Yes another girl thread(long)

[TexasF355F1]

Where to even begin. Around a month ago two new girls moved in next door. Well call them C and S, I thought they were both cool, but I was immediately attracted to one of them. The first time they came over we asked if they had boyfriends b/c we didn't want to just drop in and their bf's get bent out of shape. They both say NO. Then my roomate and I start hanging out with C a bit more and the more I'm around her the more I'm attracted to her on an emotional level.

My roomate and I and a friend of ours go up to this bar to shoot some pool and I ask if she wants to go and she does. Then my friend asks if she has a bf(he was just asking for us I know b/c he has a steady gf) and then she says "kinda". I was like what kind of answer is that you either do or you don't and she goes well I guess so. To me that's not a good answer. Come to find out she's been with the guy for 2 years and she first says NO and then later she says KINDA. I mean wtf!

Anyways, I really feel this chemistry there and the feelings I have are the most extreme I've ever had. My roomate tells me the way she looks at me he thinks she likes me. I try my best to get her out of my head, but I can't. I sleep she's in my dreams, I take a 5 minute cat nap during the day and she visits there too.

I start feeling this way about a week and a half ago. Last week she leaves to go home for her birthday, and on her birthday about halfway through the day I get this sick feeling in my stomach like something was wrong. So then I start worrying if something bad happened to her. I go out of town on Friday, come back Saturday, and she comes home from work. I finally see her outside and I go to say hi and wish her a happy belated birthday and see how it was. Then she says it was good, but I had a seizure on my birthday. That tripped me out so bad that I would have a feeling that something happened and it did.

Now she seems to be acting shady though. I'll ask her to come over and she's like sure and she does, but acts uneasy and skiddish. Then there are days like Monday and she'll ask me to help her and get my opinion on what to do with decorating her apartment and then I went and got her beer(she wouldn't let me buy it for her this time) and we come back and start playing a drinking game, just us two. I start joking around with her and she starts laughing a lot like she usually does. And it seems like there may be something there. Then my roomate comes over and he's telling her his girl problem with his ex and I notice she touches him a few times and it kind of bothers me. But then later we start being kinda playful or whatnot. Then we(me, her and my roomate) go to our apartment to listen to a song and I'm petting my roomates dog and she likes like "you're so sweet" and rubs my back and shoulder. Not just like a friend would do, but almost sensual. It made me think, what the fuck are you doing to my head.

The next day I knew she was up b/c I was outside, hung over enjoying the morning breeze and she walks by and says Good Morning. So I get around to cleaning things up and take my laundry down and when I come back up I ask if she needs any help cleaning up and she says no it's already clean and acts sort of wierd not as much as sometimes but definately strange.

Talked to her last night and she wants to hang out tonite and drink. I just don't know what the hell to do. It's driving me mad that I can't get her out of my head even for a minute. I can't eat or sleep. I feel like a fucking sick wacko who's obsessed with her. I pray every night for the feeling to go away if its not suppose to be and everday I wake up the same way. I'm a believer in fate and feel that God has me feeling this way for a reason. I know she has some degree of trust in me for sharing personal stuff like her seizure and showing me video of her family and the small town she lives in. Took the video on the new camcorder her bf bought her for her birthday. How thoughtful isn't it? And she doesn't say anything to my roomate about this type of stuff. I'm just really stuck in a rock and a hard place. If I still feel this way in a month or two I'm gonna either have to tell her or write her a letter telling her how I feel and get it out there. It may change things, but I'll be happy that she knows what I'm feeling.

For those who read this extremely long post thank you, for those who don't I can't be mad b/c its a lot of bullshit that nobody probably cares about anyway. I just want to get out of this depression I'm in and feel normal again. I may be adding things to this thread from time to time. Thanks for listening.

[Spyke^]

I don't think it's bullshit..
Arrgh, why all of a sudden do I have this vision in my head " post whore"
Crap, a couple of trucks rolling in, I can't take the time to give you a decent reply. Sorry.
It's ok..

[Jet-Lee]

hey man, i think you should tell her NOW what your feeling, whats going on. Don't put yourself through another month of this. Hell, print out this thread you just typed up and leave it in her mailbox for her to get and read. Waiting a month is just crazy dude.

[Mediocrity]

Gopher It

[ghostguy6]

Ask her how she feels, she may feel the same way and is just to afraid to admit it. Maybe her boyfriend and her are breaking up or have broken up and the camcorder was like an "I want you back" gift Ask her, its better to know than spend all this time wondering, even if she doesnt want to be with you at least you know and you can move on sooner, who knows you may ebd up becoming better friends.

[kittedb18bt]

i really dont know crap about relationships, but i never hold back something i want to say. in this case it sounds like it is unhealthy that you have not communicated. please do yourself a favor and let her know somehow the impact she has had on your life lately.

keep us updated.

[SniperX13]

well, at first, she probably said she didnt have a boyfriend to see what her options are. It sounds like she might have feelings towards you a bit, but when she goes to show it, i.e the touching, back rubbing, and so on, and you don't repond, thats when she gets kinda shady towards you, seems to me kinda like a feeling of rejection almost. tonight, tell her how you feel BEFORE you start drinking. if she stays, toss back a few, and let nature take its course and go on from there. if something happenes, be if a kiss or two, then thats good. if not, at least you stated how you felt, and she will know it. at least you can enjoy the company of her friendship at least.

[Hyatus]

writing a letter is always a nice idea,because your more likly to say things u wouldnt IRL

[YogsVR4]

From the sounds of things, she's giving you some signals so that you tell her how you feel. In my estimation, she's been judging your reactions. Don't confess your undieing love or that she's always in your dreams. Just let her know that you're attracted to her and would like to go out and see where it leads. As long as you don't phrase it like an ultimatum, act giddish if she says yes or dejected if she says no, all will be good. You don't want to turn this into the only chance you get by being overdramatic one way or the other.

[Shortbus]

Hang in there Jason

Where's Jay at (doclove) when you need him?

[90Stangjc]

Honestly, dont tell her how you feel. I'm not going to go into any more detail than that. But AS SOON as you get a chance, send me a PM. I'll lead you on from there if u wanna get things turned around in your favor. I would try to explain things here but there are too many shitheads that dont know what they are talking about and will try to argue with me for months about it. But until i can get back to you, which will be tomorrow around 4:30 or so, dont really interact all that much with her.

[YogsVR4]

He's right. The last thing you want to do is to listen to someone who's married and my age. There is no chance that we've ever been in the same situation

[jcsaleen]

Tell her what u really think of her "all systems GO!"

[SonyMobile]

Just go and hang out with her like you normally would, but if the two of you end up alone again, and she tries "playing around" don't let it happen. Just say to her that you don't feel right even hanging out with her alone because she has a boyfriend. This is when you tell her you really enjoy her company, and think of her as a good friend with a great heart and personality. (women usually enjoy being flattered by all the mushy stuff)

Then, tell her you really like her, but you dont feel right hanging out with her because of her boyfriend.

...wait..dont listen to me..I dunno what im talkin about..just go with what your heart tells you man. I would say its fairly obvious that she does have some feelings for you. Good luck bud.

[Chavez408]

I only read trough Paragragh two, and my opinion is... FUCK HER! no really, fuck her.. first she says no... then kinda? and you said it yourself, the might like you! so fuck her! I mean, its not like your gonna marry her or anything? have a good time, and fuck her