Girlfreind or Freind??? HELP PLEASE!!!

[98gtstang]

OK, heres my story:
About a year ago I met this girl Amanda at the mall and we exchanged numbers and started to talk and then hang out on the weekends, affter a few weeks of this we developed strong feelings for eachother but she was in a relationship at the time. (I was head over heels for her) Then it turned into summer and I got a job at a go-karting shop, well we found it harder to hang out because of our scheduals not permiting it at all but we would exchanged the e-mail once in a while and a phone call here and their.
Then her boyfreind and her split up, permantly. I was still working so I never really got the chance to help her out in time of need, well I guess she then quickly met the other guy named Mike (same name as the guy linda cheated on me with, but its a different guy) and they quickly became boyfreind and girlfreind and have gone out since.
Now latley about two weeks ago Mikes car broke down and he has not been able to see her very much. So she called me and asked if I would hang out with her so I agreed, now we have hung out everyday almost all day after school and now all those feelings we had about a year ago have all came back like a tidle wave. But now I don't know what to do about her boyfreind, she has expressed she has feelings for me but I know she "loves" her boyfreind. And well I guess my question now is do I just continue to hang out with her as freinds and then maby.. Maby get a chance with her or do I put it all on the line and tell her how I feel for her?
Well thank you very much for taking the time out 2 read it :-)

Cliff Notes; 1. met girl about a year ago, had really strong feelings, she had a boyfreind
2. Got jot stoped hanging out with the girl
3. She dumped her boyfreind
4. I had a new girlfreind, then quickly broke up
5. Lost new job (broken hand) and then she found new boyfreind
6. Her boyfreinds car stoped worken, she called me up and asked 2 hang out so we hung out now all my feelings came back and i don't know what to do. I can ither 1, put it all on the line and tell her how I feel or 2. wait it out and hope I get a chance.


Thank you guys

[Thourun]

Well you can tell her how you feel but don't do it if you think it'll put some pressure on her (I'd only reccomend this if your realy good friends though). I'm in a similar situation now actually... can't decide what I want with my best friend, she's got shit to deal with first though.

Ohh and whatever you do don't be involved in any cheeting, that shit dosent get anyone anywhere in adult relationships.. Love triangles suck for all involved in my experience.

[indyram]

If you are good friends, which it sounds like is the case you should be able to talk about it. I guess it depends on how much she really cares for this other guy. I would just ask her how she feels about you and the "us" between you and her. Then let her know how you feel. She may feel the same way, but has been hesitant because she doesn't know how you feel.

[SiGNAL748]

Maybe you should learn how to spell. Maybe then she'll be your girlfriend.

[drewh4386]

I question i always ask is, Are yall friends on a non gender level? meaning does she she you as being her good friend boy? I encounterd girls who like the idea of having a friend only relationship because you cause stay friends forever that way. Theres nothing wrong with spilling it iut in the table tho. Maybe she sees it the same also. But usually girls express interest in guys they like that are not friends with them before a guy they already know. if there like you like that you'd know. At least that how they do it where im from.

[Oz]

Pfft. Tequila. Lots of it. When no one else is around. Then the arena for "true feelings" has been set. Slammin'.

-Dr Ozzie.

[HogieGT-R]

^you and your crazy advice man no wonder why you're a pimp....

well man, i don't know because a similar case happned to me except this girl was just a tease. sometimes girls like to do that, so relax on it before it blows up on you, and you get a case of blue balls

[98gtstang]

Hey, Thanks for the help so far. i'd write more but i'm in school right now. Thank you, i'm going 2 her house 2night to hang out i'll keep you guys posted
sorry about my spelling.

[Raz_Kaz]

Just don't ruin the friendship

[98gtstang]

Thanks, One more quick question. Do any of you guys know how I should bring it up in a conversation? I do admit I'm liken that Tequila idea OZ thanks
-Alan

[Ace$nyper]

Originally Posted by Oz

Pfft. Tequila. Lots of it. When no one else is around. Then the arena for "true feelings" has been set. Slammin'.

-Dr Ozzie.

YEAAAAAAAAAH

[Raz_Kaz]

Tequila is weak...only realy men go with rohypnol or ketamine.

[Jay!]

Never talk about your feelings. Unless you're a wuss. BTW, wussies don't get the girl.

You said:

we developed strong feelings for eachother

How do you know she had "feelings" for you? Explain.

Are you sure you didn't like her, and let yourself be blinded by that and just assume she liked you?

And if she did, what evidence do you have now that she's still interested in you? Explain.

Always make sure you're not stuck in the Friend Zone first. If you are "just a friend" to her, forget it and move on.

Otherwise, turn up the charm and the sexual tension. Be funny and cocky, etc; don't cater to her every whim; don't be a nice guy; ignore her every once in a while; demonstrate your independence. Etcetera, etcetera, etcetera, etc...

[Oz]

Jay and Raz Kaz are also 100% correct. Be the bad boy, get the ro', get the K, get the tequila. Then spark the convo.

[KaotiKCamaro5]

well it seems to me that she's kindof used you as the friend thats there when she needs one... ya know, she calls you when her boyfriend isnt around so shes not bored and it seems like shes never made the effort for anything to happen. kindof sounds like you're being led on.. i'd play some games a bit just to see if this is for real before you get yourself all in a twist and lookin like a sissy.

*and if that doesnt work, OZ's plan is definately the way to go..