Nice Guys Finish Last

[-Davo]

*searches forum for same post, fails*

It’s amazing that assholes can get girls. Actually, now that I think of it, it’s not that amazing. They are assholes at heart, but to meet girls they lavish their undying love. IT’S A CHARADE. They act nice, friendly, and they listen… until they get into what they’re after. Their prey thinks they are in love with them, however when they realize what assholes their predators really are, they pretend like the asshole is really nice inside. The girl tries to change the asshole into a nice guy, but assholes will always be assholes. She gets upset and goes to the nice guy to complain about the asshole. But she claims to love the asshole… now this is where the theory begins. She doesn’t want to look like she is easy so she wont dump the asshole right away, instead she will stay with the asshole. Girls are idiots. They don’t realize that the nice guy has been there all along. He never had to pretend to be a good guy to get girls because he is naturally like that. However, girls don’t see it for some reason or another. They look at the nice guy as a friend, a trusted companion to whom they can tell their sad story to about their asshole boyfriend.

But the nice guy isn’t THAT naïve. He was trying to score with the girl he listens to all along. The problem is that since he is a nice guy he keeps listening. Since girls get attached to things that pay attention to them, they think of the nice guy as a friend. A FRIEND. They don’t say, “Oh he’s hot” or “I want to have his children” about the nice guy, they just want the emotional support. When they get the emotional support from the nice guy, they don’t need it from the asshole. The nice guy gets the shit end of the stick while the asshole gets all the action. I am starting to wonder if being a nice guy is really the route to take to get action… I have been down this path for all of my post-pubescent life and it has gotten me NOWHERE… at least not in the women department.
Perhaps another reason why girls fall for the asshole is because assholes ignore the girl they are with. The women wonder, “Why isn’t he paying attention to me?” so they explore why. They poke and prod and get closer to the asshole. They start to get easier with each attempt to get closer. The asshole finally says, “I’ve let this beauty dangle long enough, time to boat this bass”. It is then he puts on his charade and the girl feels like she has won him… even thought all she has won is an asshole.
Once you have gone down the path as a nice guy or a “listener” you can’t turn back. The girl will always go after the assholes because there are always nice guys there to listen. Once you realize that you are a “listener” you cant do anything about it… just pack up and close shop. There is no way you will get into her pants… ever. There is and never will be a situation where the nice guy will get the girl he has a crush on. It just doesn’t work like that. The girl wont “come to her senses” and realize what an asshole her boyfriend is like in the movies… instead she will just go after another asshole, and unless you stop being a nice guy, she will never go after you. Women complain that there are no nice guys in the world. Right. They are obviously not looking hard enough because there are nice guys EVERYWHERE!!!! Girls aren’t looking for nice guys… they say they are but they’re not. They are looking for the perfect asshole, but there is NO SUCH THING as the perfect asshole.

All in all, the nice guy gets the shaft. To all the girls out there with boyfriends that don’t treat you with respect, that don’t listen to you, and that don’t care about you I say this; look next to you. The guy that has been standing next to you the whole time is the guy you have been looking for. He is what you want your asshole to be like. He knows more about you than you know about yourself… because he has listened to it all.

does this apply to anyone else here?

[jcz1987]

Yup I get the same too. All the hot girls go for the jocks. The girls only ask me for advice. I never get respect. The only thing they have done nice is walking with me to class rarely or I give them a ride. They dont even say thanks which is sad.

[importssuck88]

welcome to the club, brother. i see it all the time. the hot girls go to the jocks, and and the other jerk wads. and even though you dont even have a class with a 'hot girl' they still think you're a loser because you are not a jock, and yet they dont even know you. yea, i may be speaking from experiance, but, oh well.

[Moppie]

Myself inculded I know lots of nice guys with very attractive girlfiends.

Some girls like assholes, those are not the girls you shuold be trying to get involved with.
There are however many many more girls who do like the nice guy, you just have to work a little harder to find them as they tend to be a little shy and quiter in a group.


And don't confuse the nice guy, with the low self esteem guy. Often the low self esteem guy will also be a nice guy, but his low self esteem will mean he never gets any girls, and it has nothing to do with him being a nice guy, girls simply, as a general rule, don't like guys with low self esteem.

But, I can garuntee the moment the low self esteem guy gets some confidence he will get the girls, especialy if hes a nice guy as well.

[xyfalconsrock]

dont worry mate,
These creatures we know as girls do not follow the laws of SENSE or REASON,
they just wander around aimlessly.
And the girls that are hot, and know it are bicthes.
I'm 15, have a g/f but know this....

[pickle]

This has been discussed SOOOOOOOOOO many times. Girls like a challenge. Assholes are a challenge. The end.

[90Stangjc]

Thanks for clearing that up. People just dont understand. I'm not an ass to girls, i court girls very well.
But every chance that comes along i'm busting on them, teasing, using cocky humor, ect. But its all in fun....they never get upset. Girls actually like it. But as soon as a door needs to be open i open it, i seat women, open the car door, close it, walk on outside of curb, ect.

Women have a emotional response to guys that are hard to get. I love playing hard to get, its so much more interesting to the women. If your hard to reach, challenging, and generally letting the women persue you, then your always on the right course. Its not tough, its just that your putting yourself into the "friend" situation by not starting the "sexual" type situations early on. Hope that helped anybody.

P.S.- Also if you have extremely confident body language, then girls L-O-V-E that, and it draws attention to you instantly and keeps it there.

[pickle]

Originally Posted by 90Stangjc

Thanks for clearing that up. People just dont understand. I'm not an ass to girls, i court girls very well.
But every chance that comes along i'm busting on them, teasing, using cocky humor, ect. But its all in fun....they never get upset. Girls actually like it. But as soon as a door needs to be open i open it, i seat women, open the car door, close it, walk on outside of curb, ect.

Women have a emotional response to guys that are hard to get. I love playing hard to get, its so much more interesting to the women. If your hard to reach, challenging, and generally letting the women persue you, then your always on the right course. Its not tough, its just that your putting yourself into the "friend" situation by not starting the "sexual" type situations early on. Hope that helped anybody.

P.S.- Also if you have extremely confident body language, then girls L-O-V-E that, and it draws attention to you instantly and keeps it there.

FINALLY! Someone who gets it.

[-Davo]

This was suppose to be posted in OT. I stuffed it up somewhere.

[blindside.AMG]

Originally Posted by pickle

This has been discussed SOOOOOOOOOO many times. Girls like a challenge. Assholes are a challenge. The end.

Oh really? Is that why you like guys from California?

[pickle]

Exactly.

[Z_Fanatic]

Fuck, I've been doing it wrong. J/k lol. What does it mean when the guy is looking for a challenge on a girl who's generally nice and smart? And she remains a challenge?

[pickle]

That she thinks you're lame.

[SonyMobile]

You have become a sucker to "friendship"...its that whole "friend" barrier that everyone is always talking about..once a female see's you as a friend..you will never be anything more than a friend.

Its so true..Nice guys always finish last, and it sucks. Just goes to show you that being an asshole does take you places in life.

I have broken this "friend barrier" on many occasions..but I try to do it with girls that I dont mind being just friends with... cause..you know..once your girl A's friend..she tells all her friends that your a nice guy....and girl A has very hot friends.

[carnut]

I think girls, nice or otherwise, get turned on by guys who are rebels, bad boys, etc. I know I would if I met a girl like that!