assignments were due i needed to keep working. the thing that bothered my parents the most is that i had been talking to 2 people online that night. i wasn't talking to them then and hadn't been talking a ton earlier cuz i was working.
so then my dad heard my mom yelling at me to get off the computer and since i wouldnt' since i had a lot of hw still to do, he came in there, grabbed me by the arm and ripped me out of my chair and threw me on the ground.
he then tried to close out of all the stuff i had been working on so i would lose my work.
i got up off the ground and tried to push him aside so i could save my work or at least attempt to continue working on it. and he again would shove me down, kneeled on me to hold me down and yell at me, threw me partway across the room.. i finally slapped him on the arm and tried to run down the hall, down the stairs and to the next floor to answer the phone cuz my friend and i had our cams on and he happened to witness the whole thing, start to finish.
i was so out of it from having been thrown so many times that i then fell down the stairs trying to get away. *it also hurt cuz my ankle is still swollen from having sprained it* my friend kept calling me until i answered to make sure i was ok. i talked to him for a little bit and he helped me to arrange for someone to come pick me up. i stayed at my other friends house until about 2 am.
i had tried calling a child abuse help hotline and they told me to call child protective services. i tried but the line was always busy. so this morning i went in to talk to the school cop about what had happened. this is where it gets "fun". he told me that my parents could do pretty much w/e they wanted because it's their house and even though what they're doing isn't the best way to do it, it's still ok. but my dad and i both might be getting arrested and charged for domestic assault. and i was like um no..he hit me first, i was just trying to get him off me.
the cop then told me that i need to start listening to my parents more. WTF! as if i don't? i'm sorry but i'm sick of being told every day that i'm a loser with no friends and am going nowhere in life and that i'm just a big fuckup that they don't love anymore. so overall, i hurt, i'm really sick and can't stop sneezing and i might be getting arrested and charged as an adult cuz i'm 17. ur thoughts?

[BleedDodge]

Move in with me. I won't beat you.

Can you cook?

[quteasabutton]

Originally Posted by BleedDodge

Move in with me. I won't beat you.

Can you cook?

i can cook a mean batch of mac n cheese if that's what you mean...lol

[Rally Sport]

Sold! Im getting you this weekend.

[directory]

Originally Posted by BleedDodge

Move in with me. I won't beat you.

Can you cook?

[directory]

i wouldn't listen to the school cop much..there is a reason he is working that job...

why do you think you are getting arested? was something said to you. they don't tell you that they are going to arrest you a week a head of time.

what's going on with this?

[nissan_240sx]

hope everything works out for you

[cody_e]

Originally Posted by directory

why do you think you are getting arested? was something said to you. they don't tell you that they are going to arrest you a week a head of time.

Because school cops are ticket hungry assholes who sit at their desks all day and when they have a chance to give a ticket they will. I punched out this kid for making fun of my brother, kneeling on the hood of my car, and then the next time he saw me popping off 2 times. I hit the kid 1 time and he went out like a lightbulb. The school cop wanted to charge me with substantial battery (a felony) and if I were 17 I would have been tried as an adult.

Bottom line, cooperate with the cop but as little as possible. He'll mess with your head. Say the witnesses stories didn't match up and try to get you to change your story. Make sure to tell the truth and stick to your story.

[sameintheend01]

he's just saying that shit because he is a lazy POS. call 911.

[longlivetheZ]

Originally Posted by BleedDodge

Move in with me. I won't beat you.

Can you cook?

rofl

Cops in schools is overkill most of the time. Getting arrested for a typical school yard fight is just rediculous. Fucking retarded, even. Shit's been going on since the beginning of time. Should there be cops? Sure. People are supremely fucking retarded these days. Should kids get put in handcuffs, thrown in the cop car and even arrested for simple, miniscule scuffles? No way, man...that's just stupid. It's like we're just striving to create more hardened criminals.

[Oz]

How much homework could you have gotten done in the time it took you to author that post?



My point is not simply to be antagonistic - it is to point out that we are only hearing one side of a story here. And it doesn't add up. This is not the first topic on the subject of your parents (as seen by you).
When someone is angry, and getting physical (your Dad) - what is the best course of action you can think of? To get angry and physical back. Prompting him to get MORE physical with you - and he is much bigger and stronger than you are I'll bet.

From a self preservation point of view, you are committing suicide!! Where is your common sense? Violence begets violence. STOP LOCKING HORNS, IT DOESN'T WORK. FIND ANOTHER WAY.

From an emotional view point, being told that you're not loved, not valued, and not expected to amount to anything is horrible, and deplorable and I feel very, very sorry for you. That is emotional abuse of the worst nature. I hope you have a good network of people (friends and family other than parents) around you to offer you emotional support. It sounds as if neither of your parents have any people skills, and are totally devoid of empathy for your situation.

I do, however, think that you exacerbate this situation, as bad as it is, by trying to "force" your will on them, as they force theirs on you. That is NOT how power relationships work. THEY have the power, THEY have the rights (legally, usually) and YOU DON'T. IT SUCKS, I know, and that will all change soon, but until you are legally an adult, surround yourself with those who support and encourage you and get the highest possible education you can - because it will be more difficult later in life AND STOP FIGHTING BACK THE WAY YOU HAVE BEEN. Because it hasn't gotten you anywhere, and won't get you anywhere.

Ozzie

[mike1224]

Originally Posted by BleedDodge

Move in with me. I won't beat you.

Can you cook?

haha

like Oz said, stop fighting with them, theres no use in fighting. They will win. It doesn't seem fair but yes, they have control of your life till you are 18. fighting physically will only get you hurt. I know how over bearing parents can be, it has ruined the relationship we have. we barly ever talk, maybe 2 times a month, and we live 5 minutes away from each other.

[directory]

oz is great, oz is wise.

[-Josh-]

Originally Posted by Oz

How much homework could you have gotten done in the time it took you to author that post?



My point is not simply to be antagonistic - it is to point out that we are only hearing one side of a story here. And it doesn't add up. This is not the first topic on the subject of your parents (as seen by you).
When someone is angry, and getting physical (your Dad) - what is the best course of action you can think of? To get angry and physical back. Prompting him to get MORE physical with you - and he is much bigger and stronger than you are I'll bet.

From a self preservation point of view, you are committing suicide!! Where is your common sense? Violence begets violence. STOP LOCKING HORNS, IT DOESN'T WORK. FIND ANOTHER WAY.

From an emotional view point, being told that you're not loved, not valued, and not expected to amount to anything is horrible, and deplorable and I feel very, very sorry for you. That is emotional abuse of the worst nature. I hope you have a good network of people (friends and family other than parents) around you to offer you emotional support. It sounds as if neither of your parents have any people skills, and are totally devoid of empathy for your situation.

I do, however, think that you exacerbate this situation, as bad as it is, by trying to "force" your will on them, as they force theirs on you. That is NOT how power relationships work. THEY have the power, THEY have the rights (legally, usually) and YOU DON'T. IT SUCKS, I know, and that will all change soon, but until you are legally an adult, surround yourself with those who support and encourage you and get the highest possible education you can - because it will be more difficult later in life AND STOP FIGHTING BACK THE WAY YOU HAVE BEEN. Because it hasn't gotten you anywhere, and won't get you anywhere.

Ozzie

WTF though, Oz, are you on the wagon or something? That response made you sound like you cared...which is unusual

[Officer Redneck]

quteasabutten, I have dealt indrectly with situation's like your's over the years in my job. There is no way you are gonna win this fight with your parents. Unless there is a gross negligance or abuse being done by your parents, the courts will likely side with them. If you have a job and a friend you can count on I suggest you get emancipated from your parents and move in with her/him until you can get on your own two feet. Besides the apperent physical harm you are or could be receiving from your parrents, you are dealing with a lot of emotional damage that takes a lot more time to heal from. I hope everything works out well for you and if you need someone to just talk to, PM me. I'm a good listener and I promise there won't be any cyber leg hummpin'. Good luck.