women problems

[slammedscion]

In less than 1 1/2 months I am moving to el paso,tx. I met a really great girl but we have some difficulties well actually its all her. We are more less dating but its not offical until i move.
When we agreed on this we both agreed not to have sex with or ex's. I have been true to this promisse but dont know if she will be. Her ex is picking her up right now to go hang out and she told me last night she didnt know if they would have sex and i am really mad because to me a promisse is verry important thing to make. If she breaks this promise i dont think i will be able to ever trust her again and she knows this. Her ex basicly told her that the last 3 times they did it she was more less just a fuck. He is always mean and she told me that they will never get back together but doesnt know if they will have sex and it pisses me off.
Last night she told me to call her today and she would answer so i did and she didnt answer her phone which is always on. I am verry diffrent from all of her ex's and she told me some things that really upset me last night. We were talking about me meeting her family and she basicly said she was ashamed of me beacause of my tattoos that i have on my forearms. She told me all of her family except her mom would judge me and i told her that i didnt care because they would she how i treated her and would notice i am a verry nice guy. She then asked if i would hide them for at least 2 months and not tell them ceartin things about me. I am needing advice on what i should do if she has sex with her ex. I dont know if once i got down there she would break up with me to be with him or just fuck him anyways. Can any one that has had this problem help me out a little. sorry its so long

[fredjacksonsan]

Let's make this really simple:

1: She is embarrassed of you. (tattoos)

2: She said she wouldn't have sex with the ex.

3: She did, more than once.


Move on, brutha.

[slammedscion]

The tattoo thing i can kinda understand her family has strong religous beliefs which i forgot to say and we didnt make the promise to each other until after the last time they had sex. which was about 5-6wks ago.

[ghostrx7]

find a girl that will promise u, easy as that. if u leave her on good terms, u could be the guy hittin that, while remaining single to do as u please. girls that are random are usually sluts. ur better off without her. ex's hang out with ex's for one reason, they are confortable with sex with each other, and could have sex without drama. sorry to be harsh, but ive been there done that! both my ex's still call me daily for a little late night action!

[fredjacksonsan]

Originally Posted by slammedscion

I have been true to this promisse but dont know if she will be.

So you have your doubts already.

Originally Posted by slammedscion

Her ex is picking her up right now to go hang out and she told me last night she didnt know if they would have sex and i am really mad because to me a promise is verry important thing to make.

Seems she isn't helping, she's telling you she's going to hang out with an ex boyfriend.

Originally Posted by slammedscion

...and she told me that they will never get back together but doesnt know if they will have sex and it pisses me off.

Sounds like she's playing a game.

Originally Posted by slammedscion

Last night she told me to call her today and she would answer so i did and she didnt answer her phone which is always on.

Hel-lo!

Originally Posted by slammedscion

I am verry diffrent from all of her ex's and she told me some things that really upset me last night. We were talking about me meeting her family and she basicly said she was ashamed of me beacause of my tattoos that i have on my forearms. She told me all of her family except her mom would judge me and i told her that i didnt care because they would she how i treated her and would notice i am a verry nice guy. She then asked if i would hide them for at least 2 months and not tell them ceartin things about me.

Who cares if they judge you? If they're upset that you have tattoos, that's them being shallow. If they're truly religious, they will go by "Judge not, lest ye be judged" and give you a fair shake.

Originally Posted by slammedscion

I am needing advice on what i should do if she has sex with her ex. I dont know if once i got down there she would break up with me to be with him or just fuck him anyways. Can any one that has had this problem help me out a little. sorry its so long

If she has sex with her ex, it's bye-bye. If you really like her then take a chance, but tell her what you expect, like to answer when she says she will (bet you'll hear, "Oh, my phone died", or "I left it at home", or "I had it on mute". Funny how that free long distance on the cell doesn't work to call you back)

Anyway, I've dated girls like this, she will jerk you around forever to make her boyfriend jealous, and fuck him behind your back whenever she gets the chance. Then, when you're over her she'll come to your door, beat up or something, and try to beg you for help.

[imtheoneandonlyD]

Ive gone through that. Trust me just let it be. If she is worth it you'll know.

[Cyprus106]

DOOD! Trust me and the rest of us. FUCK HER. Don't talk to her, DON'T call her. "I promise I won't have sex!! But I don't know if I 'll have sex or not..." I mean seriously! DON'T give in to her game, Seriously man! Don't be that guy. If she wants to play dick-ass games like that. Let her, but don't be a part of it. Don't you talk to her any more and let her talk to you, if you deal with her AT ALL again. And when she does, be defensive, but not pissed. Just be obviously cautious. It's not really playing hard to get, but it kind of is. But not to be cut,e to watch your own ass. And if she's worth it she'll actually give a shit to try. If she's not, she won't.

[abaird]

Originally Posted by Cyprus106

DOOD! Trust me and the rest of us. FUCK HER. Don't talk to her, DON'T call her. "I promise I won't have sex!! But I don't know if I 'll have sex or not..." I mean seriously! DON'T give in to her game, Seriously man! Don't be that guy. If she wants to play dick-ass games like that. Let her, but don't be a part of it. Don't you talk to her any more and let her talk to you, if you deal with her AT ALL again. And when she does, be defensive, but not pissed. Just be obviously cautious. It's not really playing hard to get, but it kind of is. But not to be cut,e to watch your own ass. And if she's worth it she'll actually give a shit to try. If she's not, she won't.

I concur. Some girls will do shit like like that(sleeping with there ex's) to to string you along so when the shit they have with the ex finally falls apart, she still has you. Yeah man, if a girl is gonna do that, you are better off without her.

[slammedscion]

Thanks for all of your replys. Shes calling me tonite and im goingt to tell her how i feel. I really care for this girl but i cant be with her if she fucks her ex tonite. I going to ask her if she did because i know that she will tell me this. If she says yes im going to tell her that i cant be with her because she broke her promise and that since we are kinda dating thats more less cheating. I hate this situation cuz i really like her and she is the only person i am talking to latley we talk 4-5hrs a day on the phone but if shes going to pull shit like this i guess shes not the girl she has been acting like all along any way i will tell u guys how it goes when either she calls me or i call her cuz im finding out one way or another in 6hrs.

[slammedscion]

Also here are the pics of my tats which she has a problem of her family seeing
http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y99...9/S3010004.jpg
what i dont get is they will also see some of this since it is on my neck
http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y99...9/S3010007.jpg

[ghostrx7]

well i see the issue with the tatoos, but they are sweet! anyway if she says yes she did, dump her, if she says no, shes lying. u dont hang with ur ex for friendship if u catch my drift.

[sidewayzS13]

she doesnt sound like a very strong willed person if she is breaking a promise like that in just 5 weeks. i guess i could understand the tatoo thing but the ex thing is fucked up if she broke the promise drop her breaking a promise is worse then lying in my book

[RickwithaTbird]

dude seriously... not one person here gave the slightest notion that you might have a good chance at a decent relationship. You obviously have no experience. This chick is playing you. Flat out. No doubt. Get over it. Either play her back, get used to it, or ditch her. DO NOT let yourself get attached to her. She is garbage. Tell her you fucked your ex, but you couldnt help it. You were lonely because she didnt answer her phone, so you called your ex, you two hung out, and one thing led to another because you missed her. (her, referring to the girl you are "kinda sorta" dating). See what she has to say about that. Play this bitch. PLEASE PLAY HER FOR ALL THE REST OF THE MALE POPULATION... GET SOME PAYBACK, THE POWER IS IN YOUR HANDS!!!

[slammedscion]

Well she called and i heard him bitiching and she was crying. I later found out they didnt have sex because she thought of me and didnt want to hurt me. Thats why he was bitiching. She did admit thought they they did kiss 2 times which deffinatly pisses me off but atleast she kept her promise. She asked me what i thought and i told her im not going to play around with her and she asked if i was still interested in dating her. I told her i didnt know and i asked her if she thought she would be able to date and she told me once i get down there that more than likely we would. Its to late not to be attached because we have been talking for way to long not to be. She knows more about me than my closest friends or flamily does. She was crying to me about what all he said and i could barely keep from laughing this guys such a dick. I seriously think she would be worth a shot once i get down there but im going to try and seperate myself from her until i get there in a 1 1/2 months to see how it will work out. Im going to sleep on it tonight and if i feel that shes not worth it later im going to straight up tell her. Anyway i need to get some sleep i only have a few hours before i start out to the tattoo shop to get one reinked so i will talk to every one later.

[slammedscion]

I forgot to say she wont be seeing her ex for a long while he lives 3 hrs away now and for the playing her. If i find out anything other than she told me.I know one of her friends who she tells everything that happens to her, i will ask her because she cannot keep a secret and i will go from there. also ghostrx7 you are a girl right because the whole thing about the tats being sweet would be very wierd if your a guy.