A new girl problem thread!?

[gtkriss]

ok.. well I too have my girl problems, and who else to turn to than automotive speicalists! Anyway, this one really is kinda a weird one, in which i have been forced to deal with for over a year, so any help from anyone would be helpful.

here we go!

So about this time last year, a girl whom I worked with, we will call her "Katie," started working with me. We became friends from the start. We flirted and got a few bites to eat after work if we closed together every once and a while. Later, she suggested we should go ice skating and christmas eve of last year, which we did, and we got close. I basically held each other, blah, blah blah, but i didn't kiss her.

So probably a week later at work, a friend or ours starts talking out loud at work, "omg, katie has been asking about you for like a week, do you like her?" She said this right in front of her, and I said the typical guy response... " Uhhh... I don't know." Later that day, she gave me a note which basically expained her feelings for me, and the liking, blah, blah, blah, and I asked her out over the phone.

Everything was good but... We went to different schools, and I didn't have my license at the time, so I really couldn't see her, except at work, or when she could fit me in, she had a lot of things, lacrosse, a school play, work, blah, blah, blah. Time was such a factor that I wasn't able to kiss her until 3 wks. into the relationship, although we talked over the phone everyday. She actually thought that i didn't want to kiss her, which wasn't true and i told her this, so she kissd me.. hahah. I always leave the ladies wanting more, that why i never kissed her when we ice skated.

Anyway, things were good for a while, then she started telling me about her sexual past.. The funny thing is though, she was still kinda attached to her bf of 2 yrs, that went away to college in new mexico, but the weire thing is though, she has never has sex, only oral. When she told me this I was like ok, that's cool, but she started to tell me about how many guys she had gone down on and vice versa, it totaled to about 5. Now a 17 yr. old girl that has had 5 guys go down on her, and she did the same make me kinda skeptical.. So i decided to wait and she where the realtionship went. The idea of sticking my tounge into a "used" pussy really wasn't too appealing, i like just regular sex.

So one night after her rehersal, I invited her over to my house to chill out and watch some tv, etc. When she came over, I kissed her, and (by the way she tutored me in math) did a little math homework. When I took a break, I sat down on my couch and talked to her. She laid ont top of me and put my hands on her breasts. (This was about 3 wks. into the relationship) I moved my hands down and told her that I needed to study. (What would you choose? Going down on a pussy and not getting much in return?--- I wasn't going to get any that night, not enough time, or study to get the grades to get my license and the new car that goes with it?) She was kinda pissed about that.

We chit chated over the net and the phone, but she never had time for me, so i never got to see her. About a week later, she broke up with me. (The relationship has lasted about a month.) She said the relationship wasn't what she had in mind, but we could be friends. I got pissed and didn't talk to her for another month.

When I calmed down, (it's now march) I told her i was sorry, and we started talking again. We became "friends." I still liked her, and she like me, but it was obvious that there wasn't going to be a realtionship. NOw she complains to me, about the new guys into her life, and I hold my feelings for her back and tell her the truth. There is currently one in which she has this guy whipped and wants got out out with him because he is "cute," but she won't until september, (that's when she will move to his school for college) She has been with him in person, and all they did was make out. I think she has made me into a "male girlfriend." Yuck.

My real question is, now that I no longer work with her or hewr stupid friend, what should I do about her. I still like her and she knows that, and she keeps flirting with me and gives me buying signals. I'm 80% sure she still likes me. I could cut her out of my life, I wouldn't have to see her- ever. But there is a part of me that still holds on, like i'm still kinda in a relationship with her, in this "male girlfriend" role. We still call her other hun, sweetie, blah, blah, blah, but there isn't a relationship. What should I do? Should I tell her I want to give it anothet shot, or turn my tail and run. thanks for reading all the crap above.

[Solomon219]

Holy Shit. I'm readin' it. Just gimme some time, mate. (lol @ Rev Head)

[Motor Eyes]

Originally Posted by Solomon219

Holy Shit. I'm readin' it. Just gimme some time, mate. (lol @ Rev Head)

dont start you waffle.

[gtkriss]

thanks guys, take your time, lol

[Motor Eyes]

Originally Posted by gtkriss

thanks guys, take your time, lol

no wait... you do realise tha thalf the shit in the thread is really crazy?
mate... you friggin said and im gonan quote!

she laid ont top of me and put my hands on her breasts. (This was about 3 wks. into the relationship) I moved my hands down and told her that I needed to study. (What would you choose? Going down on a pussy and not getting much in return?--- I wasn't going to get any that night, not enough time, or study to get the grades to get my license and the new car that goes with it?) She was kinda pissed about that.

????????????????????????????? okay. for one, y in the living hell did u refure the offer? and said u had to study?? because iyou had to please her??? WTF???? help me! realise!

[gtkriss]

dude, that test had everything on the line, my car, my license... If I failed it, I would had lost it all. Cmon ppl, the chick kinda looked like a ho, but I still kinda like her. I hate going down, esp. on a chick that wouldn't give me any!

[Motor Eyes]

Now a 17 yr. old girl that has had 5 guys go down on her, and she did the same make me kinda skeptical.. So i decided to wait and she where the realtionship went. The idea of sticking my tounge into a "used" pussy really wasn't too appealing, i like just regular sex.

?????????????????????????????????????????????????? ??????????????????
again!.
listen.. she was a virgin. and, you had the chance right then n there. a virgin 17 year old.
but, you had to study. i fogot abuot that


hoesntly, im sorry but you do have a big problem. yuore too picky and u make no sense because that is really crazy.

[gtkriss]

no she didn't want to have real sex, she just wanted me to go down

[Motor Eyes]

so???? you had to give hear pleaseure SOME day. and if u havent gone down on a girl yet (the way i see it) that would be your first chance. and if u give u take! mate, you cant "assume" that she wont give u any.. lol are you a phsychic? do you know what the future holds me too?

no i really. i really think you should look differently. VERY rarely is it that a girl will ask you to go down on her or evern ask you to do anything.

So, i dunno. that story threw me off the chair because that is nuts lol

[gtkriss]

ok... so what should I do? Like there is just something about her... I want her still. But i think it would be weird if i told her i wanted to go down after all these months

[gtkriss]

ok. I admit it, it was a stupid mistake, what can i do to fix it though?

[Motor Eyes]

Originally Posted by gtkriss

ok... so what should I do? Like there is just something about her... I want her still. But i think it would be weird if i told her i wanted to go down after all these months

u just need to take it easy. ure nervouse about it. i dunno make up a story about your granmah or somethign that u ahd to do over those months and now u can be with her or something..
i dunno, but i think uve jsut lost her. beacuse i had to study and u threw irrelevant things in her way.
if iw as her id think u lost interest full stop. and no wander she dumped you a week later.
i think next time you sould really jsut have a go at things

[Motor Eyes]

fix it?
i think you should give her attention! show her you really like her. shell be impressed to see you a chenged person. hoenst.

[gtkriss]

.... this sucks

[gtkriss]

ok, i'll give it a go