First Problem I have to address to y'all

[xviciousx]

Hey guys, it's me. Anyway... yeah so there's this whole women issue for me right now so hear me out and give me some advice all right? I really appreciate it.

If you guys knew me personally you'd know that I am horrible when it comes to girls. First and foremost I'm not the most attractive male so it's hard to get them. Secondly I try really hard to get them and sometimes I do. Thirdly when I have them I do everything I can to keep them... it's sad.

So honestly I've been in "love" twice in my life, my first love, and then my semi-girlfriend I have now (that I've had for about 2 years now).

So basically a long time ago I met a girl and we started dating for awhile. I meet her parents and whatnot and they love me to death. This girl... I really think her parents honestly expect us to get married, though they haven't seen me in the past 3 years. They moved away because her father was transferred back down to Texas, but they constantly invite me down there. I always refuse saying I can't afford the trip nor the hotel room. They constantly respond with, "Don't be silly we'll buy you a plane ticket and you can stay in Angie's room with her."

Two years ago I met Dani, the girl I'm kind've dating now. She was the first (and only) girl I've ever slept with (this is why my friends believe I can't leave her) and the only other girl I've "loved" in my life. She and Angie... well they don't get along, for obvious reasons. I told Dani that if she and I were to work out she would need to finally change the things I've been asking her to change (which is basically what she does with other males in my absense).

Neither girl were faithful to me in our relationships, one moreso than the other. The problem lies in how Angie is starting to try and get me to come down for part of the summer again. I see problems wherever I go. I mean, she's my friend and I want to go, but I don't want to hurt Dani (she's finally starting to do the things I asked her to do). I'm confused. Help me please?

[Jay!]

Short answer: Forget both and find a dozen new women.

The whole deal: (I'll write it later. Stay tuned...)

[xviciousx]

Originally Posted by jay@af

Short answer: Forget both and find a dozen new women.

The whole deal: (I'll write it later. Stay tuned...)

lol... that's hard for me... I'm waiting in suspense Jay..

[2strokebloke]

Form a one man boy band, and get onto MTV. Then no matter how ugly, stupid, you and your music are, girls are sure to be attracted to you, like idiots are to shiny objects. You should also wear shiny objects, that's the only reason rappers get girls anyway (that and MTV, as listed above)
Otherwise, the only solution is dynamite.

[Damien]

Had the samething man. I'm your age so I know from personal now experience and others from learning already but Jay and I see one wya on this, forget both and move. Trust me, it's hard, extremely and IM me if ya want more personal talk man, but ya, you'll be happy later on. YOu're young, live life, have fun. It'll work out.

[Toksin]

Get rid of em. Chase something else.

[Chris]

Cheat me once, shame on you, cheat me twice, shame on me, says I.
If you trust her enough to not cheat on you again, then its your choice (it still is even if you think she will cheat, i guess).
What I would suggest is that you need to ask yourself; do you want a relationship, or sex. If your just after sex, then, you dont need to even treat her like a 'proper' girlfriend, as you will both be interested mainly in fun.
If you want a relationship, then, a cheating partner just wont do; its counter intuitive.

But from Angie wanting you to go down, it would obviously lead to a relationship while down there, very quickly. Her living far away obviously contributed to her having other men; you again need to decide if you would be willing to move to be close to her for a relationship. If not, its doomed, and I wouldnt risk forever losing Dani by being involved with Angie.

But, like me, you're young. horrah for youth; if we screw it up, doesnt matter, itll get better in short order and we still have plenty of time to have fun.

[Marc-OS]

If they've both cheated on you, they're both not worth your time. If you want a serious relationship, you can't even consider either of them. Like previous posts have said, "once a cheater, always a cheater". Break it off with them, try to remain friends (if possible), and find another girl.

[zebrathree]

You're a Fireman, arn't you?

Take the appliance around and hose em down.

You'll give them a lesson AND get a wet tee shirt contest all in one.

[xviciousx]

Originally Posted by zebrathree

You're a Fireman, arn't you?

Take the appliance around and hose em down.

You'll give them a lesson AND get a wet tee shirt contest all in one.

why am I not surprised you said that....

everyone else thanks... you told me pretty much exactly what my friends here say... keep up the feedback!

[YogsVR4]

You need to move on. Do something else for awhile and put those women out of your head. The best relationships are the ones that you don't expect and you don't overly fret about.

[boingo82]

I want to second what Yogs said..the best relationships catch you by surprise.

Also like everyone else said, the only person who deserves a cheater is a cheater. You can do better. Forget both these girls.

[KustmAce]

i agree with pretty much all thats been said. Personally, i cant stand a cheater, the second i heard that my then-girlfriend had cheated on me, i called her and asked her, she confessed, and i dumped her then and there. I just wont tolerate it. I feel its a personal insult to my integrity, and a obvious lack of respect for me as a person. But thats just me.

I agree that if they have both cheated on you, neither is going to want anything more than action. If thats what you want, by all means pursue it. But if you want a serious relationship, then dont get involved with either of them. And yogs is 100% correct, the best relationships fall right in front of you when you arent expecting them. Its that way with most things.

Best of luck to you either way though...

[Chris]

Well, during one of my longer relationships, she cheated on me after about the first month....a bit of an odd situation (which I wont go into, but it wasnt sex, and it was stopped pretty quickly by both of them. Still, I know the feeling, and its pretty shitty.), and she told me when I had no idea it had happened, so, I forgave her and she was good to me without exception afterwards.
So, it is possible for a girl to stop being a cheater.
Of course, sometimes they dont....I knew a girl who screwed around on her bf of about a year many times over the relationship.