the end is near

[Steel]

This is tough.

The girlfriend and I had the talk the other night. The talk about where we plan on going after college is over.

<sigh>

They never said life was easy, right? To make a long story short, I am planning on moving far far away from this snowy state... i mean las vegas or something like that. She wants to stay. And she is not planning on coming with me, which i can completely understand considering i told her that i don't ever want to get married.

I didn't think this was going to be so hard when it was poking around my brain before, but boy was I wrong. Sure its still ~4 months away, but it already feels.. it's like we know the breakup is coming. And we do.. but.. I don't know. I have all these feelings churing around inside me. I'm torn between my dreams and my love. And even though this woman can drinve me up the wall sometimes i already miss her thinking aobut not having her here.

Ah where's a 12 pack of newcastle when you need one

[Oz]

If it was meant to be, you'll work something out. Otherwise, plenty of chicks in Vegas.

[Steel]

Originally Posted by Oz

If it was meant to be, you'll work something out. Otherwise, plenty of chicks in Vegas.

Yeah i know that, but that doesn't make it any easier. To think of how i'm going to break her heart breaks my own even worse

[Oz]

If it's killing you that much - don't do it. Go back to the drawinbg board and find a compromise where you can be together and happy.

[82KnightRider]

From the title on this thread I thought armageddan was coming....
You might be broken hearted for a while but then youll get over it,the girls in vegas will help you too

[RickwithaTbird]

Originally Posted by 82KnightRider

From the title on this thread I thought armageddan was coming....
You might be broken hearted for a while but then youll get over it,the girls in vegas will help you too

no man dont listen to that shit.

If you love this girl, and you leave her, you will never forgive yourself. She will hurt just as bad or worse than you, then she will eventually realize that you were a jerk, and get over you and move on. You will still be thinking about her.

HOWEVER.. I am not saying, "STAY"... nah.. thats up to you, but weigh the options.

Do you love this girl enough to stay in a place thats less than perfect for you?

Do you think you will love Las Vegas more than you love your girlfriend?

And probably the biggest thing to think about is...WHY does she want to stay? Is it because her gandma is in an old folks home and she is the only one who cares enough to visit her, and doesnt want to leave her alone for the rest of her life? Or is it because she doesnt want to leave her job at Jamba Juice? If her reason for staying is more important than your reason for leaving, then that makes you the jerk. But if your reason for leaving is more important than her reason for staying then that makes her the jerk. But if both reasons are equally important, and you both feel that you've got to do what you've got to do, then talk about it and decide if you want to stay together until you leave. And if you are gonna stay together, then when the time comes, have her give you a ride to the airport, kiss her goodbye, and try to keep in touch. Or if you decide you are leaving and she is staying, and you arent going to remain together until then, just kiss and say goodbye.

I kind of had the same situation. I left Hawaii last year. I had this girlfriend for a long time. I told her she could come with me if she wanted, but she said no I cant leave my family, (which by the way was made up of selfish drug addicts who always argued about money and beer, because they needed more money to buy more drugs and beer) but that I should just go back to hawaii after a year. At first I said, okay, I'll just come back, but it may be longer than a year. She was cool with it, but I realized that she was being selfish in staying there, because I was trying to help her move onward with her life, but she refused the help. (it was more complicated than that, but thats the jist of it) I decided that I wasnt gonna come back for her. I knew that if I told her, she might want to break up before I left, but I felt it was only right to tell her. I told her. She was mad and said she never wanted to see me again. But she called me the next day and asked.. "do you wanna hang out?", I said, "yeah, I'll pick you up in 20 minutes."... that was our talk about it. we stayed together until I left. She went with me to the airport, and we made out for 5 minutes before I had to go. It was rough, I hated leaving her, I cried, she cried, but I dont regret it.

You just have to be as honest as can be. With her, and with yourself.
It's a tough situation man, I know. I hope that you and her can sort this out without any arguing, and so that you wont feel bad about it. Just trust your gut feelings, because they are always right.

[fredjacksonsan]

And if it's just the snow that's making you leave....there are other places with less snow.

[sameintheend01]

how about an "open" relationship?

[imtheoneandonlyD]

if the only reason your leaving is because of the snow then your leaving for the wrong reasons.

i agree when people say weigh the options. Make sure your leaving for the right reasons.

[HogieGT-R]

i don't blame ou for wanting to leave man...MA is a frigging trap.......but as everbody has been saying, you've gotta think up a different plan if you love her that much

[fredjacksonsan]

Why do something that you KNOW is going to tear you up?

[Steel]

Originally Posted by fredjacksonsan

Why do something that you KNOW is going to tear you up?

Because this is real life, not a commercial; i dont have big shiny red "EASY" button to press.

And no i don't want to leave just cause of the snow I want to get out of taxachusetts, the superhigh cost of living, the fact that i've been living here my whole life. I want to see new places, new people. And I don't want to be tied down.. which i kind of am.

rock - me - hard place

[Colov99]

Originally Posted by Steel

taxachusetts,.

rock - me - hard place

Know the feeling... That and you probably want to get away from the massholes. I dont know what to tell you but good luck, and make sure you do what is best for you, as weird as that sounds dont let someone keep you from being who you are even if you love them.

[fredjacksonsan]

I hear you on the anti-MA. I lived there awhile. A very short while.

[Steel]

Well it happened.

The straw that broke the camels back finally came last night.

We're over.
She's moving out.
I'm going to puke.

I guess now that i'm going to stay single for a long while. In a way i'm kinda relieved, but i'm also dreading the thought of not having someone there.

Well, theres no sense in doing to myself what I did the last time this happened. I'm biting the bullet, hitting the throttle and moving on.


After i puke.