NO idea what to do!! Help?

[Cyprus106]

OK, so this is just one of those wierd random stupid things that happens (i.e. life?)...

I started dating this really good looking girl. she's practically living with me; she was living with her sister. then i went over to meet her parents a month after we started dating and noticed that her dad had the logo of the division my dad managed. turns out the guy works for my dad. my dad is above 20+ people, and is the manager for the whole section, but he really cares about his employees and having their respect is a really big deal to him.
now its been almost 5 months, and I like her dad a lot. he's a great guy. we've had good conversations, he owns a 48 caddy that he may sell me and he had a Ford Pantera (for those of you who don't know what it is, cuz most don't, think lamborghini. he had the later model that looks just like one. only 7200+ were made from 71-90, so they're rare n sexy.)
me n her dad got no problems, but recently, my dad came to me and was like "yeah, i said hi to mike and he would barely acknowledge my existence. what did you do to his daughter!?" i had no idea! couldn't possibly know. and theni talked to her dad for a while a few days later and we had no problems with each other. cool. then i meet my mom for lunch to catch up ahd she mentions it again that my dads a little upset about it. like i guess mike won't even talk to him now and avoids him or something. so ht's got my dad pretty upset. i like this chick and im not exactly sure wtf is goin on... i asked her after hearing about it the first time and she said "oh well my mom's going thru her 'change of life' or w/e and she's driving us all crazy. he's got that on his mind" so i took that. but since my mom mentioned it i guess it's gotten worse. and in 15 years workin for my dad they've never had any problems, especially not like this. Now, I know my dad has kind of gut it in his head that i should breaak up with her, but i know he'd never like try to get us to cuz he's too nice. but ive realied that im kinda screwed in this situation either way now. like going out with her im not making my dad happy and obivously im causing friction between our parents and if i break up with her obviously i can't say "its fuckin shit up wiht my dad." i mean that's not a reason to break up with her and her dads gonnabe agitated at me. so now im kinda fucked either way. and i can't get her to break up with me cuz then she could tell her dad that i all the sudden got to be an asshole or something and make shit worse. AAH!! I think im in a catch 22 and i have no idea what to do...

[Oz]

Work out what the guys problem at work is!! What does it have to do with you and your gf??

[crayzayjay]

Sorry to be blunt, but.. He's pissed 'cos his boss's son is f*cking his daughter?

[Ridenour]

^ ^ LoL

Maybe it's like this:

He seems to view himself as inferior to your dad (understandable cause he's his boss) so he naturally is going to feel belittled by him. When you started going out with his daughter, he maybe felt like he had to be on his best behavior in order to not piss of your dad/boss, so as to not have bad word come to you / make you dump his daughter. (being quiet would be a way of trying not to slip up- if you don't talk, it's hard to say something stupid). Then his wife started having issues. Now he's really afraid that him, his daughter, and his issue-filled wife isn't good enough for his boss / his daughter's boyfriend, so he's avoiding contact out of lack of self esteem. He's distancing himself maybe because he doesn't want to say anything stupid / be confronted about his family's issues.

That's kind of what came to my mind. It sounds kind of complicated, but I believe it sounds like it may be mainly due to her father's lack of self-esteem.

[RickwithaTbird]

yea, I agree ^.. but it would all be subconscious. Like, don't think hes sitting there saying to himself... fucking boss, fucking boss's son, fuck them, fuck this, fuck everything... I'd say just keep on keepin on like normal. Don't dig into the issue, but ask your gf how her parents are doing sometimes. Just so you arent avoiding the whole situation and then looking uptight yourself. I don't think your dad would want you to break up with your girlfriend over this. It may cross his mind sometimes just because it would make things easier, but that still wouldnt mean much. Keep your relationship seperate from family issues. You and your girl have your own world and it shouldnt be affected by other people.

[Cyprus106]

oh he does. lol but he'd never say it like seriously. He said it once, trying to gauge my reaction, which was indicative that he shuoldn't say it again. But I have a feelign that's kind of the issue. Not inferiority maybe as much as awkwardness. both guys goin what do i... do? kind of htinkg maybe.

I kinda figure he may be a little apprehensive about his bosses' son tapping his daughter all the time. But honestly, he just doesn't care much. Like, not that he doens't care about his daughter, he just doesn't give a shit. I met her mom while my g/f was straddling me, shirt pulled up, sitting on my crotch while I was laying on a futon. Mom didn't give a shit. I think I can safely say that was one of the most awkward times in recent memory. Especially when her mom shook my hand. buuuuuh

[knorwj]

Maybe her dad feels awkward around the other employees knowing that his daughter is dating the bosses son, and he doesn't want to appear to be "sucking up" to the boss by chating and buddying up with him. And maybe he isn't sure how to react to how he feels about it and therefore is inadvertently snubbing your dad.

I mean I think in a work related environment it would probly be a little awkward if your daughter was dating the bosses son. Thats probly alot of pressure put on both parties, more so on her dad because he doesn't want anything to appear different.

[Ridenour]

Originally Posted by knorwj

Maybe her dad feels awkward around the other employees knowing that his daughter is dating the bosses son, and he doesn't want to appear to be "sucking up" to the boss by chating and buddying up with him. And maybe he isn't sure how to react to how he feels about it and therefore is inadvertently snubbing your dad.

I mean I think in a work related environment it would probly be a little awkward if your daughter was dating the bosses son. Thats probly alot of pressure put on both parties, more so on her dad because he doesn't want anything to appear different.

I think that sucking up thing is very true.

[CashMoneyInd]

Sounds like Romeo and Juliet...

[SniperX13]

just sit down and have a polite nice conversation with her dad. if you guys are alright with each other, just explain to him, that your father is worried that your rleationship with her daughter is making things tense between him and the father as a booss/coworker. find out from the father what is going on, then just let your dad know, or let the father know that your dad is worried about it, because he is concerned because he cares about his employees and one of them isnt acting like usual.

[stoned_pimp420]

I'd have to agree with post #3

[Cyprus106]

I did. my dad overdramatized it... or took it for somethign it wasn't. her dad didnt even know what i was talking about when i mentioned it. psh... i was all worried over shit.

[SniperX13]

well thats great. I bet its a load off your mind to know that everything is ok