same on this side of the field...

[imprtchk21]

okay i read the whole thread and yes i do hear what all of u are saying and yes it does make sense, all of it. yes girls are like that. but its the same over hear. let me tell u my situation: for 1 i dont rely on any male for support. im completely independent. i have a full time job, a brand new car, my own place and yes i am all there in the head. im not a slut, nor a lesbo/bi-sexual. i have no excess baggage from past relationships, nor any little ones. and for sum reason i cant seem to find any man who respects me. im good to them, completley. im totally cool with the decisions they make, i dont tell them what they can or cant do i just simply offer my advise. im not going to brag but im a good looking girl too i have no trouble finding men just finding good ones. its like there all taken or are players. im about to give up. i dont understand what it is. how hard can it be to find someone decent? never once have i been with someone and not been cheated on or skrewd over in someway. my friends tell me its because im too nice and they take advantage of that. i need ur advise on what im suppsd to do. mayb its because the good girls thnk there are no good guys left and the good guys thnk there are no good girls left so we give up all together. i done know what im suppsd to do or what im doing wrong? any feedback?

[Steel]

come over here, that's what

In all seriousness though, it's just so hard to tell from the getgo how a person really is, or what they're gonna do. And of course if you have strong feelings for them, any indication you get blinded to.i dunno, but it seems like the people "made" for each other are completley missing each other. I wasn't looking to get married to kate, but then again, i also wasn't looking to get my heart completley crushed. And during the whole relationship, I *thought* everything was fine, ya know. Heck I dated her because I was SURE that she wouldn't pull the stupid shit that she did...but..that's life. Now the whole problem is that unlike you, I DO have excess baggage, a lot of it, and it's going to take a while to get rid of it.

Keep looking i suppose. That guy will come around eventually.

[imprtchk21]

Originally Posted by Steel

come over here, that's what

In all seriousness though, it's just so hard to tell from the getgo how a person really is, or what they're gonna do. And of course if you have strong feelings for them, any indication you get blinded to.i dunno, but it seems like the people "made" for each other are completley missing each other. I wasn't looking to get married to kate, but then again, i also wasn't looking to get my heart completley crushed. And during the whole relationship, I *thought* everything was fine, ya know. Heck I dated her because I was SURE that she wouldn't pull the stupid shit that she did...but..that's life. Now the whole problem is that unlike you, I DO have excess baggage, a lot of it, and it's going to take a while to get rid of it.

Keep looking i suppose. That guy will come around eventually.

yeah i geuss so i mean i get so tired of the same old shit, ya know? its the whole "no im not like every other guy uv dated" then in the end im the one who gets played for a fool every damn time. cuz they are, and u know what? i see it way ahead of time and jus thnk to myself no hes good to me no he wldnt do that. i take him out to dinner, i take him shopping i let him drive my ride. (wldnt surprise me if he picked up some sluts in it). and u know what he has the damn nerve to ask me to borrow money when i know he has plenty of it but what do i do loan it to him anyway and not a small amnt. and what do u thnk happens do i hear from him again? nope. but i geuss thats my fault i shldve seen it coming. i dont know what to do now its hard for me to trust guys and that doesnt really help when trying to build a relationship how do i let my guard down? when it nvr fails.

[TexasF355F1]

Originally Posted by imprtchk21

okay i read the whole thread and yes i do hear what all of u are saying and yes it does make sense, all of it. yes girls are like that. but its the same over hear. let me tell u my situation: for 1 i dont rely on any male for support. im completely independent. i have a full time job, a brand new car, my own place and yes i am all there in the head. im not a slut, nor a lesbo/bi-sexual. i have no excess baggage from past relationships, nor any little ones. and for sum reason i cant seem to find any man who respects me. im good to them, completley. im totally cool with the decisions they make, i dont tell them what they can or cant do i just simply offer my advise. im not going to brag but im a good looking girl too i have no trouble finding men just finding good ones. its like there all taken or are players. im about to give up. i dont understand what it is. how hard can it be to find someone decent? never once have i been with someone and not been cheated on or skrewd over in someway. my friends tell me its because im too nice and they take advantage of that. i need ur advise on what im suppsd to do. mayb its because the good girls thnk there are no good guys left and the good guys thnk there are no good girls left so we give up all together. i done know what im suppsd to do or what im doing wrong? any feedback?

Saying that you can't rely on any male for support is only from the bad experiences you've had. I see it happening on both sides. One of my friends is going to to school from 6 in the morning till noon. Then working the rest of the day. Tries to make time for his gf and somewhere in there finds time to study. And he goes out of his way all the time for her and she doesn't appreciate him one bit. I can just see the pain and anger in him when he tells me about it. He treats his gf(of like 4 yrs) like a princess spends all the time he can and money he doesnt have on her and she really doesn't show him any appreciation for it. And when he wants to go out one night with the guys b/c if were lucky we get to hang out with him once a month b/c he's so busy, and she bitches.
But away from that there are a few of us good guys out there. My friends try and tell me to change myself and be louder and more straight forward. But thats not me and I'm not gonna change for anyone. I konw how you feel. It sucks, but I just continue to live day to day and know that fate will step in and meet a girl that doesn't piss me off to no end or just annoy me.

[Steel]

Its the eternal struggle... On the one hand, you don't want to be alone, and want to be with someone special, but on the other hand you don't wanna risk getting hurt. And you almost expect to get hurt eventually. And the longer you stay with them, the more it hurts.

<sigh> Man what a shitty semester this has been.

[imprtchk21]

Originally Posted by TexasF355F1

Saying that you can't rely on any male for support is only from the bad experiences you've had. I see it happening on both sides. One of my friends is going to to school from 6 in the morning till noon. Then working the rest of the day. Tries to make time for his gf and somewhere in there finds time to study. And he goes out of his way all the time for her and she doesn't appreciate him one bit. I can just see the pain and anger in him when he tells me about it. He treats his gf(of like 4 yrs) like a princess spends all the time he can and money he doesnt have on her and she really doesn't show him any appreciation for it. And when he wants to go out one night with the guys b/c if were lucky we get to hang out with him once a month b/c he's so busy, and she bitches.
But away from that there are a few of us good guys out there. My friends try and tell me to change myself and be louder and more straight forward. But thats not me and I'm not gonna change for anyone. I konw how you feel. It sucks, but I just continue to live day to day and know that fate will step in and meet a girl that doesn't piss me off to no end or just annoy me.

sounds to me like shes an unappreciative spoiled little bitch who doesnt know how to lift a finger for herself. but what can u do girls will be like that if there used to being spoiled thats what they expect and hes needs to break her of that.

[imprtchk21]

Originally Posted by Steel

Its the eternal struggle... On the one hand, you don't want to be alone, and want to be with someone special, but on the other hand you don't wanna risk getting hurt. And you almost expect to get hurt eventually. And the longer you stay with them, the more it hurts.

<sigh> Man what a shitty semester this has been.

thats exactly it! basically i want and party and have fun and work my on car but and at the same time i want someone to do that stuff with. its great when we have the same interests. i want so bad to have someone just to BE there ya know but dont get me wrong i am able to be alone, just dont prefer it.

[Dan_in_WA]

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Edit: Singles only. Counts me out.

[TexasF355F1]

Originally Posted by imprtchk21

sounds to me like shes an unappreciative spoiled little bitch who doesnt know how to lift a finger for herself. but what can u do girls will be like that if there used to being spoiled thats what they expect and hes needs to break her of that.

oh yea, she is spoiled. More her moms fault than her dad or step dads fault. Shes a whiner too. He's tried everything in his power to break her of that and he can't, she changed real quick when he broke up with her but once they got back together she eventually went back to her old self.

[imprtchk21]

Originally Posted by TexasF355F1

oh yea, she is spoiled. More her moms fault than her dad or step dads fault. Shes a whiner too. He's tried everything in his power to break her of that and he can't, she changed real quick when he broke up with her but once they got back together she eventually went back to her old self.

the ass must be really good if he lets her walk on him like that. its too bad because hes prolly the nice guy thats missing out on other opportunities with better girls. there are nice chicks out there ya know.

[solid]

well theres always someone for someone!!

after my real crappy split (which took awhile to get over)... i found my my girlfiend, who is really cool.. she has alot in common with me,.. and i dont like to take her money, and she dont like to take mine.. but i like to buy her stuff.. hehehe

and she got her own car and job and all,.. and so do i,.. and we have already tried living together for about 3 months,. and she cool and all!!!! its great!..

sorry if i sound like im bragging,.. but just to let you know it will work out.. just gotta wait for the right person to come along......

[imprtchk21]

Originally Posted by solid

well theres always someone for someone!!

after my real crappy split (which took awhile to get over)... i found my my girlfiend, who is really cool.. she has alot in common with me,.. and i dont like to take her money, and she dont like to take mine.. but i like to buy her stuff.. hehehe

and she got her own car and job and all,.. and so do i,.. and we have already tried living together for about 3 months,. and she cool and all!!!! its great!..

sorry if i sound like im bragging,.. but just to let you know it will work out.. just gotta wait for the right person to come along......

hey thnx i know one day i will but i jus get tired of all the shit ya know? i was jus letting u guys know that it does go both ways u may have ur opinion on the way girls are and we thnk the same about u guys. well until then bye if any of u ever wanna chat with me im here k.

[TexasF355F1]

Originally Posted by imprtchk21

the ass must be really good if he lets her walk on him like that. its too bad because hes prolly the nice guy thats missing out on other opportunities with better girls. there are nice chicks out there ya know.

He's a good guy, he's one of my best friends. He doesn't let her walk all over him b/c he tells her how it is all the time. Shes really a nice girl she just whines. He doesn't want to end it b/c he knows he can trust her 100% and thats hard to find these days. And yea there are nice chicks out there, just wish i could find one for myself, there a dime a dozen.

[Steel]

He *thinks* he can trust her 100%

For all I knew, if you asked me a few months ago, I would have "known" that I could trust kate 100%.

Sucks when they break your trust, cause it takes a long time to rebuild.

[TexasF355F1]

Originally Posted by Steel

He *thinks* he can trust her 100%

For all I knew, if you asked me a few months ago, I would have "known" that I could trust kate 100%.

Sucks when they break your trust, cause it takes a long time to rebuild.

I said he knows, not he thinks.