guy problems...

[quteasabutton]

so my boyfriend and i broke up when he went to college because he was too far away to still date. 9 months later we both still care about each other, want to do stuff together *kiss, and other such stuff * but he says no way he doesn't want to get back together over the summer because it'd be too stressful when he leaves again. GRR! if we'd both be happier together then why is he not agreeing to date again? is it just a guy thing or am i missing something obvious here?

[TexasF355F1]

I don't think he wants to put you or him through anything that's gonna put an emotional strain on yall. Just enjoy your time together and stay in touch, you never know what the future holds. My cousin ended up marrying the guy she dated 9 years before. They broke up for college and other reasons. Did either of them see it coming to marriage later on? Not at all.

How far is the distance b/w yall?

[drewh4386]

Originally Posted by TexasF355F1

I don't think he wants to put you or him through anything that's gonna put an emotional strain on yall. Just enjoy your time together and stay in touch, you never know what the future holds.

How far is the distance b/w yall?

whats the distance/colleges

[Oz]

Your still 17 and he has just been in college for a year. I would say he is moving on in pretty quickly and doesn't want to hurt you.

[quteasabutton]

when he's home we're 20 minutes apart but i'm in madison and he's in ames ia, so it's around 6 hours apart it's just really hard tho because i've never felt like this about someone like i do about him. he and i are still really close even tho we've only seen each other 4 times in the last nine months and we talk every day. so i dunno...he never said he didn't want to try things next year. of coures that's too far away to say anything definite. i'm seeing him again tomorrow so we'll see how that goes. i agree with u all tho, he's trying to do what he thinks is the right thing so we both get hurt the least. can't blame him for trying...*sigh* i should just stop thinking about it, it's too depressing. *hugs* for all u nice people that replied

[MBTN]

Well, you're 17 and probably not in college. He already went to college for a year... He's more than likely fucking some other girl, or he may actually be telling the truth. Either way I think you gotta move on. Don't worry you're young.

[theFREAKnasty82]

Originally Posted by MBTN

Well, you're 17 and probably not in college. He already went to college for a year... He's more than likely fucking some other girl, or he may actually be telling the truth. Either way I think you gotta move on. Don't worry you're young.

sad, but true that's probably the case. Not to say he's a jerk, but he could be saying that b/c he doesn't want you to know that he's sleepin' around.

I have to agree. You need to move on. Hell, have some fun, enjoy life while you are young.

[Cyprus106]

yeah, it sucks doesn't it? how long had you been dating and when did you break up?

[quteasabutton]

we'd been dating for 9 months, broke up 8 months ago, but yeah like i said, every time he came home it was like we were still together, we acted like we were a couple. i've been trying to see other guys but last night i got pretty much sexually assaulted by one so i'd have to say i'm not having much luck with that. the other guy i tried to have come over got put in jail for the second night in a row attempting to come to my house. he's a really good guy tho, and i'm not being naive about it, the officer just kept harassing him and trying to push his buttons and it worked. but yeah, about the guy that held me down and kept trying to force me to do stuff...never talking to him again. some people just need to be castrated and that's that lol and also learn how to respect girls. no means no, not, please hold me down and do it again. anyone know any good guys 17-19 near madison wi that would wanna date me? lol

[Cyprus106]

Move down here. Yeah it sucks. Just stay away from dood. Trust me, it'll hurt more if you don't. I know from experience. Just let it go and try not to remember it. And mvoe down here.

[YoBoyThacker]

Yea you're still young, don't hold out and wait for him when he's being unfaithful (cuz a college boy who just entered his manhood away from his g/f - ex g/f - friend thing lol)IDK.....My g/f lives 8 hours away, i'm in MD and shes in NH, and were having problems too, so i'm happy to know i'm not the only sad one in this forum.........Just dont jump into another relationship right away, cuz you'll probly get more hurt by being taken advantage of cuz your vulnerable. I would hang out with your g/f's and go out with them as much as possible to gain better relationships(movies, mall, girl stuff) lol i have no clue what you do in madison?? I got a question though where is madison???

[ghostrx7]

u said u kiss and stuff, so why would he buy the cow if he could get milk for free?

[Knifeblade]

let an older guy chime in here. When I left the "hometown" for the big world of college, I met so many people, and experienced so many new things [music, attitudes, different teaching methods, self-sufficiency, rock concerts, parties, it goes on a mile] that my view on life and myself changed.

I didn't have a steady, per se, when I left, but was wise enough even at 18 to know that "absence does NOT make the heart grow fonder, absence makes the heart WANDER."

I'm a male, so it all comes from my male perspective. He is experiencing what you cannot, and is seeing more of the world than you probably are, sad but true.

Let it go, stop feeling sorry for yourself.

[MBTN]

^ Very good explaination

Will you yourself be going to college? If so, it's a great opportunity.