OK thats it I've had enough!!

[darkness]

ok I'm sick of being single and really f**ked off that my ex-girlfriend won't leave me alone.

a little background: I had this whole group of friends when I was with her. we broke up, then started going out with who I thought was my best friend of the group. neither of them would talk to me and he said some things to her about me that should have stayed unsaid, so I got ejected from that group. 3 months later she calls me crying, saying she just had a fight with him what should she do. ok why the hell call me, I didn't give a sh*t.

this was just over a year ago. I don't want to waste my time hanging out with them, but she still insists on inviting me to do stuff with the 2 of them. I'm completely nice to them if we end up being in the same place, but I won't do anything for them. should I tell them how i really feel? or just let them think I'm their friend (I might actually consider being her friend again not his)

She's been bugging me all week about a party they are having soon.

and to top it all off I can add another rejection to the long list of failed attempts.

[Steel]

yeah, the whole girl dump ya and go our with your friend thing...i know how it is, except mines only 2 weeks old, not a year

[darkness]

Originally posted by Steel
yeah, the whole girl dump ya and go our with your friend thing...i know how it is, except mines only 2 weeks old, not a year

that sux dude. just go out do stuff,have fun, and keep your self busy. one of the things that helps when I think about it is that from what I hear now she is really screwed up in the head.

[KatWoman]

If you really don't want to be friends with them, then don't pretend to be a friend. That makes things worse in the long run. Just don't associate with them anymore. Be civil when they are around, but nothing more.

[darkness]

the reason i don't leave completly is that there are a couple people in the group who I am still friends with

[Spec2 Girl]

I agree with Katwoman. If you don’t want to be friends with them, just tell them. There’s nothing worse than having to pretend to be nice to someone when you really can’t stand them. It all just builds up inside until you explode. I would explain to this girl exactly how you feel and see how that goes.

[darkness]

i guess, i just don't know if I can even put in the effort to go and do that. I know she'll go off her rocker if i say hey i don't like you guys anymore.

And I don't want to do anything that could upset her because a little while ago a got a letter from her saying sorry for being the way I have been and that she had been diagnosed with depression and she'd been put in hospital for a while, which to me sounded pretty bad. So I'm not sure how'd she'd take it.

[enginerd]

Time to take matters into your own hands.




heheheheh......

[Sanchi]

ouch sorry bout the ex. but ay if u want to be friends with her then be friends with her as long as there isent still any emotional attachment. That can only lead to truble. Anyways never for any reason at all, go out of your way... and i mean truly outa your way to do anything for her because you'll start to feel that she owes you something or what ever and you'll just get kicked in the nads for it!!!(not from experince)

Anyways i suggest u just stay away for the most part my $0.02 ...

[darkness]

thanks people, i think I just needed to get it off my chest, cause I'm feeling a bit better now.

I'm still gonna stick to my guns and not put up with anything

[KatWoman]

Stick to your guns and don't let her "personal" problems get to you. No offense, but the "depression and hospital" story sounds like she may be trying to manipulate you. Some of my female friends have tried this on their ex's...not the exact same story but always something involving depression. We all have problems and get depressed. You gotta deal with them and continue living and functioning.

[HogieGT-R]

dude steer clear from that trap...still be like "ehh" but don't be like "ok you're cool lets hang out and get a cup of coffee" or somethin like that....manipulative ways will shove a steel-toed boot up your ass if you fall for them....some women can be manipulativeand those are the ones that you gotta watch out for man ......things like "i've made a mistake" or "can we still be friends?(only sometimes...one of my best friends is one of my ex's)" or "i was really messed up at the time" or even "can you ever forgive me" ....they're all plots by your ex to try and screw you over so that they can get the ultimate satisfaction.....even "I still love you" should activate every alarm system and red flag in your head....i just say that she's bad news man from a song that i liked when i was like 4 years old by Bel Biv Devoe "That girl is pooiiiiiiison (poison)..." and that was my attempt at karaoke

[darkness]

no, I definitely would say no if she wanted to go out with me again, thats one thing I know for sure.

[Sanchi]

:cyclops: hummm maby its time we used them for a change

[primera man]

Its time you stood on your 2 feet and lay the law down on how you feel.
Tell them and get it off your chest.
Dont hold back...if they are true friends they will respect and listen to you.