Girl issues

[x2x]

ok here it goes,
ive just been seeing this chick for the past two weeks, but ive actually known her for about a year. well when we go out we have fun and all n we seem to express feelings for each other but nothing seems to happen. when i try to do anything to her she doesnt hesitate, but i just asked her out. Her response was "we should get to no eachother a bit more, like our good stffs and bad stuffs". but for crying out loud thats y i asked her in the first place. Anyways i wanna know what you guys reckon is too soon for someone to be asked out. like does something need to happen before, like a barrier needs to be crossed, or their should be a certain amount of days or months before it can happen.

[leadfootGTP]

my experience is that people usualy make up their minds fairly quickly after the meet someone, either not a friend, a friend, a possible boyfriend, or a boy friend, so i would think that if she has any intentions of going steady with you (or ...faster...) she probably wouldve said yes. But it really depends on the person. Your gonna have to talk to her about it eventualy so just ask her if you should even bother (not in those words obviously) or if you should move on and just see her as a friend. Now that she knows that you want to go out with her it will just be awkward for te both of you until this gets cleared up. Either way dont flip out if she says no, youll regret it.

[WickedNYCowboy]

Maybe she doesn't want to just jump into a relationship. I did the samething with this girl back in the summer going from Elementary(5th grade) to Junior High(6th grade) we ended up going out till April of senior year of highschool. Everytime I have rushed into a relationship or dating seriously it would blow up in front of me. Take it slow. She obviously cares about you if she has kept around for this long. She is probably taking it slow. It is frustrating but it may be worth it in the long run. Just take it as it comes good luck and keep us posted.

[Mase]

other fish in the sea....other fish in the sea....look for another girl...she doesn't want you...sorry

[WickedNYCowboy]

It really depends. But you should start looking around but not act really just let some girls you may be interested.

[landyacht]

Play on what she said. Ask her to coffee to get to know her better, and vice versa. Tell it doesn't have to be a date, just wanna spend some time with her.

I agree with what has been said about taking it slow. I've been around the block often enough to know that rushing is bad. I have an ex fiance to prove it.

I say listen to the advice about going slow, and try my suggestion of the coffee thing. Maybe for a second outing, mention that you want to see some movie that's out because it looks good, and ask her if she wants to come with you. Just make sure you pick a movie that appeals to many things... humor, action, drama, romance all in one. Like Something's Gotta Give for example. Great movie.

I hope this has been of help to you... good luck my friend.

[Rbraczyk]

One way to get a girl is to make her jealous. Trust me. Start talking to the hottest girls you can find, and slowly that one you want will come around.

[WickedNYCowboy]

Originally Posted by Rbraczyk

One way to get a girl is to make her jealous. Trust me. Start talking to the hottest girls you can find, and slowly that one you want will come around.

That may just chase her away as well.

[RSX-S777]

If a girl really wants you, she won't hesitate at all to date you. Simple as that. Take the subtle hint and keep your dignity. If she approaches you at a later date, fine. Being the pushy, oblivious guy is just...sad.

[aloharocky]

She's already classified you into the "gomer" class. She will use you to drive her around, take her shopping, drive her friends around, spend money on her, etc. Then she'll dump you for a bad boy.

[leadfootGTP]

yup, besides how bad do you really want a girl that has to "think about things" or "get to know you better" after a whole year. even if you do go out with her she'll be changing her mind a lot.

[LotusDreams]

She's probably interested in someone else and waiting to see if it pans out.. if it doesn't, you'll be her second choice, completely ignorant. If it's not a quick yes, you've got to say hell no and get out of there.

[x2x]

hmmmm, lotus i jus found out ur actually right, well i think.

yea well ive got to know her more and im really honest with her, so i dunno but she decided to tell me she had a boyfriend. dunno why its this way but she tells me she will break up because he's an inconsiderate spoiled little brat. well anyway she told me she didnt trust me back then when i asked her out( i did it cos i thought she was single back then). she says she trust me now . she tells me all this shit and i dunno if this is true or not because everything she says contadicts each other.like her boyfriend is a dickhead , then the next day,she wants to patch things up. Its like this everyday almost. and its not just that its everything. then when we get serious, like she says she just wants to be friends, but she really trust me more than anyone. then at the end of the convo she tells me to forget what she just said. And no she hasn't used me for anything and im so confused. and before this happened i got to get really attatched to her. why the fuck do girls do this, its fucking up with my mind, and my health. well for the past week but not anymore. life sucks

[fredjacksonsan]

She just can't make up her mind about the boyfriend. On the one hand, sounds like she's got plenty of reasons to quit with the turd, but there must be something he's got, that one thing that is why she wants to stay with him and no I don't mean his schlong. Maybe it's time to help her out with her decision. Since she trusts you and talks to you, make a list of + and - about the guy. Once she sees it on paper she'll be able to figure it out, especially if you say things like "Well, what is it about him that makes you want to stay together despite all this negative stuff?"

Then of course once she's made the decision she'll have another one to make: Are you her friend or more? Can't help you with that one.....

[bobby28384]

Someone should really count how many of these types of threads have been posted.

Move on, my friend.