Just broke up

[crayzayjay]

... with my girlfriend of 5 years.

Things haven't been great recently and i saw her tonight for the first time in almost three weeks, having just returned from vacation. Our phone conversation before i went over wasn't the warmest, but once i saw her she looked great and i was very happy to see her. We had dinner, and all was going well until she started talking about the relationship (lot of arguing recently). She asked me if i missed her while i was away and i replied "the first week, a lot, the second week, less". She felt the same.

The main issue is commitment. We've been together for such a long time and she knows i have no desire to get married or even move in with her, or any partner. We had a big argument before i left and i thought about having a break then. But it was the night before i left, so i didnt say anything. In hindsight it would have been a good idea.

Tonight she said we could either try to work things out, or break up. She said she didn't see us going back to the way it used to be, to which I agreed. So we broke up. My girlfriend of 5 years and best friend. Both of us were in a state of shock. She cried. I didn't, but couldn't really look in her eyes as i left. We still love each other, which is what really hurts.

Anyway, that's it. I still have a present i bought her while on holiday which i didnt take to her today lying on my bed, and i don't know what to do with it. 6 million things in my room remind me of her.


We've broken up once before but i know this time it's for good. And it fucking hurts.

[drewh4386]

So you're afraid of committed eh?............................

Why do you have no desire?





you love porsches tooo much.

[Rally Sport]

Had something similiar, and I suggest you goto a strip club to try to get your mind off of it. Thats what I did and moved on.

[crayzayjay]

Not afraid of commitment. Just don't want to do it at this stage in my life.

[Mediocrity]

Heh.. I know how it is..

I didnt want to let go.. but it just takes time. Good luck bro.

[Oz]

Ouch mate. 5 years is a long time to be with someone.

[drewh4386]

Originally Posted by crayzayjay

Not afraid of commitment. Just don't want to do it at this stage in my life.

Perfect answer. Commitment is best handled when ready. Take your time.

[-Josh-]

Good luck man, come to the U.S., to central Illinois, we'll get you drunk get you a woman for the weekend and make you forget about her...until you get back to your place anyway.... sorry to hear it man.

[King Of Crunk]

bummer dude, sometimes girls suck...i suggest the opposite of what these dudes are talking about and get everything off your chest and get some closure....shrugs*....sorry dude..

[Teg_95]

Hey buddy, I'm going through the same sh!t. My ex of 5-6 years broke up with me b/c she said she wanted to get married, but i wasn't ready. I think thats all BS b/c 5 days later she started to date someone else.

All I can say is hang in there. I'm going through the same thing and I'm not sure how to handle it. Best of luck to you.

[958Rocky]

sorry jay

my terrible advice would be to give the gift to her eventually, otherwise its going to feel terrible sitting there. just don't make it seem like your trying to buy her back

[lamehonda]

Wow, it almost seems like your just getting bored with each other.

OMG I think you might be married to her.


Seriously, just take some time off from each other. Don't be afraid to get back together if you have no reason to be apart. You will regret it for the rest of your life.

[-Davo]

I hope it doesn't rip to hard.

At least you talked about it to each other, not just the cliche old cowardice SMS "i need time". I admire how you did it.

[crayzayjay]

Thanks guys.

There are a lot of changes at the moment. Yesterday i lost a girlfriend and tomorrow i'm leaving my job. I know i can deal with it but it won't be easy. I don't want to lose contact with her, but it would be difficult being just friends, for a while at least.

Either way the next couple of weeks are going to be a very new experience for me. Looking for work, and er... something else

[-Davo]

p...eople? hehe


I've never stayed friends with any of my ex's, simply because I end up having more hatred for them than I seem to have for my government leaders.