Hows your Love Life

[KatWoman]

SE-R I read your last post, but wasn't quite clear....did she and her new partner break up and now she's coming back or is she still with him and wanting to meet up with you for whatever reason??

If she has broken up with the other guy and is now coming back to you, be careful. Who knows what kind of game she is trying to play.

If she is still with the other guy but is now calling you and wanting to meet up....steer clear and find something else to keep you occupied. You obviously are very stressed out by this whole thing, and too much stress is not healthy.

I may be completely wrong here, but the way I am perceiving things from your posts, sounds like she is playing games with you. And what sucks is girls that do that give all us girls a bad name. I guess I am one of the few that doesn't believe in f***ing around with people's emotions. As for the few guys I dated before I met Alex, once it was over, it was over period. Most of the time I was the dumpee but I never made an effort to try to lure them back. There were 2 that wanted to restart things but I told them they made their choice the first time around. And the ones that I did let go, I never tried to make an effort to keep contact with them because by doing that, it only leaves the wounds open for more hurt. The ones I did let go, the breakup was on bad terms anyway, so I had no reason to keep in touch.


It does suck that 3 years was invested into the relationship only to turn out this way, but if it is not meant to be forever, it is better to find out now rather than get married and have an ugly divorce down the road. And yes, it will still hurt for a bit, but life is not over.

Like others have said, find stuff to do to keep occupied. Use your "free" time to do things you like, like work on your car for example. Hang with the guys. Do the things you enjoy but can't do when tied up in a relationship. Enjoy free time while it lasts.

Hope something I said in here helps a bit

[Sanchi]

Thankx everyone for you advice, ohh KatWoman she didnt break up with her current guy friend i guess. i stayed clear away from that topic, and he was calling her cell like mad the whole time i was over there as well, which only means they were still seeing each other or something. She never picked up though, i felt bad for him, so after 2 hours i left and let him talk to her again... BAH.

But she said it was hard haveing me on her mind err something whiles with him. Anyway's im gona keep my kewl, and not go bonkers:jump: over this, its not like she realy knows what she wants in life anyways. Ill save my money and stop spending it on her and BUY my new car this YEAR!!!!(i better)

It's strange when u want something back and u cant realy have it back, but if you do get it back it wont ever be the same. It's just hard to let go of someone when you have so much feelings for them, and especialy when you have expericed so much with them as well. :cry:

[HogieGT-R]

POWER TO YOU MY FRIEND!!!! the ball just might be in your court man, what happened to me once was that i had an ex girlfriend who wanted me back, but before she wouldn't give me the time of day and she literally used me....hell when she wanted it back i stuck it to her...when things like this happen to me i turn to music and use it as my therapy...there's a song by KoRn that totally fits this moment man..if you listen to it..it might just make you feel better it's called Devine...it's basically about the ex girlfriend wanting the guy back...but now the guy has all the power and he makes her realize that she lost him and that it could have been special, but she ruined it....everytime i listen to this song, i feel happier :evillaugh :evillaugh :evillaugh :evillaugh :evillaugh :evillaugh :evillaugh

[Steel]

Originally posted by SE-R WolfPac
It's strange when u want something back and u cant realy have it back, but if you do get it back it wont ever be the same. It's just hard to let go of someone when you have so much feelings for them, and especialy when you have expericed so much with them as well. :cry:

ohh! finally someone to nail it on the head! i know EXACTLY how you feel,man, so much so that i almsot wanna cry.....'course listening to "Mama i'm comin' home" while thinking about her doesnt help...but damn. Now you know im going to come to bug you Wolf everytime some thing "bad" happens (or "even worse" i should say, looking at the history of my love life).

[KatWoman]

Originally posted by SE-R WolfPac

But she said it was hard haveing me on her mind err something whiles with him.

*COUGH* MANIPULATE *COUGH* Red flag right there. Don't let statements like this keep you on the edge of your seat...more torture right there. Like you said, it's not like she knows what she wants, so steer clear and free yourself from this emotional game. Take some time for yourself to make YOU know what YOU want for yourself. It does take time for a broken heart to heal, but if you keep returning to the source of the pain or let the source keep rearing its head every so often, it will take longer.

[Sanchi]

Originally posted by Steel

ohh! finally someone to nail it on the head! i know EXACTLY how you feel,man, so much so that i almsot wanna cry.....'course listening to "Mama i'm comin' home" while thinking about her doesnt help...but damn. Now you know im going to come to bug you Wolf everytime some thing "bad" happens (or "even worse" i should say, looking at the history of my love life).

np bro, we can swap stories and punch each other for makeing stuped moves. This game of love real sux, but i think im over her. I actruly think im capable of just being good friends with her with out me wanting more than that. hummmm ohh but i wana, i wana, iwana!!!

Do your ex always look better when u guys break up for a while

HEHE but ya KatWoman i can read her like a book... most of the time. The only problem is that can i keep my hands off... do i have to ... even if i know its not gona go anywhere.

[Damien]

SE-R WolfPac , i know exactly what's going on with you. The same thing is happening with me and this one girl. The difference is that her friends broke us up and she totally hated me. Now, she's playing some mind games with me. It's annoying, but i really like her and i'm willing to deal with it. I never got her, but, I'm sure that every guy that has posted a response to you, knows how to heal from a relationship but will never know what girls think and how to deal with them. Be yourself, be cool, and see what happens. :sun:

[Sanchi]

AY thankx Damien,

ohh btw welcom aboard AF... this is a great place we have our little missunderstandings but were all human

anyhoot... thankx for bringing my thread back to life but ya lifes a B.I.T.C.H. sometimes. Wish my ex talked to her friends about us. They love me, so does her family. I guess things just didnt work out. happy to say im bout over her now. and life's turning around slowly but steadly. Meet old friends that i havent seen since high school, started going out again with friends and just chilling. i still get her phone calls, and get all gay about it but im realizing how much she has to grow up before she understands anything. but we'll see.

So hit me up anytime if u gots any problems, love a good chat, weather through pm's or out side AF. And this goes for everyone on AF, u guys have been a great bunch, being here has helped me get through stress at work and at life

So thankx again for your words Damien...