Need Advice

[mike@af]

Originally Posted by ViperJ

Yeah, well as happy as I am with this new girl its time to get the fuck out. I really thought she was different (in a good way). She and here ex are still friends (they went out for like 2 years) and she went to house on Friday with some friends, (anyone see a problem comming up???). Turns out she made out with him, and did cocaine... Yeah I knew she did drugs and is going on the 1st to get cleaned up... But I think its time to call it good and walk away.

On a side note the girl I was talking about in the begining of this thread showed up at my friends house yesterday and came over. She wanted to talk and turns out she wants to get back together... Yeah its been a crappy last week or so..

Sorry to hear about the new girl.

Anyway, about your ex. If you two are going to get back together then you need to set things straight before anything happens. Ground rules so to speak. Good luck man.

[poormillionaire2]

Damn, this sort of sounds like my last break up. My ex broke up with me because she felt she needed to be single for awhile. 2 weeks later, she had a new b/f. And what the kicker is, there was a rumor going around (we work together) about a month before, that someone saw her kissing some other guy. I don't know about you, but I consider that cheating. She said she didn't and I believed her. Now, she in a relationship with the same guy. But she realized that I treated her better and she wanted me back, and now I just ignore her. Why do women do that? They cause men too many headaches.

[XeVeNskyLiNE]

^I'm almost in the same spot man. My ex and I took a break up after I moved, but we kept intact but she wanted to stay single because she didn't want to have boyfriend and wanted to concentrate on her life. So the whole time I was thinking we'd get back sooner or later, just to find out on Christmas Fucking Day that she was up the night before till 5AM talking to some guy that she likes now. I said my last words and that was it, I know I treated her better than this guy will, but its whatever you know. Someone else will come along.

Girls are dogs, especially the ones around 18-21. I cringe everytime I hear a girl talk about how badly a guys treated them, yet when they have a good one they pass up on them.

[poormillionaire2]

Yeah, some women trick themselves into thinking that they're in a good relationship with a good guy, when they're not. Its insane, then they don't see the good ones when the come by. Has anyone figured out if women are worth it or not?

[XeVeNskyLiNE]

Oh they're definitely worth it, I've never questioned that. Its just a matter of finding the right one. Cuz when everything's good in the relationship, its unforgettable, but when shit hits the fan, thats what the difference in between a girl you'll keep and one you'll just give the bird and move on.

[ViperJ]

Originally Posted by poormillionaire2

...that someone saw her kissing some other guy. I don't know about you, but I consider that cheating.

I don't care if it was a friendly kiss or what, its still considered cheating to me. Its not as bad as sleeping with someone but still... I don't know if its to much to ask for but I want someone who is faithful. I would trade a supermodel for some who isn't as hot and is faithful. Relationships are based on one thing, "Trust". And if you don't have that then you dont have a relationship in my opion. I have tried to makes some work without trust but all you do is secondguess the person, it aint worth it...

Just my 2cents

[poormillionaire2]

Originally Posted by ViperJ

I don't care if it was a friendly kiss or what, its still considered cheating to me. Its not as bad as sleeping with someone but still... I don't know if its to much to ask for but I want someone who is faithful. I would trade a supermodel for some who isn't as hot and is faithful. Relationships are based on one thing, "Trust". And if you don't have that then you dont have a relationship in my opion. I have tried to makes some work without trust but all you do is secondguess the person, it aint worth it...

Just my 2cents

I completely, totally, and 100 percent agree with you. If you don't have trust, you don't have shit. Because you spend all the time that you're not with that person, worrying and wondering what the hell they are doing. Trust and honesty are huge factors, IMO.

[ghostrx7]

trust comes first...