Is there a lawyer in the house, I need help.

[SniperX13]

Ok, I guess there is a first time for everything, usually I am one giving advice, now I am in need of it. My fiance just informed me that she will not marry me until I get the situation with the ex-wife dealt with. The Ex is usuing my son as a controlling tool in her atempts to control me. The ex is calling all the time when I have my son the "see how he is doing" and when my fiance is here, she calls all the time to see if my fiance is still here. she is creating a very huge and uncomfortable situation. my fiance lives the next town over, and the ex states I cant take my son to her house. This forces me to make the choice between my son and my fiance. I will admit, i have skipped a few weekends here and there so I can spend time with my fiance. my ex also enrolled my son in a rodeo, so he could do muttonbusting, but didnt even bother consulting me, since he does this on sundays, which is one of my visitation days, effectively cutting my time down from 3 days to 2. she is slowly but surely trying to edge myself out, and have her own fiance step in as "dad". yet, when I raised the issue of the ex saying I need to consult her when I want our son to do anything, I stated she didnt bother to consult me about the rodeo, espeically since our son is only 3 1/2 years old, and could seriously get hurt doing that. I am seriously at a loss of what to do. I am not giving up my fiance because the ex may not approve. My fiance is staying away until this is resolved because she doesnt want to be put in the middle and be the cause of me not getting to see my son. I am torn in 2 over this.


is there a lawyer in the house??

[freakray]

Why don't you consult the lawyer who helped you in the divorce proceedings in the first place?

[98gtstang]

wow, i'am sorry man. ur ex sounds like my ex! (besides the kid part) and we where only going out

[Jet-Lee]

If your ex is bringing in her fiance as "dad", then you can bring in ur fiance as "mom". If in the divorce, it was stated that you can have custody on the weekends, then she (ur ex) cannot take those privelages away, no matter what. Do you have joint custody, or is she letting you see him out of niceness?

[SniperX13]

we are going back to court, because the way the current custody aagreement is worded, is that I get him on days that we mutually agree upon. it was set that way because I have revolving days at work. but, it also set up the ability for her to say she didnt agree, and bar him from me.

[RSX-S777]

OK, this is going to sound very sad, but I happened to see an episode (at random, mind you) of Judge Judy in which this same problem was addressed. Judy ripped the meddling mother a new one, told her to grow up, get a life, think about the child and not herself etc. You'll always be his dad- no judge or parent should ever interfere. It's sad that she's putting her agenda over the well being of your son...like divorce isn't hard enough in the first place. I imagine it's no party for your fiancee, either, eh? Sincerely wish you the best of luck.

[83-944]

If it's not stated in the custody "writeup" that you can't take him out of the house, out of the town or out of the county, then you can. Of course that deals w/ Florida and I know each state has different rules.

You're gonna need to see a lawyer.

[chaser29]

>>.we are going back to court, because the way the current custody aagreement is worded, is that I get him on days that we mutually agree upon. it was set that way because I have revolving days at work. but, it also set up the ability for her to say she didnt agree, and bar him from me.>>>

First things first....

Start DOCUMENTING EVERYTHING!!!!!!!

Times:
she calls
# of X's she calls
What she says and when..

Document how she acts when she see's you, " if she does" --when your son is around!!!! Very important first step!!!

DOCUMENTATION-DOCUMENTATION>>>>>>

"""""DO NOT argue with her, just be polite at all times.... Document.."""

If you have a message machine--- see if it records while talking???

Have a recording device while you have contact with her!>>>

Might want to check your state laws to see if it would be admisable.. Record anyway..

HIRE a PRIVATE INVESTAGATOR.. Picture's picture's, picture's. Pic's say a 1000 words.
You want to see if there is any misguiding elements around your child.
Drugs? If she use's, you can have the court require a drug test. If she fails, custody "" might, might, be turned over""
You can read between the lines, where I am going with the investigator documentation aspects..

Most important dont choose. You still have to live your own life.

So to recap:

Picture's
Recordings
DOCUMENTATION..
Investigator.
Be polite. Politeness kills.... If you are polite, then the other will become hostile and show their true colors.

Sounds like she is about to give you the 1-2 kill punch. Does ound like she is slowly gathering her own amunition to fade your involvement with your child out.

I would speak with your attorney, about possible problems regarding all of this.

Hope this helps some what..

[96Civ]

You can do whatever you set your mind to Sniper.. and I hope this all works out for the kid because whatever negative seperation between his father and mother will be on his mind as he grows up and could cause confusion to whether it was actually his fault or not and things like that..

I have fallen a victim as a kid. I can tell you to this day I lose sleep because of it.

Oh yeah, and I sugest telling the kid whats happening/what will happen ect.. Better to keep them informed dont you think?

[WissNX01]

Not to sound harsh or anything, but your first concern should be for your kid, not some woman. If you get time, then your fiance can get time, but your priorities seem a bit selfish. A son needs his father, and I wouldnt tell a 3 year old whats going on, it will just make them ask more questions and make it worse when he tells your ex wife stuff that she might not need to know