6 year age difference in a relationship, can it work?

[thomas crown]

i have known this girl since she was little and we have seen each other 2-3 times a year forever growing up. about 2 months ago i saw her one of those few times a year and we decided to get together one night and do something, and now we have been hanging out all of the time since then. i am 24, i graduated from college over a year ago (after 5 years), and a year ago i had a relationship end that was 3.5 years and i thought we were going to get married. anyway, i am pretty well grown up. she is 18 and a senior in high school. it is not weird with us because we have known each other forever, but now i see her more times in a weekend than i used to in a year. her parents are cool with it because they have always liked me, and her friends think it's strange but alright i guess. i just don't want to get hurt and it seems like it could easily happen because she is so young, and is going to college next fall, etc. everybody says that she is really clingy, and once she gets somebody she likes she will do anything to make it work. sounds kind of scary, but that could be one reason to worry less. anyway, i really like her a lot, she is like my girlfriend of all those years only better, but i am just afraid of getting crushed again after years into it. that's it, any opinions would be appreciated, thanks

t.c.

[TexasF355F1]

My friend met this girl and they ended up getting a house together. He's 23 and she's 32. So far its worked fine it seems, I mean it's been around a year.

[clawhammer]

Is she going to college somewhere close to where you live? If so, then sure, I'd hook up with her, but otherwise not, because the temptation is just going to be too great especially for her, if it's long distance.

[LotusDreams]

6 years apart in the long run is nothing.. The only thing you have to worry about, as mentioned, is the distance thing....


And he's 23 and she's 32 - right on. that's all I have to say about that.

[YogsVR4]

Its all about ratios. You're more then 25% older then her - you're going to have issues with that. She's going to want to do things that you've already gone through and it may cause some real problems in a relationship.

Twenty years from now, that age gap would be meaningless, but for now, all I can say is that I hope things work out well for you.

[ciccmga]

I am in a very serious relationship now where I am going to be 29 in march and she will be 23 next tuesday. We have been together for two years now and it has been the best two years of my life. All I can tell you is that you need to take it slow, if she is "going off" to college. I have been there done that one two. After the second year the temtations got to her. I'm not trying to say that your gf will do that, I am just saying be careful. Other than that, good luck and best wishes!

[k8isgr8]

I'm 20 and my bf is 26. We've been going out for 2 years now, and at first it was hard cuz he'd go out to the bars with his friends and stuff, and I couldn't go, but you learn to adjust to things like that.

It can work if you want it to.

[Ricochet]

No offense, but you're going to get hurt if you start getting attached. You have more experience than her and she is just getting out of highschool. I'm 25 and tried an 18 year old, the sex was fantastic but the real world shit just didn't work.. My advice would be to stay friends.

[gigglesnirt]

my parents age is 6 years apart, and they're fine, a relationship should work out just fine.

[Beastiek2]

Originally Posted by Ricochet

No offense, but you're going to get hurt if you start getting attached. You have more experience than her and she is just getting out of highschool. I'm 25 and tried an 18 year old, the sex was fantastic but the real world shit just didn't work.. My advice would be to stay friends.

I agree alot. I have been hurt. I am 25 dated my X who is 21 for just about 3 yeasr and things were great but she started getting older and wanted to experience more things. Mainly things I have already done. Its rough but of course it could work. good luck with it man i wish i had the luck.

[-Jayson-]

im kinda in your boat, im 20 and my GF is 17. . .i know jail bait. I didnt go after her, she went after me for the record. But shes a senior in high school and it is kinda hard, like she wants to go to high school dances and crap like that. I told her the only dance i will take her to is prom. The age difference isnt as bad as yours, but their will definitely be age caused problems. Shes also at that point where she just had a really bad experience with alcohol, and is now deathly affraid of me drinking or anyone else (I honestly think all girls go through this). Where as me, i turn 21 in like 7 months and plan on hitting up all the bars.

The decision you gotta make is can you see yourself being with her in the long run? Thats one of the main reasons i agreed to go out with my gf. I had known her for like 6 months before because of work, and we just get along so well its amazing. Sometimes i think she might be to immature, but then i remember how great it is to be with her and plan for the long run.

[speediva]

It's rough when you want to go to bars and shit, and the "significant other" can't come along... I am 22 and my b/f is 30. We started dating when I was 20. Luckily, I turned 21 only a month later. Things are smoother now.

[Fully_Sick]

IF michael Jackson can bridge age gaps, you have no problems

[clawhammer]

^LMAO...That's the funniest thing I heard all day.

[Oz]

Yep, no problems. Went out with a 26yo when I was 19 for a while.