My dose of reality.

Rich · #1 02-19-2002, 08:41 PM

After months of sitting on my ass, I actually got up the courage to ask this chick (a friend of mine whom ive had a crush on for some time) out yesterday. She said no, and im confused and pissed about the whole thing. I was pretty sure she was going to say yes. I guess I was being a little overconfident about all of it. On top of all this, im 100% new to the "dating game" so that probably explains most of it.

After thinking about it for hours and hours (and hours)

, it was unbelieveably dumb to even ask her, as now our friendship may suffer, and even if it did work out it wouldnt be forever (im not saying one way or the other) and then when we broke up I would lose her as a friend anyways.

So ofcourse today, I dealt with the whole situation in my usuial style.

I skipped my afternoon classes (where I would have to confrunt her) and I didnt answer my phone today. She left me a voice mail saying to call her, but I didnt.

I ended up just doing a tune-up on my car as it was nice out. That proved to be a good thing as my car is running much better. Had a super long shower and cooked a good meal and chilled the rest of the day.

When crap like this happens to me, i get stressed and I find it extremly hard to calm down and just get on with stuff. I wish I could just forget about the whole thing. I always overreact about this crap.

MBTN · #2 02-19-2002, 09:16 PM

You idiot. She tried calling you and you didn't answer!

That was probably her apologizing and actually saying yes... You'll find out tomorrow.

Steel · #3 02-19-2002, 11:52 PM

Ah dude dont sweat it. Would you rather have my situation where she DOES go out with you, then dump you for no good reason and never quite treats you the smae afterward?Exactly.

Setanta · #4 03-08-2002, 07:36 PM

I feel your pain on this one. The whole thing can really suck sometimes.

I know I'm speaking from experience

ac427cpe · #5 03-08-2002, 11:47 PM

man.... just try to keep it the way your friendship was before, then ask again in a few weeks.

that is what happened with me. my girlfriend said no, then it drove her crazy that she didn't say yes....and we are still (emphasis on STILL together) so if you keep your friendship with her, at least she knows that you like her. so it can be looked at in a good way both ways.

1 - she is still your friend (you still can spend time/have fun/NOT SPEND SHIT-LOADS OF MONEY ON THINGS THAT SHE DOESN't NEED/be around her)

2 - hey, who knows. maybe she was just afraid and really WANTS you to ask again to make sure you were serious.

but!!! DON'T OVER DO IT!!! and if it just gets weird... then, shit - don't listen to me. (hopefully it won't get weird!)

Steel · #6 03-09-2002, 09:41 AM

heee hee, in other news: Nina and chris are aobut to break up. the whole world can see it. AAAAND she's being really nice to me too. Oh yeah, she also said the other day "kinda sorta miss you". hmm. Do i sense a twinge of regret in the air? ITs just too bad i have another girlfreind now, huh.

Neutrino · #7 03-10-2002, 02:21 AM

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Originally posted by HuMMerMan

So ofcourse today, I dealt with the whole situation in my usuial style. I skipped my afternoon classes (where I would have to confrunt her) and I didnt answer my phone today. She left me a voice mail saying to call her, but I didnt.

CAAAAAAALLLLLLLLL HER!!!

Do I need to be more precise?

Setanta · #8 03-10-2002, 03:01 AM

Call her. Talk to her, get the friendship back at the very least. It can be done

Hey - you don't have to 100% new to dating to fuck up... ask anyone here - it doesn't get any easier

NSX-R-SSJ20K · #9 03-10-2002, 11:33 PM

fuck man i got screwed well bad by some girl we both liked each other and this stupid shit went on for months

and WTF we never went out we both got jealous if we saw the other with someone else and it was just too fucking painful ..... GOD DAMN i hate that shit

all i can say is fucking hey

Rich · #10 03-11-2002, 09:56 AM

Its long overwith now. We just went back to being friends and I never brought the subject up again.

Its probably better this way anyways, cause shes out of my league when it comes to dating and stuff like that. I was just setting myself up for failure as there is no way she would go out with a chump like me.

Im 19 and definitly not ready to date yet

Setanta · #11 03-11-2002, 03:07 PM

*cough* bullshit *cough*

That sort of attitude gets you nowhere. I was 14 when I started dating and had an average hit-miss ratio. People that win all the time are few and far between. The rest of us have to work at it

You have the friendship back with this girl and that's cool. Now get back on the ride and try again. It will happen one day - trust me

Says the faceless name on the 'net

Gonthrax · #12 03-12-2002, 03:16 PM

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Originally posted by HuMMerMan
Its long overwith now. We just went back to being friends and I never brought the subject up again.

Its probably better this way anyways, cause shes out of my league when it comes to dating and stuff like that. I was just setting myself up for failure as there is no way she would go out with a chump like me.

Im 19 and definitly not ready to date yet

Blah, its all a bunch of horseshit bro

I've been there, done that, from both sides of the story. You just gotta sit back, relax, and take on the attitude that when you find someone right for you, you will know. Untill then, don't even try to get into long relationships. My last relationship (if you could call it that) comes and goes for about a week or two and then we just call each other sometimes and hang out. It'll be all good.

HogieGT-R · #13 03-16-2002, 12:35 AM

now see what really works is to relax and take a look back at the whole thing with dating and see what works for you man, a must though is to build up confedience man that whole "oh she's outta my league" and "i' was settin myself up for failure" and "chump" aren't ways 2 do that. girls can see your confidence level man i'm serious. i'm not tryin 2 say to act like mr. wonderful, but it's not good to be actin like eeyore from winnie the pooh either, i mean you can drive, cook, and you probably have some other good talents as well, so don't be so hard on yourself man i do know that it does take time to be in a relationship because i was in the same shoes as you are a litte while back man. you really have to start liking yourself before any girls like you. that's a good lesson that you should take man. a right one will come along and think that you're the one because of the way that you treat her and make her feel good as well man. just be your fun self and people will start to act natural around you man it's a cruel world out there, but i do know that if you let thing run their course, you'll get a g/f alot faster than if you were to force things along, which would strain the relationship and probably cause the relationship to suffer and nobody wants that man. the right girl will come along soon i know that i found mine because i let things take their courses, and not stress my life out. that way i am more at peace withmyself and with others. hope that helps man.

gang$tarr · #14 03-16-2002, 04:30 PM

who cares?!?!
it's one girl out of millions

i really wouldn't care at all.... just move on to the next one
she's obviously not worth it

i'm like gonthrax, i move from one to the next....
not like i'm gunna marry any girl i meet at 17
just fun times

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