how would you like to be let down?

[xokayxo]

lets put this from your viewpoint.

you leave a note on your girlfriends car in the morning (with hopes that she will find it when she leaves for work that afternoon) and don't hear from her all day. the note reads something like this:

"i'm addicted to you. i'm lying awake smiling with thoughts of you in my head. everywhere i go and everything i do is always the second thing on my mind. whenever we are together i feel like i am a better person, and a happier person because of you. whenever we aren't together i am anxious to hear your voice and see your face. you amaze me with every action, your kindness, and your patience. i love everything about you and i cant wait to see you again."

/end your viewpoint.

my viewpoint.

boyfriend leaves love note on my car. *vomit*

/end my viewpoint

i've been avoiding him for the past week and havent really hung out with him because i dont know how to break up with him (does that make me a bitch??) but i know i want to. i suppose there isnt really an easy way to break it to him. if anyone can think of a sickening love note to write back, i would appreciate it. (note: it does NOT have to be nice -- get creative!!!)

[Mediocrity]

"Dear Boyfriend,

Let's cut to the chase.. My period lasts 2 weeks of the month, I have violent mood swings... and well.. Have you seen the Stand? The part where the elevator opens up? Yeah... Sorry.

Love,
Girlfriend."

[drewh4386]

Originally Posted by xokayxo

i've been avoiding him for the past week and havent really hung out with him because i dont know how to break up with him (does that make me a bitch??) but i know i want to.

from a real respectful mans point of view......the longer you wait the longer and more he'll be pissed off. Especially if you avoid him. It may not be immediately but it will catch up to him eventually when he thinks about it. I did.

[ec437]

Just call him up and be like "yeah, its over, sorry."

It irks me when people can't just do it, whatever 'it' may be.

Granted, if you take this approach, he will likely be initially crushed, apologetic, and desperate. After that he will probably be pissed off, and after that he might become depressed.

But at least he'll know what the deal is, because all that would (will?) probably happen anyways, depending on how clingy/not clingy he is...

[spaminator]

just tell him to his face.
"look this how i feel... blah blah blah"
I will be hurt but he'll get over it.
And he'll respect you more for it.

I can think of so many times when a girl could have just told me strait out but instead acted like a fucking coward and by telling me through either her friends or my friends. Hardly anything pisses me off that much

[Rally Sport]

I'll tell you this..any girl who doesnt break up with you the moment she has a definate feeling about it is a bitch in my world. Really because they're going out with you for no one's sake. If you're the girl it sucks for you and if you're the guy it will suck anyways when she breaks up with you later so do it sooner!


So just tell him, yo im sorry 'nig' but I founds me dis otha foo who makes me happy than your broke ass.

Or use your best judgement and make something up

[Knifeblade]

Any girl who loves the drama gets off on it. Any pussy-whipped angst-ridden dude who thinks he a guy gets whipped.

[TexasF355F1]

Shoot straight from the hip. No fucking bullshit walk-around. It may hurt but I'd rather know straight truth than a lie like "It's not you it's me" kind of shit.

[Rally Sport]

Originally Posted by TexasF355F1

Shoot straight from the hip. No fucking bullshit walk-around. It may hurt but I'd rather know straight truth than a lie like "It's not you it's me" kind of shit.

Yeah man, same here. Why cant people just be truthful to this crap when they've been lying about everything else?

[AlmostStock]

How would I like to be let down?

Personally I'd prefer that you do me one more time. Then go ahead and tell me.

[Rally Sport]

Lol then you wont care and already on the way to make yourself a sandwich because she left ya!

[xokayxo]

Originally Posted by ec437

he will likely be initially crushed, apologetic, and desperate. After that he will probably be pissed off, and after that he might become depressed.

this is what i am most worried of. he hates his job, his home, he doesnt have a car (which SUCKS because i end up driving whenever we go somewhere), and all that drama crap. i try telling him to apply for different jobs, looking for his own house, and looking for a car. he doesnt do any of it and he just complains about it more. i like the kind of guy who will get what he wants and isnt afraid to work for it!!! this nonsense is exactly that. nonsense. so if i break up with him now (hes had a thing for me since 10th grade which was... 4 years ago) i think he will definitely be crushed and desperate and depressed. and i think with all of that on top of all the drama he creates for himself will likely make him go insane. shouldnt i be concerned about that?

[Rally Sport]

Not really, look thats his problems, if he goes insane on ya, RESTRAINING order. Look if he has a crush on since 4 years, doesnt have a car, wont look for a different job or home, what future do you THINK you'll have with him? You cant stay with this guy because then he'll get too attached to you and be off worse, trust me on this it's the best thing you can do for both of you.

[drewh4386]

Originally Posted by xokayxo

this is what i am most worried of. he hates his job, his home, he doesnt have a car (which SUCKS because i end up driving whenever we go somewhere), and all that drama crap. i try telling him to apply for different jobs, looking for his own house, and looking for a car. he doesnt do any of it and he just complains about it more. i like the kind of guy who will get what he wants and isnt afraid to work for it!!! this nonsense is exactly that. nonsense. so if i break up with him now (hes had a thing for me since 10th grade which was... 4 years ago) i think he will definitely be crushed and desperate and depressed. and i think with all of that on top of all the drama he creates for himself will likely make him go insane. shouldnt i be concerned about that?

Just so you'd know,
Since your all he knows, he will go insanely depressed for a while. 4 years? I'm not trying to make you feel bad, but doesn't he know what you want? Have you discussed this with him? People change over time and you may have also. Some of the same things you liked may have had a gradual change that you didn't notice. Samething for him also. Yall could be subconciously getting on each others nerves. All I'm saying is if you gave him chances and he doesn't know how exactly to change, explain that to him if you didn't. IF that doesn't work then let him go. Yall are both young and still don't know exactly what you want or how to do things $ years in a relationship doesn't mean you "know" if that is yall first MAJOR hook-up. Yall simply could have just grown apart. Me and my ex did. ANd instead of breaking up with me, she cheated. The worst thing.............

[Muscletang]

Three words for this guy.

"I..am..gay!"

As Jerry Seinfeld says, "it's like a band aid, one motion, RIGHT OFF!"