Dating Today. Debate.

[DVSNCYNIKL]

Originally posted by Twist
I guess what it comes down to is who are you dating: the girl (in my case) or her stuff?

Good analogy!

[AP20thMax]

No one cares about money unless your some spoiled punk born with a silver spoon in your mouth. Your social and economic status really doesn't matter, at least not where I'm from. Maybe the rich only marry or date the rich, I don't know - I'm a blue collared, middle class guy and am damn proud of it! My girlfriend doesn't have a lot of money and thats fine. She is from a lower class, thats fine too. She can't even afford her car insurance right now. I like supporting her though. She is a complete sweet heart and my family loves her. I have been dating my girlfriend for 16 months and we love each other to death. We do everything together, from going to Church, to going to Bears games, to playing with our cars, to studying, to watching movies. Who cares what anyone else thinks, all that matters is that you are happy and that she makes you happy.

[DVSNCYNIKL]

Originally posted by AP20thMax
No one cares about money unless your some spoiled punk born with a silver spoon in your mouth. Your social and economic status really doesn't matter, at least not where I'm from. Maybe the rich only marry or date the rich, I don't know - I'm a blue collared, middle class guy and am damn proud of it! My girlfriend doesn't have a lot of money and thats fine. She is from a lower class, thats fine too. She can't even afford her car insurance right now. I like supporting her though. She is a complete sweet heart and my family loves her. I have been dating my girlfriend for 16 months and we love each other to death. We do everything together, from going to Church, to going to Bears games, to playing with our cars, to studying, to watching movies. Who cares what anyone else thinks, all that matters is that you are happy and that she makes you happy.

Good for you!! Appreciate what she has.

[SkYLiNeFrEaK]

Originally posted by AP20thMax
No one cares about money unless your some spoiled punk born with a silver spoon in your mouth. Your social and economic status really doesn't matter, at least not where I'm from. Maybe the rich only marry or date the rich, I don't know - I'm a blue collared, middle class guy and am damn proud of it! My girlfriend doesn't have a lot of money and thats fine. She is from a lower class, thats fine too. She can't even afford her car insurance right now. I like supporting her though. She is a complete sweet heart and my family loves her. I have been dating my girlfriend for 16 months and we love each other to death. We do everything together, from going to Church, to going to Bears games, to playing with our cars, to studying, to watching movies. Who cares what anyone else thinks, all that matters is that you are happy and that she makes you happy.

I wish i had a GF, I'm sad:cry:

[redvalkrie]

Well I guess I will put down some of my experiences.



The model: This was one of my fantasy girls I wanted to sack! She was Russian/Ukranian She modeled in Russia, NY & California. She wa state champ in Tennis turnaments, boy was she hot, 5years with her & the only good memory's I have are the sex other than that her personality & all around her was not worth getting married even though at the time I thought she was the time.
The last 2 years of that relationship I started analyzing what it was about it that attracted me to her: could it have been her measurments 36dd 26 32 athletic built with her beuty coming from the likes of Cathrine Zeta Jones. She was smart, shit smarter than me an A+ student that Graduated early from H.S. she was snoughty big time, if you didn't agree with her you are an idiot plain out the truth!
I saw her 2 years ago @ the mall, I was a sweating mess, I was nervouse, she gave me a hug told me that she missed me & went by my house frequently looking for me, I told her I had moved in with friends. She got fat and from what I heard she was in rehab for carck!

The money girl Wow this was an adventure we did everything, went every were & I got what I wanted! But the one thing she couldn't buy is my longing for an equal a love! That ended in friendship she bage3d a friend of mine they moved to hawaii & from what I heard she moved to another guy!

The poor girl This was hard, even though I started to care for her she split on me, she told me that she felt her situation would hinder my life(growing). I heard she married & are doing well!

Another model Man this one was fine as hell, I couldn't go to the mall with her with out some one trying to kick my ass 2 get to her.
Details on her Black/Japanesse stats 34 26 36 ver curvy & very sexual appetite to match, Her beauty made ever little thing about her disappeared I was alwasy telling her how fine she was & she was always dragging me to photo shoots. Then one day she confessed she was seeing a a doctor for phycological problems, she felt that she was always being held down & that all black men wanted to rape her & abuse her very long story, she turned out to be psycho.
I would be at base ball game in the out field she would show up in her convertible saleen yelling for me in the middle of the inning that we had to go she needed some sex before we left for jamaica for the photo shoot. she would cry & make a huge scene infront of everybody till she got her way! I RANNNNNNNNNNNNN! for my life on this one!


My wondering After that happened I would just go clubing pick up a girl sleep with her see her 2 more time & dump her, this went on for almost 3 years.

The one I married
I would post BBQ meets in a popular chat room that used to hang out at to meet people in auagust of 1998 I had some strange e-mails from several girls asking me what I was wearing @ these BBQ I replyed.
This one BBQ 3 girls came to me asking If I was J I said yes they wanted to go out, I told them I was in a dificult time & wasn't sure how I would treat them, all left but one girl that hardly had talk to me the whole time we were @ the BBQ stayed & helped me clean she asked if she could see me again & I said yes, we talked she listened, she was very preocupied with me she asked if I would mind if she kissed me, it happened! Form that day everything I needed she was laways there through bad or good she wouldn't go away know we are married it has been a 1year 3months since we got married & she stands by me 100% even if I'm wrong she will make it right!

I came to realize, that no matter how beutiful/ the girl/guy maybe there are always flaws wich that persone beleives because of there beuty that every one has to put up with there shit to be with them.
Beuty does go to your head!

No matter what advise I give to anybody my best advice is learn from your own mistakes! We learn from doing!

[gang$tarr]

Originally posted by AP20thMax
No one cares about money unless your some spoiled punk born with a silver spoon in your mouth. Your social and economic status really doesn't matter

it does for me
i wish it didn't, but it does.... it's not my fault that i'm born into this

anyway, I'll be looking for something serious maybe in a couple years... right now i don't care if it's serious or not, cause it's all about fun. I'm too young to marry any girl i meet, and i probably won't marry any girl i meet this young. So know i just feed the snake


When did you guys loose your virginity?

[speediva]

And notice that everyone ran for their lives on that note...

[Seraph]

Well I also don't really consider financial status important. The most important things in a girl for me is intellegence and looks. This is probably why my g/f's so far have been mostly asian and Russian .
I couldn't care less about her monthly income, unless she comes from a family of chronic dolebludgers and crack smokers (which would contradict with the intelegence factor). Basically we need to be able to communicate on the same level and share some common interests. She also needs to be attractive, otherwise she'll just end up becoming my best friend...
I'm not planning to marry any time soon, because I doubt I can keep up the commitment but if I did, I would never marry someone for their money if I didn't like the person, I can't imagine what sh!t life would be if I had to wake up every morning next to some b!tch I didnt even like, and know that I'm living off the mother and father in law and havent made anything of myself....
Likewise if I really liked her but she was poor and I had to pay her electricity bill, I would do it of course. Money shouldn't get in the way.
If it did, it would mean that the relationship isn't worth having anyway. " Yeah baby, I really love you and you're the best thing that ever happened to me but the $ 75 is a bit too much so goodbye"
As for what other people think, thats the whole problem with this society, everyone is too scared of what others would think, they try so hard to conform, its pathetic. I witness it every single day, and it so ridiculous, it cracks me up. They all want to look the same, they are afraid to be individual because theyre scared others would judge.
So no I don't believe money is a factor in a relationship. However I heard this thing on the radio about 2 weeks ago, where 60% of women surveyed admitted that the reason they initially hooked up with their boyfriends was because they liked their cars...I think there should be more opinions from the ladies posted on here..Too bad theres only a few of them here

[gang$tarr]

Originally posted by saturntangerine
And notice that everyone ran for their lives on that note...

my life is hard in some ways
IT'S NOT MY FAULT!!
just because i was born into a family like this, if i brought home some girl that lives in a not well off area then my parents would be concerned and wouldn't like it, plus all the social things (like country club) would be weird
like i said it's not my fault... but this doesn't really happen cause i never go to any places where i'd meet girls that are much lower class than my family

but this only applies to serious relationships, i've had lots of one night things with like lower-middle class girls....

[DVSNCYNIKL]

Originally posted by gang$tarr


my life is hard in some ways
IT'S NOT MY FAULT!!
just because i was born into a family like this, if i brought home some girl that lives in a not well off area then my parents would be concerned and wouldn't like it, plus all the social things (like country club) would be weird
like i said it's not my fault... but this doesn't really happen cause i never go to any places where i'd meet girls that are much lower class than my family

but this only applies to serious relationships, i've had lots of one night things with like lower-middle class girls....

Not downplaying your lifestyle or your choices. But I would hate to see if by some miracle you meet someone that you really, really, reeeallly like and you fall in love to the point that you don't care about anything else. Only to find out later, she's not in the same category, tax bracket as you. I know you're young and speak only with the experience that you currently have. Also, since you're really not looking into a serious realtionship you tend to look the other way. One day though, it will happen, and when it does, I would like to see exactly how much influence your lifestyle, parents, etc. have over the decisions you make.

[AP20thMax]

You're right. In a way, its not your fault. But in another way, it is. You could stand up to your family.

I think you are really missing out too. Those rich girls are snobby and they aren't the girls you want. They expect lots of money to be thrown at them - fur, diamonds, cars. Its a lot different with the middle and lower class girls. They work hard and they appreciate everything you give them. They know the value of the dollar and I think they are more genuine and sincere. But I know where you are coming from too. A lot of times, classes don't mix and it could be hard to meet a middle class girl. Besides at school, I have no idea when I even come in contact with rich girls.

My point is try not to judge people based on their class and financial status.

[gang$tarr]

Originally posted by AP20thMax

I think you are really missing out too. Those rich girls are snobby and they aren't the girls you want. They expect lots of money to be thrown at them - fur, diamonds, cars.

whoa, you don't have to stereotype, none of my girl friends are snobby (atleast not to me)
and we're too young to be buying stuff like that... their parents provide them with cars, jewellery, etc.

I'm not really missin out cause i've been with lots of middle-class girls, i just haven't dated them... just sexual relations

DVS: it's not my choice, it's the social way i was raised and how everybody is around me, bet by the time i get in a serious relationship and i REALLY love the girl i'm with... i probably won't give a shit anymore. plus alotta middle class girls dress the same as upper class , so it wouldn't be that noticable. I'll keep you posted, lol

[speediva]

GS: I should have quoted your thing so you knew what I was mocking. I was poking fun at your inquiry about virginity...

[gang$tarr]

i mean at like what age did people loose it

[speediva]

GS: isn't that just a bit too awkward of a question to be asking? That's what I've been getting at all along...