How do I show my GF I love her?

[90gs]

I'm 17 and my girlfriend is also 17. We've been dating for about 5 months now and about 2 months ago I realized that I love her and I told her that, she was like "aww I love you too". She has dated some real assholes that just tried to have sex with her but she wouldn't so they broke up with her and now she is really paranoid that any guy she dates are doing the same thing. What are things I can say or do that really prove that I love her and that I'm not using her? I told her that I want to be with her forever, and I really do, but she was like "You're just saying that, you'll change your mind whenever we break up"

[TexasF355F1]

I've gotta give you props man. I dont know how much I can help but just remember you don't have to do "big" things to show her you really love her, it's the small things that count. Do surprise things. For example: something i would do is just surprise her at school with a rose(or if she has a favorite flower use that in place of the rose). IMO, I wouldn't recommend smuthering her though, I've seen that end up bad too many times. Even just take her out to a nice dinner and then somewhere yall can just walk and relax and talk, a real peaceful surrounding. Tell her everything your feeling and if that is too difficult for you to open up fully, write her a letter. That seemed to work for me the one time I did that. I hope I gave you a little help so you can create your own ways to prove you love her.

[90gs]

she goes to a different school than me and i got out early one day and drove to her school and surprised her there. ive told her everything im feeling and she got all like "awww how sweet" but then her past experiences took over and she started to worry that we would end up breaking up and that i would hate her (the way her last boyfriends ended up)

[turbo2nr]

buy her a skyline prefebaly a r-34 v-spec2 tuned by nismo to 600hp@wheels with a rb28det motor a t-88 turbo some 1000cc injectors, a fuel cell a 4 row intercooler, 4' exuhast, some 18 black spok rims, racing seats, lots of gauges, n a tien suspension , n shes love you!

(j\k)

jus do the lil things n she will see it, give her a call ever now n then to say u miss her and u love her.. and the key thing is the LISTING thing girls love it when you listen to their rambling about some other chick or their time at the mall or sumthin, u minght not care but jus act like u do n it will be all good

good luck

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[YogsVR4]

Be yourself. You can't "show" someone that you love them. Just by acting how you feel will do that.

[kaoru-tochiro]

Originally posted by 90gs
I'm 17 and my girlfriend is also 17. We've been dating for about 5 months now and about 2 months ago I realized that I love her and I told her that, she was like "aww I love you too". She has dated some real assholes that just tried to have sex with her but she wouldn't so they broke up with her and now she is really paranoid that any guy she dates are doing the same thing. What are things I can say or do that really prove that I love her and that I'm not using her? I told her that I want to be with her forever, and I really do, but she was like "You're just saying that, you'll change your mind whenever we break up"

Just pull yer pants down, turn on the salsa and git bizzy!:frog:

[dayna240sx]

Coming from a girl... If a guy is too nice to me, I will take advantage of him. You have to show her who is boss. I know it sounds messed up, but it works. A girl wants a guy to take control and be a man. If my fiance ever was too nice to me, I would think something is up. Dont try to rush things with her. If her last boyfriends were dicks to her, she is probably not ready to rush into things. Just let her know you are there for her and give her time, and she will be in your pants in no time. See, the trick is to act like you are not interested in sex, that way, she will want it even more. Girls like challenges, and when it becomes too easy, they move on.

[90gs]

she calls me every day or ill call her and we txt msg back and forth thoughout the day. we've gone to one anothers house every day for the last 78 days... we've done EVERYTHING but sex, she's willing to do that, but shes never had intercourse so shes a little hesitant, ive never said a word about it, playing it like its not all i want. she asked me "what do you think about sex?" and i said "whenever the girls ready" and thats all we've said

[KatWoman]

Ahhh to be young again hehe.

One thing that may help....and it helps keep my relationship with my fiance thriving, is to take a few days off from seeing each other. Alex and I were together about 14/7 (-10 hours for work ) for nearly 6 years. Then we split up for a little bit. I think being together all the time was too much. We needed space and time to ourselves which we had not allowed for. We gave each other free rein...if one of us had the opportunity to go out with friends without the other by all means go for it but we never really did. THings started to get a bit stagnent and we ended up splitting up for short while. We are together again but we make it a point not to see each other for a few days, we still talk on the phone for a few min during the day. But having a few days to ourselves each has been nice. He's been doing whatever he wants, and I decided to use my time to go back to school. THings couldn't be better now.

So Cliff Notes version: make it a point to have a time away here n there. A 10 minute phone call is good, but don't have a 6 hour phone date on your "days off" either.

As far as showing her you love her. Just be spontaneous and be yourself....its when people try to be something they're not that things can go awry.

[jon@af]

Originally posted by 90gs
I'm 17 and my girlfriend is also 17. We've been dating for about 5 months now and about 2 months ago I realized that I love her and I told her that, she was like "aww I love you too". She has dated some real assholes that just tried to have sex with her but she wouldn't so they broke up with her and now she is really paranoid that any guy she dates are doing the same thing. What are things I can say or do that really prove that I love her and that I'm not using her? I told her that I want to be with her forever, and I really do, but she was like "You're just saying that, you'll change your mind whenever we break up"

Actions speak louder than words my friend. From what you've said, it sounds like you do indeed love her, but from what she has experienced in the past, all she received from the other guys were words of promise and so called "love" for her. Be there for her when she needs you, do things that she wouldnt expect, make her feel as though she is the only girl on the planet, and at the same time dont just be "nicey nicey" about it. Show you are strong and very secure in your position in the relationship. What it sounds like to me is that she is still a little insecure in the relationship directly because of the past experiences she had, so it may take a while but if you give her time she will come around(hopefully). Anyways man, good luck.

[Ace$nyper]

I think due to the fact she dated some assholes she might really love you too but cause of them shes afraid that you're just playing her also even though your not. She'll catch on soon that you really do care then she can let down her "walls" she might not even know that shes doing this to you so don't get mad about it it can be frustrating sometimes. Good luck hope everything works out for you.

[90gs]

ya she sent me a txt msg a few days ago saying that she seems hesitant sometimes because she is scared of being used because of past boyfriends...

a few nights ago this took place:

her: what do you think would happen if we had sex?
me: i dont know, what do you think would happen?
her: im not sure, i dont want to mess anything up though..
me: i think it would strengthen our relationship if anything
her: yea thats sorta what i was thinking
me: *silent*
her: do you want to have sex?
me: if you do, sure..
her: i think i want to... we should wait until im on birth control though
me: ok.. i dont want to pressure you into something you dont want..
her: i think i want to, im pretty sure
me: ok
*hugs* *we go to sleep*

[Goblin]

I wish i could help u but the girls i have had in my life only end up hurting me......i hope everything works out with u guys....just dont rush anything

[taranaki]

Sounds like you are doing everything right to me.CONGRATULATIONS!You deserve to give yourself a bit more credit for your progress to date.You can't manufacture a relationship,a lot depends on things that are out of your control,but if you really believe that this is the relationship,then there are a few things that you can do to ensure that you get the most out of it.

1/Tell her

Never miss an opportunity to tell her how much you love her.Don't just keep repeating"I love you",try things like,"I'm really glad that I can be with you."Please note that "I love you" should never be used as an excuse or an argument!

2/Listen to her

There's no better way to find out what she's thinking,and how things are going.It's also a way to show respect for her,I've yet to meet a lady who doesn't like having someone they can really talk to.

3/Be honest and open with her

If you like the way things are,make sure that she knows it.If you are keen to develop the relationship further,don't be blunt about it,but do tell her honestly what you'd like to happen.It sounds like she's had a few bad experiences,so don't be surprised if you get knocked back a few times.Just be a little bit patient and don't try to force the pace beyond what she is comfortable with.

4/ respect and share her interests

If you find something that makes her happy,be it going bowling,or walking in the park,orwhatever,make yourself available to share it with her.If you can find new ways or places to indulge her hobbies,it will be appreciated.

5/be patient

The lady has had her fair share of amateurs.Show a bit of class by not rushing her or crowding her.


All sounds simple on paper,but there's no guarrantee of success.However,you seem to be taking a very mature approach to the whole idea,which will certainly work in your favour.Best of luck,only time will tell your destiny.

[Jimster]

I have been in your situation many times before- and I will back you up you you say it isn't easy- but personally I think I couldn't be doing it better than you are if I tried- so full props to you.

Hoever- being open is a MUST- you must make sure that she knows you are no pressuring her- always say whats on your mind if it is relevant- also don't use birth control- they have far too high a chance of not working in comparisions to the trusty old rubber.