girls...

[ec437]

I don't know, I'm always too preoccupied when it comes to me actually having a clear shot, lol. Anyways, this time I've become good friends with this nice girl I know, shes funny, pretty, et cetera. Anyways, I've had a crush on her for a while, I think she probably wouldn't be surprised by this, but she doesn't really mind that I do. We have really similar personalities, and we like hanging out together. I have pondered asking her out before, but wimped out at the last second. Now I've just waited too damn long, and even though the time is coming around again where it would be an appropriate moment to ask her out, she is now dating someone else. Whatever. We text back and forth a lot, and I haven't had a chance to see her for a few days, so I sent her a text that said "ok... I have to tell you what I really think about you. I wish we could hang out before I leave though because I really don't want to do it over a text message..." The leaving I refer to is that i am going on a road trip starting this friday going through july 3rd.

So what do you think, am I fucked?

Oh, and no making fun of the texting, it's not cause I'm a pussy, it's just what us 2 do.

[drewh4386]

Thats why when you get the chance GO for it or somebody else will! I've had friend girls who tell me that they would date this guy but he won't ask me out.
It won't hurt to ask. Who knows....maybe she felt the same at some point.

if she states this..."i love you...but i am not in love with you.." then your really fucked. Oh and there is nothing wrong with textng.

[ec437]

Yeah, well the reason I didn't ask her out is that I have (had) self confidence issues. Mind you, not self esteem issues, its just that sometimes my confidence will waver from very high to moderately low and back again... lol right now I'm on a high point so we'll see how this goes.

[drewh4386]

Thats the best time to do it. When the possible rejection hurts the least. I say possible cause she could only say yes or no. There is no line in between.
Look on the brighter side also. If she says no, yall could still be friends.

[ec437]

Originally Posted by drewh4386

Thats the best time to do it. When the possible rejection hurts the least. I say possible cause she could only say yes or no. There is no line in between.
Look on the brighter side also. If she says no, yall could still be friends.

lol yeah... with a whole damn lot of luck i'll be enough to make her break up with her boytoy. Wish me luck friend, I'm goin' in. *mission impossible theme*

[Oz]

Texting = pussy.

The question is: is staying friends worth never knowing if she is attracted to you?

[ec437]

Originally Posted by Oz

Testing = pussy.

The question is: is staying friends worth never knowing if she is attracted to you?

well, I already mentioned to her in passing once that I wouldn't mind dating "someone like you", and she kind of didn't even realize what I had just said. She really just took it right in stride like normal conversation. So I guess that's a good sign. She knows that I think she's pretty cool.

[Knifeblade]

dum..dum.dum.....dum..dum..dum, damn it's hard to text a theme song. Give it a shot, she says yes, or she says no, at least you save the angst you showing.

[MBTN]

I've been in this situation before. In fact I'm in it again... Anyway the best bet is to just ask. Get yourself an answer or YOU WILL WRECK YOUR BRAIN. You need a yes or no. I've been beating around the bush for half a year already and it's been fucking driving me nuts.

[Suislide]

curiousity will drive you insane. if you try to think "what if" yourself, then you will go crazy thinking of all the possibilities.

as MBTN said, asking is the best way. it's quick, simple, and get's results, and you won't drive yourself insane wondering in the mean-time.

i know from experience. i used to have total self-confidence issues when i was a bit younger, and even talking to girls would scare me senseless, let alone asking them out.

now i've changed all that. i think my whole life i've been searching for who i am, and in the past year, i've finally found it. now i'm out-going, very confident in who i am, and i'm not afraid to tell girls what i think of them. if they don't feel the same well, well then i'm SOL and it's no sweat off our backs. at least i tried and found out for sure instead of chickening out and forever wondering what she might've been thinking.

a good example: i worked as a summer camp counsellor 2 summers ago. during training, all the counsellors from the different camps would be trained together. we'd do all sorts of fun activities together, and pretty much the training was just a week of having fun so you'd know how to do it with the kids. anyways, there was another counsellor, her name was Kristina. she was real cute, we started chatting, and found out we had alot in common. well we started being pretty clingy at the training, always in each others groups or choosing each other to do a project with etc. but back then i was still shy and insecure, so as much as i liked her, i never said a damn thing to her about it.

so she goes off to university, and comes home last summer. we talk for the first time since the summer camp, and i find out she felt the EXACT SAME way about me as i did about her. only SHE was also very shy, and also didn't say anything to me about it.

so our shyness, silence, and insecurity made it so that a good relationship that COULD have happened, never did.

so i say take the chance whenever you've got it. rejection isn't as bad as everyone makes it out to be. as cheesy as it may be, the line "plenty more fish in the sea" ALWAYS holds true. good luck bro.

[sivic02]

I agree with what everyone else has said, just tell her, cowboy the fuck up.


I also had to reply because I cant pass up a chance to post a picture of richard simmons and wayne bradey cuddling, text messages =

[ec437]

you bastard... lol

[RickwithaTbird]

yeah... what they said. I had the same thing as suislide with a hot chick at school once. She always switched seats to sit next to me, picked me for projects, picked me for for teams when we played kings... I was STILL too scared to talk to her. When I finally did ask her out it was one day late. some other bastard asked her out the day before. Fuck life! haha... nah... but tell her that you hope her boyfriend is a jerk, that way you can finally get the chance to rescue her, and be her prince charming. If that doesnt work I dont know what will.... hahaha (do you sense the sarcasm?)... its not really too bad of an idea though. I say go for it tiger.

[ec437]

Fuck. I saw her tonight, and she didn't seem at all eeked out by what I texted her, and all was good, except I never got a single moment alone with her. On top of that, she brought her good friend that doesn't seem to like that I'm friends with her... Gah. So I'm leaving on friday, I guess I will call her when I get back or something and try to set things up.

Man.

[xokayxo]

totally. go for it and good luck!!!