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I had posted before, but I was in a hurry and coudln't write what I really wanted. So I'm editing this post and rewriting it.
I am around gays/lesbians/bi's fairly often. Me and my husband are swingers, but both of us are straight. We're just really open people and don't ahve jealousy/possessive issues. But a lot of people who swing are bi, and it took us (mainly him) a while to get used to it. Now its not a problem at all, we just had to accept it. And we just always set ground rules really quick. Like if we go somewhere and a guy tries to hit on him or a chick on me, we'll like right away make it clear that we're straight and they understand immediately usually. And if they don't we will flat out tell them.
I guess to accept it yourself just takes time and understanding and realization that they are truly still the same person they were before. And I have to agree with the others, you really need to set boundaries. If him bringing a friend dressed as a woman really upsets everyone he needs to understand that even though you accept him for who he truly is he can't be doing that and upsetting everyone. That there are some things that his family just won't be able to see, such as that. at least for right now.
But for yourself, it just takes time and patience and understanding. And please do try to refrain from calling him names in anger. Once you can feel 100% normal with him then maybe joking around and stuff is cool as long as he isn't offended of course by calling him names when joking around.
Last edited by FairyDust; 12-06-2004 at 02:43 AM.
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