g/f wanted to split.

dirtydx · #1 10-21-2003, 12:22 AM

well i went out with a girl for about 1.5 years... anyways we broke up about 3 months ago. i was the one who broke it off. anyways, about 3 weeks ago we started seeing each other again. everything seemed perfect to me, so i asked her out on the 11th. just this past weekend i went to see her, and out of nowhere she wanted to break up. i had completely fell for her, and i was totally shocked by this. she said that its because of university, and she wants her freedom. but that im the guy she wants to be with, just not right now. she wanted some kind of semi relationship, at the time i thought it was total BS. but i dunno anymore. i am totally in love with her, and i dont want to lose her. i dont know if shes being totally honest with me, maybe its her nice way of telling me to get lost.

any advice or insight?

HogieGT-R · #2 10-21-2003, 12:45 AM

dude, you could love her till you're blue in the face, but calm your nuts first man.....wait a lil and if she doesn't come around, then do another thing...if you are so in love with her, then hindsight always sees 20/20 in the sense that you shouldn't have broken it off....maybe it's her way of revenge, like trying to make you sweat ya know? but i could see how she'd want to not be tied down when she's at the university, that happens, people change and grow at constant rates. if you obsess about it, you'll show her that you can be run over and basically that you don't have a spine. dude yeah you love her...are you sure that it's not a longing memory of the love that you guys had in the past? that'll happen sometimes....i've lived through that before i'm not saying to let go entirely, because that's just not right...but if she wants a break...let her have her break...and you should do constructive things to occupy your time rather than just think about her non-stop...it's not healthy my man....not healthy at all..if she comes back, then you know that it was meant to be, if not, then there are plenty of fish in the sea...

P.S: u can always PM Dr. Hogie

sameintheend01 · #3 10-21-2003, 01:41 AM

dude, just forget about it. I loved my gf too after we broke up (2 yrs.), but it was for the better. Find someone better that will appreciate you. Does she goto school far away from you? If she does, she's gonna end up seeing other people whether you are together or not. That's just how the shit works.

Steel · #4 10-21-2003, 01:44 AM

Yep. It sucks. College girls are like that. Don't do what I did and totally stress out and read into it man. you can't change what's happeneing, so why bother to think aobut it. Easier said than done, i know, but it'll come to you.

Shortbus · #5 10-21-2003, 05:17 AM

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Originally Posted by HogieGT-R

dude, you could love her till you're blue in the face, but calm your nuts first man.....wait a lil and if she doesn't come around, then do another thing...if you are so in love with her, then hindsight always sees 20/20 in the sense that you shouldn't have broken it off....maybe it's her way of revenge, like trying to make you sweat ya know? but i could see how she'd want to not be tied down when she's at the university, that happens, people change and grow at constant rates. if you obsess about it, you'll show her that you can be run over and basically that you don't have a spine. dude yeah you love her...are you sure that it's not a longing memory of the love that you guys had in the past? that'll happen sometimes....i've lived through that before i'm not saying to let go entirely, because that's just not right...but if she wants a break...let her have her break...and you should do constructive things to occupy your time rather than just think about her non-stop...it's not healthy my man....not healthy at all..if she comes back, then you know that it was meant to be, if not, then there are plenty of fish in the sea...

P.S: u can always PM Dr. Hogie

Wise words form Dr. Hogie

My wife of 10 years just bailed on me out of the blue.

You just got to get on with your life, don't wait on some divine love intervention between you two to make it all better, if it wasnt right once it won't ever be right no matter how hard you try.

Toksin · #6 10-21-2003, 06:44 AM

Wise words from all of the above.

Me? I say let it go. Put her in your spank bank and move on. It's over.

John: Sorry to hear that man

dirtydx · #7 10-21-2003, 12:30 PM

thanks guys

im starting to feel a little better. its just hard to let it all go and forget about it.

yeah shes pretty far away. about 2 1/2 hour drive. but now that i think about it, i didnt even have that much fun with her last weekend. i think i wanted the person she used to be, but that aint gonna happen.

Dan_in_WA · #8 10-21-2003, 02:22 PM

Cut your losses now. What she told you, in not so many words, is that she wants to sleep around with the guys on campus, then have you waiting in the wings when she gets tired of that scene.

Don't be a fucking idiot and fall for it! If she wanted you, she wouldn't want her "freedom". She wants her "freedom" at the university. Read between the lines - she's got an itchy crotch and no respect for you.

Steel · #9 10-21-2003, 04:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Dan_in_WA

Cut your losses now. What she told you, in not so many words, is that she wants to sleep around with the guys on campus, then have you waiting in the wings when she gets tired of that scene.

Don't be a fucking idiot and fall for it! If she wanted you, she wouldn't want her "freedom". She wants her "freedom" at the university. Read between the lines - she's got an itchy crotch and no respect for you.

Sad but true.

Oz · #10 10-21-2003, 08:51 PM

Here's my advice - lust before love ALWAYS. Find out if they're good in bed before you commit to ANYTHING (more than a maccas meal).

Steel · #11 10-22-2003, 02:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Oz

Here's my advice - lust before love ALWAYS. Find out if they're good in bed before you commit to ANYTHING (more than a maccas meal).

AMEN! I'll never make THAT mistake again!

Oz · #12 10-22-2003, 02:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Steel

AMEN! I'll never make THAT mistake again!

And who said easy chicks were bad? They're just saving me the trouble.

dirtydx · #13 10-22-2003, 03:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Dan_in_WA

Cut your losses now. What she told you, in not so many words, is that she wants to sleep around with the guys on campus, then have you waiting in the wings when she gets tired of that scene.

Don't be a fucking idiot and fall for it! If she wanted you, she wouldn't want her "freedom". She wants her "freedom" at the university. Read between the lines - she's got an itchy crotch and no respect for you.

i can see what you mean, it might be true in some cases....

but! shes not a slut. i could easily get revenge on her, but i think that would be the spineless choice. i only have two close friends in my life, and she is one of them. i dont want to hurt her or try to make her jealous. she was always there for me after i dumped her, so maybe i should do the same for her. i can see now that we weren't "meant" for each other, but i still want to have her as a good friend. i know it won't be easy, but im not running away from the problem.

LOL i cant believe u said itchy crotch. i been thinking about that word allll day long and i laugh everytime.

Dan_in_WA · #14 10-22-2003, 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by dirtydx

LOL i cant believe u said itchy crotch. i been thinking about that word allll day long and i laugh everytime.

It ain't easy being crude without being vulgar, but I give it my best shot!

Seriously; girls like that are why guys in the military will marry women from overseas. Generally speaking, a girl from some parts of Europe or Asia isn't as spoiled as her American competition. A girl from outside the US doesn't expect to be handed a fist full of credit cards and a new car for getting married! There are just a few exceptions here, and I'm lucky enough (the second time around) to have found one.

I'm back in college again, studying up for future, possible promotions. I've seen a lot of these college girls, and they are by no stretch of the imagination Wife/Mother material!!! No wonder the guys aren't getting married! These days, if the wife has a kid, you can't be sure it's yours!

Steel · #15 10-22-2003, 01:24 PM

she doesnt have to be a slut to do it. Girls forget quick. REAL quick. And as soon as they forget, they can just go on to the next guy. Hell, most likely one of your friends.

I'll be damned if I ever find a girl that can care as much for me as I for her. And the funny thing is, they always start making the "longer term plans" first.

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