How Long Does It Take?

DantesInferno · #1 01-14-2002, 12:59 PM

For a broken heart to heal? I never realized it would hurt so much. But I've been strong and I haven't cried. In a way, I'm relieved. But still it hurts. I know this is the way it has to be. I know that this is the way it should be. But to see someone else move on so quickly, and seemingly so painlessly, it makes me wonder about myself. Should I have been stronger from the beginning? Was I good enough? I took a long drive last night. And when I came back, I spent some time with my family, smiled a bit, laughed a bit, and then I went to bed, too tired emotionally. And then I woke up this morning and my stomach is still tight. But I've stayed strong. I should be thankful for just one weekend. I should be thankful for five months. I'm not angry. I'm scared. I'm scared that I won't find anybody else. And so while others are rectifying their situation. Making honesty and virtue their mission, I'm here. Alone. And wondering what happens next. Wondering if I'll ever be held again.

speediva · #2 01-14-2002, 01:56 PM

I know that mental process all too well. Heck I had to sleep in the same bed as the person who had just dumped me!!! (don't ask...)

I won't promise miracles, but time will heal all wounds

RevHappy Cowboy® · #3 01-14-2002, 01:57 PM

The less you dwell on it, the sooner the pain will go away.... That's the best advice I can give you for now

DantesInferno · #4 01-14-2002, 02:26 PM

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Originally posted by RevHappy Cowboy®
The less you dwell on it, the sooner the pain will go away.... That's the best advice I can give you for now

Believe it or not, I'm not dwelling on it. Because really, it ended for a very good reason. And that reason will be celebrating her second birthday this month. So...thank you for the advice.

Steel · #5 01-14-2002, 06:36 PM

erg. Well think if you were in my situation...i keep getting stabbed in the heart over and over. Perhaps my situation isnt as bad as your, but to be dumped on a whim. Then you think things are getting better. Then you find out she's after your friend. But they say things wont pan out and you think things are better. Then you find out they were lying to you...

DantesInferno · #6 01-14-2002, 11:35 PM

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Originally posted by Steel
erg. Well think if you were in my situation...i keep getting stabbed in the heart over and over. Perhaps my situation isnt as bad as your, but to be dumped on a whim. Then you think things are getting better. Then you find out she's after your friend. But they say things wont pan out and you think things are better. Then you find out they were lying to you...

Steel, I'm sorry to hear about your seemingly never ending problems.

I do hope that things look up for you. As for my situation, things are going to be okay. We've decided to stay friends. And I think we're both happy with that.

Moppie · #7 01-15-2002, 02:22 AM

I heard about your situation, and my sympathy goes out to all involved.

Having a little cry over it is not a bad thing, and if thats what you feel like, then thats what you should do.

The knot will untighten and go away with time, it might not feel like it but it will.
Spending time with family and friends is a good idea, lets you know there are others out there who also care about you.
From the little I heard about you, you sound like a really cool person, and Im sure you will have no trouble finding someone to hold again once you get back to Uni. Take a wee breack from relationships first, but before you know it you will be able to chaulk this whole and I must say rather complicated relationship up to experiance.

Broken hearts really hurt, but they are an inevitable part of growing up, and in the end will make you stronger.

Hope both of you feel better soon.

tazdev · #8 01-15-2002, 03:30 AM

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Originally posted by DantesInferno
For a broken heart to heal?

From my experience they never truely heal there will always be that one small peice that dies the second the heart break occurs.

Once this happends then you have two options dwel on the loss for a long time (not really the ideal as you may never get over it ). I still have a problem with commitment after 1 bad end to a relationship (10 years on and it still hurts) I have been unable to sustain a relationship in those 10 years

or the other thing to do is put it aside and try and regain some form of happiness back into your life.

good luck. I hope you find someone special

I know I will keep searching

Sanchi · #9 01-15-2002, 06:46 PM

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Originally posted by DantesInferno

Steel, I'm sorry to hear about your seemingly never ending problems. I do hope that things look up for you. As for my situation, things are going to be okay. We've decided to stay friends. And I think we're both happy with that.

Im happy u guys can stay friends, when your with someone for any signifigant number of time, and u realy truly loved that person during that time it is that much harder to get over them. I my self have recently run into a similar situation. I just wish she would talk to me... i know thy have moved on, and alot of questions do arise when they move on so quickly, and ur left to morn over what u had. I wish i could get over it already and its gona be hard. But now its time to find ur self again and start over. Remember what good times and experiences u guys shared and take it to the max again next time.

I will always wonder how they moved on so fast, but then i'll never move on myself. Staying freinds is always a good thing, u can never have to many friends.

darkness · #10 01-15-2002, 09:32 PM

Healing can take a short time or a long time, it all depends. I know that sounds stupid.

I was hurt pretty badly just over a year ago when a relationship ended. And a serious relationship now still scares the hell out of me. Honestly when I think of asking someone out i get the shakes pretty bad. But I am feeling good about my self though.

The best way I found to do that, which I learned from someone, is to get up in the morning look in the mirror and say "Damn I'm good". Just improve your confidence by saying you're good every time you do something well. It makes a surprising difference

Spec2 Girl · #11 01-15-2002, 09:58 PM

For me the healing all depends on how long the relationship lasted. It took me quite a while to get over a boyfriend that I dated for 4 years.

Jimster · #12 01-16-2002, 05:44 AM

I never have experienced a broken heart-because before my cureent one-relationships never lasted more than two days

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