Unfaithful?

[MiS0]

I don't know, maybe it's just my insecurity or my pride. My girl talks to this guy constantly, when she wakes up, during the day, before she goes to sleep, like every fricken minute of the day, all day, everyday. BTW, they also work for the same company and he's the one who got her the job. I only know she talks to him that much is because I happen to see her mobile phone bill.

The thing is what the fuck is there to talk about? So I confront her and she's like it's nothing, we just talk about general things, nothing intimate. Am I over-reacting? Do you have to be like fucking the person to be unfaithful? However, I do believe she is not fucking this guy because she lost her sex drive from drugs years ago. It's like a desert down there in the valley, if you know what I mean.

I am so pissed sometimes I want to hurt the guy. Is my reaction rational?

[drifterX]

id probably feel the same way. if my gf constantly talked to another guy i might be pretty mad.

[boingo82]

Even if she's not physically cheating, I'd say she's kind of emotionally cheating...that is her emotional relationship with another guy is taking precedence over her relationship with you. I think you're OK in feeling slighted.
BTW if she's hiding it from you - you said you only knew from the phone bill - that pretty much means she realizes she's doing something wrong.

[-Davo]

Originally Posted by MiS0

I do believe she is not fucking this guy because she lost her sex drive from drugs years ago. It's like a desert down there in the valley, if you know what I mean.

what? That can happen?

You must really love this chick if you can't even have sex with her!

[l33tc4k30fd00m]

Originally Posted by -Davo

what? That can happen?

You must really love this chick if you can't even have sex with her!

Yeah no kidding... Go you dude!

Unless he's sleeping with her mother.

[Oz]

If she's spending that much time, even talking, with someone else - something is wrong big time.

[MiS0]

Wow, thanks, I appreciate your comments. I think theres something wrong here too. You know what it feels like, imagine your a cop and you know some robbers are going to rob a bank. But you can't arrest them cause they haven't done it yet. I would so like to hurt this person.

I don't know dudes. We have been together for a third of our lives and for that long of a time, theres gotta be ups and downs. I know many people would just walk out of a relationship when theres no sex involved. Of course having sex is great, but it shouldn't be the main thing in maintaining a relationship.

I wouldn't tap her phone, thats spying and invasion of her privacy. If you do that, you'll be walking on thin ice. If shes done nothing wrong, eventually it will come back at you oneday and she'll own you for that.

I have another question for you all. I know your significant other's should be allowed to have close friends, but where do you draw the line?

[Toksin]

Might be best to sit down and talk to her about it, don't try to fight, just talk. Let her know how you feel.


Davo: Sex isn't everything man.

[Fully_Sick]

Just like everyone else said mate, you need to propose an ultimatum. Usually they start out talking a lot then bam, there they are doing the wild thing in your parents bedroom. If your paranoid you might hurt her feelings get a friend of her's to scope it out and see whats up. Good luck with the whole thing.

[boingo82]

Originally Posted by MiS0

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I have another question for you all. I know your significant other's should be allowed to have close friends, but where do you draw the line?

Well, I don't really think YOU should be drawing the line, that comes across as posessive and controlling, KWIM?

I would let her know that the friendship is bothering you, and,

if she cares for you, SHE will draw the line.

If she continues to disrespect your feelings, she's basically telling you that this other relationship is more important, and I would break it off if I were you.

[Toksin]

Bullshit cleaned up. Back to normal business now thanks.

[zebrathree]

Mine was a serious post.

Tap the phone in the mornings.

[MiS0]

Originally Posted by boingo82

Well, I don't really think YOU should be drawing the line, that comes across as posessive and controlling, KWIM?

I would let her know that the friendship is bothering you, and,

if she cares for you, SHE will draw the line.

If she continues to disrespect your feelings, she's basically telling you that this other relationship is more important, and I would break it off if I were you.

I am amazed. You hit it right on. This is almost exactly what happened today. Except that she thought I was the one with the issues and she turned it on me like I am the culprit. So, she broke it off with me. No matter though cause now I can go get some ass.

You should become a marriage/relationship counselor.

[Toksin]

Damn man, sorry to hear things went sour. Still, you don't seem too cut up about it.

[Jimster]

Oh well, if she isnt going to respect your concerns, then good riddance, as far as I'm concerned, move on and build some bridges.