What do you consider as "CHEATING" in a relationship?

[vinnym86]

Originally Posted by Raz_Kaz

Simple.


Whatever you and your other significant other feel is cheating applies both ways. If he/she gives you shit for flirting with other guys/girls, then there is no goddamn reason as to why he/she can get away with it.


No "if's" "and's" or "but's"

imo, that's the best answer yet. in the begining of a relationship, you should lay it down what the line is, and what happens if you cross it.

[kicker1_solo]

Originally Posted by vinnym86

and what happens if you cross it.

to me, once that trust is broken it's completely over. I've been in a relationship where my trust was broken and it left me always wondering what she was doing, where she was at, who she was with. Always doubts in my mind, and that is not a way to live life. So she's thrown to the curb if she fucks up even once!

[vinnym86]

Originally Posted by kicker1_solo

to me, once that trust is broken it's completely over. I've been in a relationship where my trust was broken and it left me always wondering what she was doing, where she was at, who she was with. Always doubts in my mind, and that is not a way to live life. So she's thrown to the curb if she fucks up even once!

me too, i'm anal about trust. i mean, i'll have a lot of trust and faith in my girl, but if i find something out on my own that she's been hiding, something big, its over. end of story. no reset button, no extra life. game over, man, GAME OVER!

However... If she was able to come up to me, tell me something that she did, and it was something big, i'd "look into the situation". i mean, it really would shatter trust, and trust is something almost impossible to build back... but it can be done.

[Raz_Kaz]

Originally Posted by kicker1_solo

To me, almost anything is cheating. I'm an extremely jealous and protective person. Kissing would be out of line, even flirting doesn't fly with me. My chick is and will be into me and only me. If she's not then she's gone, there are plenty of other girls that can be. Most of the girls I have been with know how I am and usually turn out to have the same standards as I do.

Now there are always exceptions to this. I know a guy I work with who has a wife and kids and alos a girl friend who he has known for 40+ years. He talks to her as if she's married to him, flrist with her etc.. Never have they kissed or even touch each other in an unfriendly manner. I mean if the wife doesn;t mind, I mean he's known the friend longer than the wife, then I don't see how that's a problem.

Then you're in a situation where you are being too controllive. If your significant other is talking to another person, does not mean it's cheating. Flirting is the grey line some people have issues with. When your with a person, there is no rule book that you can go back to and check if something is ok...don't break it off because of the first incident cuz they never knew it was against the rules. If you've told them that them flirting makes you uncomfortable, or just plain pisses you off then if they truely respect you, they could stop that behaviour at anytime.

kicker1_solo, I forsee hypocricy in the future with your rule of thumb. Not saying it will happen for sure, but the chances are good. No one in life is perfect, there will be fuck-ups...there are somethings that can be classified as a fuck up and some that cannot. Now if you come across someone who you hold dear to you, you found your soulmate and the two of you go steady for a couple of years, then you catch them flirting with someone. Now are you the type of person to throw away years of love, everything you had with the person because they were caught flirting? I highly doubt that something like that means the end of a relationship.

Now some people will catch their significant other sleeping with someone else and forgive them. This I find to be unacceptable no matter the circumstances. Drugs and alcohol are no excuse to break some rules, I see this just like the law. If you are speeding you get a fine, if you are speeding AND drunk...you're done.

[longlivetheZ]

Cheating = A) doing something you wouldn't want the other person to know about, or
B) doing something you wouldn't want THEM doing

Depends on the relationship. If your girl doesn't care if you go out and get your winky sucked by half the population of the US, then don't be surprised if she's out sucking winkies and/or playing some good ol' games of muff diving. If you're cool with that, more power to ya.

[sameintheend01]

you guys got it all wrong. it's cheating if SHE kisses someone, but it's cheating only when i fuck someone else. and even then, i don't give a shit and i'll do it anyways. just my 2 cents.

[kicker1_solo]

Originally Posted by Raz_Kaz

kicker1_solo, I forsee hypocricy in the future with your rule of thumb. Not saying it will happen for sure, but the chances are good. No one in life is perfect, there will be fuck-ups...there are somethings that can be classified as a fuck up and some that cannot. Now if you come across someone who you hold dear to you, you found your soulmate and the two of you go steady for a couple of years, then you catch them flirting with someone. Now are you the type of person to throw away years of love, everything you had with the person because they were caught flirting? I highly doubt that something like that means the end of a relationship.

I wasn't meaning to say that it would be over for flirting. Flirting just doesn't fly with me. If I see my chick flirting we are gonna have words, and this has happened in the past. What I was trying to say is that once someone cheats on me, it's over. Cheating to me is defined as any act of touching someone of another sex in a passionate way. When I'm in a relationship I know my girl very well, how she is, how she acts, and I know all of her friends and how she acts with them. So I can tell when there is or isn't something to be worried about.

[AlmostStock]

Cheating? As long as you're wearing a condom you're technically not touching!

Seriously, like some have already said, almost any show of affection that your partner would not approve of can be considered cheating. If I caught my wife cheating (no matter the magnitude) I would try to fix the relationship. Immediately throwing everything away is not an option.

[quteasabutton]

i say flirting A LITTLE is ok because it's just flirting. my bf and i went to different schools and i never worried about other girls and him because i trusted him to do the right thing. one day some girl 3 years younger started flirting with him all the time. i didn't care cuz, haha bitch, he's with me and not you. but then when she started touching him and showing him her thong *in school too* then i told him enough was enough.
kissing and beyond is definetely cheating. ur boyfriend(or in everyone else's case girlfriend) is becoming physical/intimate with someone that isn't you and that isn't fair or right. if you or ur other feels the need to go be doing that stuff with someone else, there are problems in your relationship that need to be addressed. cheating is wrong.

[kicker1_solo]

Originally Posted by quteasabutten

i say flirting A LITTLE is ok because it's just flirting. one day some girl 3 years younger started flirting with him all the time. i didn't care cuz but then when she started touching him and showing him her thong

And this is why I don't like my women flirting with other guys, because flirting leads to other things that I do not approve of.

[justmebackhome]

Why I'd say buyin a new truck and then tell her to screw herself if she ask to drive it ... I thought this was a automotive form not a chat room..

[Muscletang]

Sounds to me like some of you could shit a diamond if you stuck a lump up coal up your ass. That's how stressed you sound when talking about this.

Listen, if somebody is going to cheat, they're going to cheat. There's not really a damn thing you can do about it because they're going to do it if they have it set in their mind that they're going to.

With that said, why go and raise hell with something as little as flirting?

"Oh but that'll lead to.."

Not an excuse in my book. What you're saying is "I don't trust my girl unless they're under my thumb."

Why shit a brick if your girl smiles at somebody while saying "hi"? Are you that bad of a boyfriend that you're afriad your woman is going to turn on you the second you're not looking?

[justmebackhome]

That is my scentaments xactly!

[vinnym86]

Originally Posted by justmebackhome

Why I'd say buyin a new truck and then tell her to screw herself if she ask to drive it ... I thought this was a automotive form not a chat room..

wtf??? its off-topic, dude.

[BleedDodge]

Cheating to me is probably when she cooks a TV dinner instead of a real meal...